The evening world. Newspaper, April 29, 1922, Page 11

By Mrs. Christine Frederick Mouschold Efficiency Repert, Author “Household Hnginvering.” 5 w York Evening World) 'n} Presa Pubitening eo. Sond your husband were offered a much better job in a distant city, would you be will- ing to"break up house and follow him, or would you cling to your charming cottage in Nutley and in- sist that little Paul couldn't be taken out of his kindergarten, and show why you couldn't break away from your abridge club? 4 Which would you do? This situation been brought to my attention imany times. Here, for example, is Mr, ‘Watkins, who can't get a very good in New York because his particu- field is overcrowded. Along comes big man from Kansas who thinks Courtship —and— Marriage By Betty Vincent Gepyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) ‘by Press Publishing Co “Dear Miss Vincent: There is chap who cares for me a great deal and does everything | ask him to. | like this young man very much, but he seems to get Jealous of every one | speak to. He has asked me out, but | am afraid to accept for fear my mother will not allow me to go with him. Would it be right for me to go without telling my mother? He has been to my home about three times and mother thinks he is a gentie- man,.put | am not allowed to go an¥where unless my mother or sister is with me, and | do not like to drag my whole family along. | will do whatever you eay- ANXIOUS."" ¥ou did not state your age, but if » rein your “‘teens'* your mother ould’ be respected in her desire tv have you chaperoned. Either enter- faim the young man in your home or teli him the conditions and take your eheperon along. “Dear Miss Vincent—I have going with a girl four months whom | am devoted. Every time | go out with her, however, | she takes her girl friend along. | Bhe dances with this girl and deaves me alone, and when we are at the theatre she talks to the girl all the time. She tells me she ares about me, but | am begin- ‘ming to think | am a poor fish. Am 1? TED.” The young woman is not playing fair with you. Of course, when you take “her to a dance she ought to dance ‘with you. Nor should you be expected ~ to buy three tickets for a show when you would prefer two, Simply ask ithe young woman to choose between her gir friend and you on the basis that “two is company and three a erowd."* ‘Going Down! Dear Friend: Are you one of the sheltered and sensitive souls who cannot stand censure? It you-are, then let me call Your attention to the fact that the great men are those who @re déevly sensible of their faults and are ever secking to correct them, for by correcting them; men’ become great. You know whether you are doing what is right or not, and if you are doing the best you + know how—then why worry? Judge yoursel¢ continually and see that the criticisms that are alined at you are just and not fault-finding. It Is just as easy to get into the habit of doing good work as it is bad, id when that habit is fixed, the criticism will disappear. Try to do better, so that there will be no need for harsh words to crush your sensitive soul. ‘This is a great day for busi- fens and the word business is Made up of two parts: BUSY ‘gpd NESS. Therefore put the y" in Business. Faithfully. ALFALFA SMITH, . HISTORY BRIEFS THE FIRST JAPANESE EMBASSY to be sent to any distant Tand reached San Francisco sixty-two years ago, to ratify the treaty made by Commodore Perry. The embassy visited Wash- ington, New York and several other cities. How I Far Would You Follow Your IF HE WAS OFFERED A BETTER JOB IN A DISTANT CITY, WOULD YOU GO WITH HIM--OR HOLD HIM BACK? Watkins is just the fellow he needs for his Western branch manager and offers him every inducement to go there. Of course Watkins talks it over with his wife, He is anxious to 0, but she won't hear of it—haven't they just finished paying for tho house and got to know a {ew nice people, and aren't the children settled in a good schpol? She refuses tlat to go out to a wild place like Kunsas where she doesn’t know a soul, and so four times out of five Watkins re- mains tied to Nutley, N. J., and to an inferior job and perhaps has -lost the chance of a lifetime! Of course there are two sides to it But if her husband's interests are her own, how can any wife limit his op- portunities by selfishly refusing to move or accompany him ‘into a new town? Isn't he and his success (hers too, by the way) more important than any particular house or school or set of friends? What, for instance, shall ‘we think of an actual cake of the wife who alloweu her husband to go out by himself and live in a hotel in a far- away State, while she remainéd 4e- hind? He was offered an unusually fine job in that city, a job which meant a larger income and promotion, but at the same time a job which took every ounce of his fighting strength, which brbught him discour- agements from which he should have been able to turn to the help and cheer of his wife. But she was not there—shé was smugly and shall I say selffishly?