The evening world. Newspaper, May 10, 1922, Page 25

FAMOUS Future Wars. ‘Then Retract It. * By Betty Vincent. The Evening World’s Authority, on Courtship and Marriage. | ‘OW jong should a young man and @ young woman be ac quainted before they become engaged? i To name six months, a year or pos- sibly two years for each and every, Man and gir) would be absurd. The length of time couples should be ac- Quainted before announcing their en- Bagement depends, of course, upon the man and the girl. Youth, finan- cial fitness, consent of guardians and Darents, ability to judge character ‘and to be certain you have met “the right man” or “the right girl’? all play, their part before the engage- ment ring should appear upon the young woman's third finger of her left hand and the cards announcing the @lad tidings are sent out into the ‘world. ft in eafe to say that three weeks er two months is entirely too short @ time to know each other and form even so binding a contract &s an engagement. It always seems much better to be & Iittle slow in pledging yourself to enother than to hastily announce a betrethal and then retract it. The Biri who has “‘jilted”’ one or two chaps tefore marriage never seems quite Qs weet and interesting a bride as the girl who whispers ‘“‘yes'’ for the first time and clings to it. This is alse true of a young man. No girl feels quite as happy to marry a man who bas broken off with Dolly and Kate and Helen, before actually marrying and eettling down. He can say that ‘was a spendthrift, Kate flirted ‘other men and Helen told him many fibs he just had to bust up the engagement, but after all it would have been #0 much better if he had never been engaged at Therefore, it is advisable for both the man and the girl to be sure of each other before they announce their engagement. Six months may seem & very short time to be engaged, but ‘where young couples live near each other and are able to spend two or three evenings together this really wuuld give them quite an opportunity to test each other out. However, it seems to me u year's time is better stifl, There is nothing like ‘‘winter- frg@ and summering’’ an engagement. ‘The young man or young ‘weman whe might be very at- tractive te each other during the eummer and spring menths might @row te detest cach other if they knew each other through winter and fall. Summer brings outdoor life, jong moonlight evetiings with romance and love written in the air. A man does mot have to be a good conversation- alist in the summer time; he does not have to know what's what in Uterature, current events or who's who in New York. If he can row, swim, hike, dance and make love he is the average summer girl's heroine. But how would this summer boy appear in the drawing room, at the theatre and before an open grate fire some long winter evening? If a girl extends her six months’ engagement to.a year would ill be as fond of Jack of Bill or Harry? If she is, well and good, her “summer lad’ has lived up to a thorough “wintering and summering.”’ «Then, there is the man’s side of it. ‘ The summer girl, with all her surh- Mer wardrobe, from her bewitching dance frocks to her bathing suit, is the most winsome, adorable creature ef Fs in,the world. But how about the Winter months? Isn't it better for the young manyto spend the long, gray evenings of winter with her and Bee if she is as adorable besite a Grete fire as she wxs upon the beach or in a Gainty canoe, with the tips of her fiiigers trailing in the water? tm the case of very young coupl say those eighteen or twenty, an en- ent two or three years is The young man who weds be- fore he reaches his majority is most unwise. And the young woman who marries before she 1s at least eighteen or nineteen is taking a most risky fing at life, And yet this is the age one frequently meets THE ONE AND SNLY MAN or THE ONE AND ONLY “ARL. . Easy love is apt to be sincere and tr, The very youtig man loves the Very young girl because she is beaut!