—enjoying the comforts of their home im Bast Lemon, having a fine time in her own golfing set, and Fables for the Fair CHANGING WOMAN ° By Marguerite Mooers Marshall pitying herself because ‘poor William Was away from home,’ Isn't it true that in countless cases it has been the wife who has stepp in and styllod her husband's business future, and as a reeult kept him Wound to a lower grade position or om with less advancement in view, sol because she refused to live elsewhere? Again, she often refuses to sanction a Position which will keep him away from home a good deal of the tme. In some instances she may even “throw it up to him" that he can't be as fine and capable as, he claims if he can't get a job where he Is. “Aren't there enough jobs in this bur city without having to go to Mary- land or Iowa ta get one? Other men wet good jobs, F don't see why vou don't. Look at Mrs. Billings, her husband doeer’t agk her to get up and move her whole family to anoth town. I won't have you doing either." And sb the smothers kis desirg te take it, husband a fresh start and have the inspiration of a new locality and people, and just hangs on to any position, even if inferior, as long as It-toes not take him away. Will some one explain to me, there- fore, just why women so dislike change ‘of any sort, new scenes and new friends, while men have ever been eager to pioneer and adventure? We will admit that the woman of the house must shoulder a consider- able part of the unpleasantness of moving, resettling her Lares and Penates in a new domain, transfe ring the children to a new school, &c, But, on the other hand, dqn't families move ‘from hquse to house Copyright, 1982 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co. Moral: If You “Don’t Know Your Own Mind,” Neither Does a Man—You Keep Him Guessing! , E' VE all been reading ’ who just can’t seem to make up her mind Whether she wants to marry a ‘certain young man or— Or not! Mary, Mary, quite contrary, % Left him at the ~ 4 chureh—set an- other wedding date und thea A ‘eee: postponed it— Sailed to Burope after him, vowing that this time there was going to be un honest-to- goodness ceremony, Changed her mind four timps, after landing on the other side: And, at the moment of moseying to press, Mary, so far as the rest of the world knows, Has not YET committed herself— Or Matrimony! “But why—why—why?"" chorus of the male pack. “Why can't a woman know her own mind and stick to it? Men are not like that—men are a constant quantity They'd be ashamed of such emotional flip-flops. Why can't you ever depend on a WOMAN? What makes her change her mind?’ There are so many reasons That I can't possibly cite them all, But I'll do the best I can, First, I concede the point—woman ts a creature of change. Virgil said it—a free translation ts, “One woman, many minds," I think the first cause is that no woman wants to be a bore— And if anything on earth is boresome, it is the human fixed point, The motionless mind, the static soul, The person whom “you always know where to find’’— You bet you do, and, therefore, you dodge him as frequently as pos- sible— The gender is usually masculine. One reason why marriages fail Is because @ husband's mind is the same yesterday, to-day und for- ever— His wife knows what he's going to think about cigarettes for women, Ireland, bridge leads, jazz, Bernard Shaw, her new hat, personal im- mortality, the price of beefsteak, Prohibition, the country club— She knows about it all, she knows she knows— And 80 she likes to discuss these topics with somebody else. Secondly, while a woman want to bore other people, Neither does she want to bore her self— And she would find life just rings the doesn't if she were always In the mind, As if she were always in the same tailored suit, Even if you have to know just one circle of friends, 4f you have to be courted by just one young man, if you have to live with just ane hus- bans. You can relieve the monotony by changing your mind about them. ry woman knows that, just