- ful to him, because she appeals to him, Because sho ts his “frst girl.” And the vety yo girl loves the very young man use he is her ideal of what a Gig 8 hould be, because he is manly w first bea People often call this 4 yy love,” but in many cases it fs the truest, best love which ever enters the heart of a young man or @ young girl. f ‘While it would be most unwise for these very young sweethearts to Marry this ig «case where a long acquaintance ig absolutely necessary. FLORENCE NIGHTINGALE Was a British Army Nurse Who, When War Was Declared With Russia in 1850, Went. to Constantinople With 34 Nurses and Afterward, With Sub- scribed Funds, Formed a Nurses’ Training Institution for WOMEN Another Than to Hastily Announce a Betrothal and Fond fathers and mothers may whis- per “They Have known each other ®0 long I know they will tire off ‘each other” and while this may be true in many cases if the couple can Prove that their acquaintance of several years has brought thém closer together surely every one (parents and friends included) feels certain of their love when at last the engagement is announced. But in the case of older coupies, gay from twenty-fivé to thirty, {t seems to me that one well rounded out year ought to be sufficient time to know each other in order to an- nounce the engagement. . At this age both the man and ffe girl should be able to judge character, to know what they expect ’from each other and t6 know their own hearts. When a young woman reachet the age of twenty-five or over and a young man hae called upon her for over a year she is per- fectly justified expecting a declaration of his love. They have been acquainted long enough to become engaged. Even fhough the man ts financially unfit or has a widowed mother to support, he has taken up enough of the young woman's time and atten- How Long Should a Couple Be Acquainted _. 2 Before They Become Engaged ? © Second in a Series of Three Special Articles on Courtship and Marriage by Betty Vincent Better to Be a Little Slow in Pledging Yolirself to Be oma © ‘4 Very Young Couples Should Know Each Other Two or Three Years, While Older Couples Should Reach a Decision Within a Year. tion to at least announce his inten- tion of marriage in the near future. And unless the: friendship began merely as @ platonic affair a young woman who desires to marty is jus- tified in giving up the friendship of the man who does not become en- gaged within this time, especially if he paid her all the attentions of a devoted suitor. Ever\ friendship between a man New York Ew Cupyright. 1922, Why Not Look Your Best? By Doris Doscher ning World) by Press Publishing Co. HOW DO YOU WALK AND WHERE? T needs no great urging on my part | to get you to take a walk at this time of the year, I watched the other’ day a group of girls who sald they were going for a walk. They started out with « good, brisk galt They were going up Fifth Avenue and walk through the park, but the spring display the shop windows tempted them in side and = sd0n what had prom, ised to be a prof- itable afternoon spent by walking in the park was lost’ in a revelry of shopping. I left them at the second shop and went on my way alone. I thought the while of all‘of you and I wondered {f your good inten- tions of health building and beauty seeking were as easily diverged from the regime you ‘had laid out for your- self. You cannot conscientiously say that you have taken a walk for the exercise and health to be gotten out of it if you stop by the wayside and continually go indoors, The walk must be brisk and the path must be as near the uncrowded city streets as possible, where the air is purer and the eye has a chance to roam over u farther range of vision. How you walk determines * almost entirely the ammount of good you get sport. The body held in such a-position that ch step the weight ts thrown from foot to the other, ‘There hus be a natural stride, wide enough uly exercise the Hmbs at each * your step and the ball of the weight, but the finished movement should biing into play every muscle and bone of the entire foot, Most im- portant of all, the chest must be held well up. Learn to breathe deeply and evenly while you do this walking nue nly compensate You not o: hb and a brighter outlooeon life, but your entire appearance will be improved. Muscles that are bound by your confinement indoors have in this brisic walking an opportunity for exertise under the most congenioal circum- stances—more than would be poasiple with systematic exercises tndoors, You also. form the good habit of proper breathing under the most ideal conditions. When you add to that the inspiration that a little time spent outdoors is bound to give you, you é from this outdoor must be with 3 one swing th ust bear nét oniy that The Summer Wardrobe, is the Most World, and the Man Then Does Not Ilave to Be a Conversationalist to Be [ler Hero. and a girl is individual case, But it is safe to say that very young couples should know each other two or three years while the older couples ought to be able to announce thelr engagement within a year's time. A third article—How Long En- gaged Before Married?