white throat is whiter agains black evening gown, So the love she feels for a man glows more ardently Against a background of the moods when she hates him, or is filled with cold dislike. Most men can’t understand this psy- chology— But then, most men are perfectly happy wearing the same gray busi- ness sult and felt hat Day after weary day; Whereas no woman, 1 the price, ER wears the dress, two days running! knows, moreover—and this is most important— That in her ability to change her mind lies her chief power over men! The modern way of putting it ts, “Keep ‘em guessing!" If you “don't know your own mind."" Neither does a man, and the less he knows, the better! After all, what is our little ‘contrary Mary" doing That many a winsome Eve has not done before her? A belle in grandmamma's day Would have been ashamed to accept her first proposal, Or even to ‘‘say yes’ the first time the Right Man asked her— It was his business to sue and sue and never take “no” for an an- swer, ° To accept her smiles and frowns, her yieldings and withdrawals, ‘To worship her the more for her April E a ta with the time me hat, the same moods, her quicksilyer tempera- ment, Never, never, to be quite SURE of her! ‘That's why he loved her so much bet- ter before they were married than afterward! There are ever so many more expla- nations of why a woman changes her mind: She does it because ce\ted— Unlike a man, she isn't so infatuated with her first and original mind That she can imagine no change for the better. She changes her mind because it goes out of fashion Instead of priding herself—as a man does—that he ‘‘votes just the way father and grandfather did." she isn’t con- She changes her mind because she outgrows it Because it's easy to change, being supple and not stiff in the joints, Beeuusge men and facts are stubborn things, And women's minds must change to ft them, . Because—just BECAUSE. And the only reason more girls don’t change thelr minds more times be- fore they marry, Is because they marry in haste—and chang§ afterward! Husband ? even in the same town? Don't our children change their institutions from time to time, and isn't the physical fact of moving but temporary? Once settled in a new location, won't she be as comfortable as in the old And while I, of course, the housekeeping complications attend ant om change of residence, still t seeme Very petty in comparison with the greater success or opportunity to the husband which such transfer would bring. Only the selfish wife will refuse to accompany her husband to 4 mew scene; only the unfaithful wife will allow him to go alone to stay for a long period without home food, comforts and the cheer and en couragement which a true wife will bring to his work Ig the. words of the marriage mony mean anything surely phrase “for better or for worse” include “in this town or that,’ loyalty to him must extemd into bis plans, no matter where they 1 They are her plans, too, after ail, and she should not be so shortsighted as to overtook the general increased wol- fara of the whole family even at what appears a personal sacrifice. Many a wife could take to heart with advan- tage the beautiful pledge of Ruth, whd said: “Whither thou goest I will go and where thou lodgest £ will lodge.”’ The Jarr Family By Roy L. McCardell Copyright, 1928, (New York Evening World) ‘by Press Publishing Co T being the occasion of Mr. Jarr’s ] spring hair cut, he entered into the Acme Sanitary Tonsorial Par- lor and eased himself into the chair of Fred, the sporting barber. “Hair's getting thin,’ remarked Fred, as he tucked cloth around his patron's neck, “better let me give you @ scalp treatment. “No, thank you," replied Mr, Jarr, “my great-great-grandfather had a scalp treatment given him by a Sioux warrior, and he was bald tll the day of his death, which was the next day." The sporting barber blinked at this and then remarked, ‘Better Jet me give you a facial massage. Take the Mnes out of your face." “Those lines bespeak charaeter—in- telligence and benevolence, mainly, and I wouldn't have them removed for worlds," rejoined Mr. Jarr. “Better let me singe your hair, after T've cut it,"' the barber persisted “I want a hair cut, and I don't want anything else, “not even any conversation about it,’ Mr. Jarr de- clared. ‘'l don't want any hair tonic, T don't want anything except a tas cut, just as T tell yeu. It's a wonder you don't ask me if IT don't want a shave, seeing as T have just shaved an hour ago. And I'd cut my own hair, too, if [ could."’ “Oh, oh, excuse me, excuse me!" said the sporting barber affably, ‘but you'd better let me give you a sea foam or a regular shampoo, You've been out in your automobile, and your head is dusty." “My shoes are dusty from walking I haven't any automobile, and 30! know it," Mr. Jarr retorted. “Wi do you insist on trying to give me shampoos and singes and scalp treat ments and massages, when all I want ig a hair cut? I don't know why girls leave home, but I do know why men shave themselves and keep oui of barber shops all they possibly can. Why do you barbers always want to ‘Job’ @ man, as you call it?’ “Because a poor guy of a barber has got to live," replied the tonsorial ist. ‘‘He'd starve to death on hair cuts and shaves, It takes twenty min utes to cut a customer's hair and just as long to shave. A barber can only shave three men an hour, and at 20 «nts that's only $1.80 an hour, A barber only works about three full hours a day on the average, and if he gets hair cuts for the three hours, that’s only $3.60 a day, at 40 cents a hair cut. Say the barber gets 60 day in tips, he's lucky if he makes $4 @ day, How can a guy live on that’ It's no wonder a barber pleads with you tightwads to take a shampoo or & massage, for he'd starve to death 'f he couldn't job you nickel nurses for an extra or two. “It's a good thing you can't cut your own hair, or you'd do \t. The Barbers’ Union and the Master Bar bers ig talking now of combining all ynion shops and charging a dollar for @ hair cut. But the non-union shops won't come in, What the business needs is to get some core the must nd her barber man to run the business and set prices, like Judge Landis doing for baseball and Ex-Postmaster Gen- eral Will Hays ts doing for the mov- jes, [ nominate William J. Bryan or Chauncey Depew to head the United Barbers of America. Fifty cents for @ shave and a dollar for a hair cut and dull razors to be used on all tightwads that don't tip,” “Why don't the barbers take a man out of the President's Cabinet to head thelr graft—I mean eraft? The mov magnates took Will Hays 01 Cabinet. Why don't the barbe Secretary of State Hy $1 a year?" “He wears whiskers; how could feel for the poor barber?” usked Fred, peevishly, "But what's | talking shop? 1 seb by . the are ng to bring t fift three-year-old horse, Clover, to N York They'll change bis na put him in the races, ang I'l ettin an him."* THE EVENING WORLD, SATURDAY, APRIL 29, 1922, , nH - ee Suninanl n SHAPELY’ STRIPED SUMMER SWEATER SHIMMY UMMHER WEATER FAMOUS WOMEN ANNE OF CLEVES, daughter of John III., Duke of Cleves, was the fourth wife of Henry VIII, of England, who had fallen in love with her portrait. Because the painter had flattered her Henry divorced her ““MARGIE”’ By Caroline Crawford ‘Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World), by Preus Pubilal % Co. The Love Story of a New York Working Girl. Mar men’s glove counter in wl iy Maisle Leo, a fellow Margie feels ‘her real “Princ Begin this story to-day and vee LOVE AND THE FUTURE. ARGIE sat brooding in the M shabby living roora when Spat- ford left her, She knew now that he was left wholly upon his own resources. He was twenty-five and had succeeded fairly well in his own line, but man who has been used society ways and living in the palatial home of his sister feels the strain of life when he 1s suddenly transplanted into a second rate boarding house and left to figure things out for him- self. New York Charming’ to But two all important facts stood out before Margie, Spafford had siven up 4 big business contract be- cuuse of his rumored engagement and he had broken away from soclety. Did he give up this business con- tract because of his love for her? If he had not met her would he have married the society girl? Now as she thought about their future despite Spafford’s sudden break it seemed all the brighter to ho Frequently be had admitted that society life bored him, that he only mingled with these people be- cause they were hig clientele, the 1 ple wh ve him many of his con tracts to build homes, But this, afte wi, Was only the way bis ambitious ter looked upon it, If he planned to be a jecessful architect anc mad good in his Ine, society would come to him They coi talk over these Just as well in his office on way as they could in some = room was about to prepare for ne rar he hur ' t wing the ¢ me from telling making he said my t our evening a pleusant one,’ ty Mindon, nineteen, helps to support hee widewed mather jepart mt Malnie’s “etewdy" Alle haw Margie’ working at ¢ we. Her mont intiuate e iv Clarence Wimple, « tloorwuike along and live up to her teal dreainy work outs in his cheery old way again, ‘But before you retire just let me tell you that T never was*quite so happy in my life. I am tickled to death to think I am through with society forever No more teas,’ lancing and boredom in drawing rooms for me. I'm gol to work evenings and all the ti that is the times I am not with you “If it hadn't been for your under- standing and keen interest in my wel fare I don't suppose I would have had grit enough to break away from things. Our talk about ideals that day in the country gave me @ differ. ent outlook upon life, Margig. Your culm, serene attitude to-night gave the courage of a lion. Now let me tell you @ secret''—— Margte clutched the receiver a little ter. It was coming—her Prince Charming was going to propose by telephone! Why didn’t he propose to her over the radio so all the world could listen in? But his cheery voice reassured her, Proposal time was a long way off. “Really it isn't a secret, it's a fact I'm going to buy a car, a nice little roadster!" “Good for you!"’ encouraged Mar Yes, sir,’ continued Spafford, “the moment a man loses lis pla or breaks away from any former hi on life he feels reckless and wants to do something desperate, {| am going to squander a good lump of my bank account on a brand new, shiny car I used to manipulate tay sister's, but now I'm just going to have one of my own!" “Why not?! “That's what I asked myself I need a car to jump around to the dif ferent houses I building I'm out for myself now, and because 1 shall have a new car you and I (cha eroned by that brick of @ mother yours) can have some first rate spin into the country."’ : 4 4 i Virtue (The New Statue in City Hall Park) By Sophie Irene Loeb . Copyright, 1988 (Mew York Evening World) by rete Publishing Co, N the great city squaye there was great agog Over a whitened stone fashioned by hands of man ‘The argument as to its fitness waxed warm And sent forth electrons to the furthermost corner of apace. Somewhere in the offing ‘ These life-giving sparks awakened the spirit of the sage ‘Omar . Who followed the rays and reached the spot And heard the clamor of the curious crowd ‘ With tts sarcawm and laughter, its criticjam and ite seorn, And hig age-wise volee rose in comforting cadence: wae “Gently, brother, gently pray, “And has not such @ Btory from of Old “Down Man's succeasive generations roll’ “Of such a elud of saturated Earth “Cast by the Maker into Human Mouki? “And like you this Figure moulded, ta be broke, “Or trampled back to shapeless Earth again." “Forsooth, then,"' erled Omar, ‘‘what is all the babble about e ‘ “That would alm to hurt the Master Hand that made it And sent it forth with the name, ‘Civie Virtue’? “Know ye not that out of senseless nothing “Did the Divine Potter make you and me “A Conscious something that tramples down.evil e’en as this figure ‘And this snow white symbol “May but recall to you that ‘still small voice’ “Which the human potter eould ne'er give “That you may live and act and have your being In real ‘Civic Virtue’? “A hair perhaps divides the false and true “And it ix for you to ehoose. “No stone tmage, no matter how finely fashioned, ‘an do more than awaken in you that which is asleep. » there is much ado about nothing at this outward sign we ‘Civic Virtue’ must come from with! Look Your Best By Doris Doscher Copyright, 1822 (New York Mvening World) by Press Publishing Co. EAR MISS DOSCHER: Dear Mias Doscher D am a young girl fifteen I have been reading your daily years old, 5 fest 3 inches column and sheuld like te know if, and | weigh 143 pounds. you can tell me what f ean deto * Don't you think that is toe much keep my eyes and nose from get- weight for my age? t live in the ting red when | go outdoors, tall Then, with a hasty goodby, ne eountry and | am in the air most GRATEFUL. : reag off. Margie smiled the pr of the time. MARION, The reduess of your eyes and tbs 4 pect of hor summer outings, but is possibly caused by slight conges- articularly rejoiced In his lat Byon tie vale wre tall Cor YOUF ton Bathing the jase frequent) xe, @ mexsage whieh might ® Mare at le twenty pounds with warm water and a little beras ch to he That wa velkht, As you have the oppor- acid is very scothing. Improving tl spiri. of @ manly man nity for outdoor exereive it must be general efrculatton will rid you of the Monday—A second Prince Charming. your diet that is at fault ther complaint. ae