—will be pub- lished on this page soon. Girl, With All Her Summer Adorable Creature in the But Would Either of Them Stand the Test of the Dragging Winter Evenings When the Glamour of Summer Days Is but a Fading Memory? 4 MAY sie na ~ YOU SURPRISED SURPRISED 10, 1922, in| HAve You HEARD I'M GIOING; TS rn aS wy Be MARRIED FIRST AMERICAN PLAYWRIGHT .The First Play By an American Author Ever Produced in American Theatre Was “The Prince of Partia” by Godfrey, Jr., of Philadelphiay Audience at the Southwark Theatre, Philadelphia, in 1767. No an Given Before an Enthusiastic woke No Nor A BIT. You' RE VERY RICH NO! MEN TAKE DESPERATE CHANCES FOR f || aw WINDY. CITY CHATTER By Neal R. O’Hara Who's Who and What’s What in Chicago Society Ring OOKS like a red hot summer for i Chicago society. Remnants of several exclusive divorces are beginning tb throw off smoke. Smol- dering romances Hable to bust into four-alarm fire without notice. Bookies are hetting that entire Standard Oil and Harvester families are married before Mary Landon Baker has an ofher postponement. : Statistics prove Swiss maintain no navy. But they have large standing army of Romeos. One charming bachelor-vodeler in Switzerland to every $20,000,000 fortune here. Yep, Swiss may be a simple , but they're smart on Dun and Bradstreet reports, peop! Mrs. Petroleum Pipe-Line di will wed A!pine architect. Mr. ing Machine denies he will marry Polish warbler. Little Miss Harvester- Thresh Reaper denies she will wed Swiss stirrup acrobat, ‘That simplifies every thing. Ponzi denied he was going to jail. Swiss movement has captivated Ohi society. Swiss cuckoo clocks time of day, Swiss bell ringers sound gong for breakfast, dinner and sup per, and Swiss cheese hold. semi-final course all alone. Cupid's wings flap along without skipping in Chicago. Smart set doesn't know where its next surprise ing from. But it’s a good, yodel down 8 com e het will realize its full benefits Dress rather lightly so that you wil enjoy the warming up that real brisk walking will give you. If you avoid ® chill immediately afterward you will not have the slightest possibility of contracting a cold. Did you ever notice when you have faken a walk such as the one de Scribed above how you come in with @ real good thirst and enjoy a floss of water? ~The simpler foods are suf ficient to tempt this natural, new born. appetite. Taking {t all in all there ts nothing in the world so simply attained that gives such lasting benefits as a g00! brisk walk with the body properly Poised along the highways and by- ‘ways of Nature's own wareroene. it comes from Switzerland, Since imported romance ever lake front, Mary Garden can only make inside pages. Tossing off sheath of interviews and singing Sa- lome in a no-plece suit won't get Mary anywhere now. Chi js fed up on Hillion-dollar divorces. Thousand-dol- lar-a-night temperaments come under Brief Local News. hovered Daily stays of Mary Lundon Paker's romgnce keeps international cables singing. Mary and Allister are in Paris now, selecting gowns for next Postponement. Schedule announced by contracting parties calls for 164 wed- dings to be cancelled, with rainchecks given to invited guests. All cancella- tion clauses subject to publicity and Judge Landis is handling details with white kid gloves. Mary holds international quick- Jumping record, Has postponed same wedding five times atd still going strong. Allister ts long distance wait- ing champion? Still believes in Santa Cluus and dairies, but wants his next wedding insured by Loyd's, Engage- ment to Mary has been a great thing for Allister, Has kept him going to church regularly. But if Allister’s a thoroughbred, as Mary says he {s, he ought to know a« stall when he sees one So far, McCormick-Baker list is still a waiting list. wedding Other prominent Chicagoan in Paris news is Peggy Hopkins. Peggy proves blondes make the best wives, Has proved it three six years. Peg is now through with permanent husbands, They don't last, She has gone to Paris for rest and quiet, But if It's all the same to Peggy, we wish she'd give us the rest and keep quiet for herself. Peggy rates as modern Cleopatra, but that isn't fair to Peg. Cleopatra only had one Mark, This gal is clev- erer than (Cleo ever was. Started In back row and landed on front page. to wear clothes—and that's she didn't learn on Ziegfeld’s roof, Has made mistakes in picking husbands, but always guessed the bankroll right Now leading simple life. No wine; no Jewels; no limousines, ‘That's simple enough for most of us. times in of chorus Knows how something What Every Woman Should Know | PRESEN A. 9 0S SaaS TR eS EeeseeeT HE odor of gasoline that clings to the hands after cleansing an article in it can be removed by rubbing a handful of salt over the hands, When a skirt gets shiny take @ thin piece of muslin acd wring it out of clear witch hazel. Lay this over the shiny spot and hold a hot iron over it to draw up the steam; then place the cloth over the wrong side of the garment and press with tron until muslin is dry. If you cannot get your white canvas shoes to look real white, clean them with white soap suds, rinse well and dry, then use one of the good tinting solutions and xe them a gray or the new pebble shade. When kid gloves get spotted by rain or water ing to restore | dry and while the hands rub the gloves ge: a damp cloth, not a wet one. ake nice hemstitching © not trust to a cleans- Before (he spots gloves are stil on y with You can without dra the hem the a large punch n sived ¥ ork needle hemstitch but do not catch the hem n sew down the hem with an ordipary needle, picking up the long thread as you go along. One housewife wraps blankets jn newspapers before putting them away for the summer and as a further pre- caution she cuts yellow soap Into small pieces and lays them between the folda of the blankets. She de- clares this is a positive preveplalive against moths. helps to su w York Dro “And ropose when we were iy ie Margie f Begin thix story to- THE ANSWER. OR a moment after Willis Chan- F ning had proposed Margie sat perfectly rigid. It seemed as. if the bus would roll down Riverside Drive, straight into the Hudson, and her tongue re- main fixed in her head forever. Once they reached the uphill grade she felt she could ex- press hereelt, though @he scarce- iy knew what she wanted to suy. “Oh, why did you spoll all our fun and the joy of writing together by posing?" she asked suddenly. why did you on top a bus “It was devilishly umromantic,” chuckled Channing. “I admit Iam a bit impulsive, but that’s the way I want you to be, to write your etorles with a bang and to answer me when 1 propose’—— “With a bang!" interjected Margie. “Weill, that's exactly what I omght to do. “Oh, be serious,” begged Channing, ab he ollpped his arm on the back of the bus seat and tried to draw Margie to him. “I loved you the moment I saw you standing there at the glove counter, evén before | talked to you and found owt bow well edugated you were. Please give me gome encour- agement, Say we can be married this suminer or In the early fall,” “L can't.’ “You ::ean that you don't love me don't even care for me?” His voice Was husky and hurt “I mean that I don't know. There's —there's some one else, Don't you remem Jer, I told you T wae almost en waged?” “And don’t you remember [ said | was darn giad you said ‘Almost’ in- stead of ‘Am’?'? countered Chan ning. They were ailent a few minutes then he asked, “By the by, who is this other chap? “He's an architect, a splendid young man," declared Margle. “He is from a very fine old New York family, and his sister is quite a moclety woman; in fact, one of New “MARGIE” By .Caroline Crawford Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World), by Prose Publishing Co. sate i up to her ‘work out, édn, York's sweetest little debutantesida madly in Joye with Kim," as “The dickens she is," sighed Cham- ning. “But I suppose he doesn’t care for her at all. I suppose he tella-you about her, how she proposes to Dim, and al) that sort of stuff, and then- he tells you he'd much rather marry you." z Margie looked at Channing keenly. “As a niatter of fact, the debutante did she sald. » F.0D “He told me so after a false-an- nouncement of , their engagement came out In the soctety columnsriet a New York newspaper,’* “How do you know It was false?’ “He told ine it was.'* stn rhe dickens he did, Did the paper detract the announcement “amd they WEREN'T engaged ?'* Not that I know of.’” ob 3 Vell, then, you can just verte he is engaged,"' emphatically #- clared Channing. “I believe thal so called society suitor of yours is jdst trying to play on your sympathy,’"T believe he's after the debutante, right, but he wants to call on you just because you're an excepti iy pretcy girl, Margery Mindon, take my advice, don't set your heart on that chap, and think over tly, proposal, will you? I may be Weat- ern and quick in my methods, but. I love you with all the loye of,@ strong, strapping sincere man, _ Let me call soon and gee if you. gan’t give me the answer IT want.'* Ate t think things over very qate- fully," said Margle at her doorses her hand sought his big Western aetp. To-Morrow—A Glass House. | Azetees, Sate, Garman te Nig) SE Re ee ee eee | | ‘ t