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a Ps " f VENI URDAY, DECEMBER 8, 1931 nf WORLD, BAT fy” THE & IE NG HUSBAND After You Get HIM ; Dr. Andre Tridon Matches Dr. Simon ‘Kateof’ s “Ten Commandments” for Prospective Brides With Ten for Would-Be Husbands. By Ruth Snyder: Oomprient, 19m, (Now York Brening World.) by Press Pubiishing Oo. 6< OW shall I"hold my husband after I get him?” “How shall I hold my wife after I get her?” ‘These are questions all prospective brides and grooms should * tek themselves. But do they? at Dr. Simon Katzof, Bridgeport pyscho-analypt is advocating a school for brides—and his study course has, been entitidd,: “How to Hold a Hus- band After You Get Him,” It is the ce ped be according to this RTT HOC MC ESE Oe CO Margery Wells Advises: Goosright, 1921 (new Se Being Workd) ‘wy Prem Tab, 09, —Wear Frills, Rufflings and Flouneii but With Sensible Restraint—Daintiness Your Very Own Style. By Maurice Ketten By Margery Wells. Copyrient, 1921, (New York Evening World.) be Press Publishing Co , UZZY MAIR and a smile go together. Have you ever seen the trade F mark of curly locks without that accompanying pleasantness of @m+ 7 pression? Well, then, smiling, happy, Joyful clothes are the only answer for the girl with the kinky hair. Curly hair does a lot to fasten a character of dressing upon the one If ghe makes tho slightest attempt at formality of line amd — heaviness of texture, then she finds that she has a bad mistake upon Ber hands. She.can dress plainly when, she does It girlishly, but she a attempt the classically formal thing or she will find herself -in an # mess, and like as not she won't know at all what the matter ia 1 LL RE RIGAT BACK WITH MY TRUNK EXCELLENT TABLE tN - NY BOARDING HOUSE doctor, that matrimonial ventures so often prové'to be failures, She has not learned the divine gift of silence. He is of the opinion that mothers and fathers are merely parents, not home so dreary that giris.marry to of business throws them into the firs! Dr. Andre Tridon, celebrated psy- cho-analyst of No. 121 Madison Avenue, New York City, does not agree with Dr, Kateoff, He believes that he has placed the blame too exclusively on women for matrimonial shipwrecks Men and women share equally the responsibility when things go wrong, he thinks, or rather both are the victims of an old superstition that women are “different.” “The women who believe that ‘women ere different will use that be- Nef as an excuse for all kinds of ab- surd behavior,” declares Dr. Tridon. “The man who believes that women are different misunderstands every- thing they do.” While Katzoff @ees the need of a w@chool for brides, Dr. Tridon thinks it is just as necessary to ‘have a school for husbands. Dr. Katsoff has ad- vanced ten commandments. or pre- cepts, upon which he would base the eprriculum of his novel achool In juxtaposition to his rulings, we have Dr. Tridon's ten commandments which he would have all prospective husbands memorize before. allowing them to go and get the ltcenss. Here are Dr. Simon Katzoff'e ten commandments for prospective brides. Read them over carefully: 1. Love. Above all thfigs, you must love the man you would hold. Marriages should be based upon love, not social position, or wealth, or artificial or temporal advantages. 2, Freedom. You ‘must give your husband freedom to go and come when be pleases—he will 0 less and stay in more. 3, Endearing terme, This in- cludes gent of manner. Saying “John, dear’ ‘instead of "John." Remembering to say “Thanks, dear, it is so kind of you,” for a favor, with the same courtesy you would show @ casual acquaintance, 4, Philosophy of asking instead ef telling, One can seldom of- fend by asking. You are virtually telling what it is you wish done, without the other’s being con- scious of your intention. By this method you recognize and appeal to the sense of authority which is inherent In man. He loves to be looked up to as natural protector and provider, 5. Bad habits. In order to break a man of gambling, drink- ing, &c.,, woman must offer hér husband an attractive substitute. She must make the hous attrac- tive and cheerful and bring home guests who will appeal to her husband. It is far better, if he must indulge in these pastimes, to have him do it at home. If he wishes a card game, be cheorful about it, persuade him to invite his friends to the house, enter- tain them hospitably and try lit- tle by little to wean’ your hus- band from the habit. 6. Food, Feed the beast in man and you will have more man and less beast. Have your Meals on time, give him a suffictent quan- tity of food and be eure that it is what be likes. . 7. Dress. This depends upon what conception of dress your husband has, It won't hurt you - to be dressed in your best: for your husband Instead of worry- ing about your appearsnco when strangers are about. Men as a rule prefer simple dresses, neat, clean and becoming, the sort thi are possible to every woman, however humble her circum-~- stances. Rouge, etc., not only is injurious to health, but annoys husband, although he may toler~ ate it in others than his wife. 8. Twin Beds. Privacy is need- ed by both husband and wife to promote respect. ‘Twin beds make It possible to read or study with- out disturbing the other and leading to wordy battles. If one ig ill, the other is not needlessly disturbed. Health and comfort demand this arrangement, 9. Home and business should be separate. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. After spend- ing eight hours of his day at work, the man and wife should be reunited with fresh interesta. That delight in hdme-coming af- ter a day in a factory or office must be kept alive in the man by bis wife. She should be inter- ested in his success—but not in- sistent knowing details which A man pends many times upon the at tude of his wife. For a man to be at home all day without bu ness interests is highly detri- mental, Too much domesticity irritates the normal man. The husband and wife should vary the domestic routine by taking occasional meals out. It Js also a good thing for the wife to so away occasionally for a short va- cation alone, and for her hus- ‘band to do the same. 10. h and interest in hu- man welfare. Nothing irritates the average husband more than a complaining, — half-le! wife. Your first duty to your husband is to keep in excellent physical “condition. Many petty irritations vanish when one is in perfect health, The eonse of humor which” Bas disappeared returns to make “pals” of their daughters. They make escape, Sometimes the eternal grind t matrimonial net. . ‘Christmas . ; Suggestions: By Emilie Hoffman Coomtahe, 1981. Stee Tos, Pree World), N aelecting. Christmas gifts much must be taken into consideration if you.desire-to give real pleasure, and this should be the spirit in which all gifts are presented. So before purchasing a gift consider the taste, necessity and environment of the in-. tended recipient. Do not follow your own inclinations, The gift is not for yourself, Always give the recipient fisrt consideration and put just as much thought and care into the se- lection of a 25-cent gift as you do in the $25 one. The spirit of giving should be the same in either case. If you have a leaning toward un- usual gifts look over the novelties in the shops. Wor instance, if a cigar- ette box is on your shopping list, why not get one that’ till be a real sur- prise to the recipient? . These boxes are made up of beautifuf wood and are silk lined, They have a mosto- gram plate ana when the covgr is raised sweet music bursts forth. The same idea is carried out in glove ‘boxes, so while milady ts selecting the gloves, he d to wear'she is be- €ntertained by delightful little melodies. + For the traveller there is nothing nicer than a travelling clock. For several years the prices of these com- modities placed them in the prohibitive catalogue of the ordinary individual’, but now. areliable-timepiecé mounted in & morocco leather case Gan be had for $12.60. It Has a-gold color dial with radio figures and the compact folding cases come in blue and dark red. ene es corative door stops now tal place of the old-time covered brine ‘These come in large and varied as- gortment of det and there is a wide range of pri An elabd-ate one simulating a basket of flowers in various colorings is. $4.50, and Is a real ornament. molehills out of domestic moun- faing. | It 1s also a good thing for hush; and wife togeth take some - active . inte: in something outside the home in the way of religion, stud: ~ clal service work, sPicaas Here are Dr. Tridon's ten com- mandments for the men: AOR . 1. You shall not tlam your wi you in hy for lack of appreciation is often due to the lack of hi Spaisciny, of something to y (like a ds ‘on: inner erpane only surgery or long medi- man'e) de whe, tp cal treatment might modify. 3. You ahall not’ expect your wife to feel aw: ale , hungry or satiated, che ful’ ae meditative, exactly when you happen to feel that way, nor shail onside: ir deviation from ir habits as a proof of her in- ferigrity. 4. You shall either approve of the things you cannot prevent, oF get a divorce. Forbidding to ke many things and’ people makes them terribly tempting, after which your wife will have to lie about her moveme: nts. her about it will only make yeu ridiculous. 8. You: shall avoid the expres: ion “just like a womam” for the requency of ite use is the meas- ure of a husband's stupidity and failure. 6. You shall be as nice to your wife and as appreciative of her ou would be of your friend's 0 her as jstomer. since you are inspiration and er to. love mar- washing and sundry household chores so long as you youre manifest. aed unwill« ngness to help with them. 8 You shall not. object on “moral grounds” to your wife's low neck gown, short skirt, fi colored stockings, face an ot, i wder for she Knows very uu are 8 flatte: id would feel f your jenloury. was not coupled with ypocritical pret nor shall you mention hei in eonnec- tion with any dleplay of vanit; 9. You shall not call your wife fiokle when she is no longer in love with your ‘old bath slippers, your sloushy clothes, your chin stubble, your bald pate, your convex stomach and your etogie breath, but you sh consider it yt Ker ‘and changed, shall always bear in if you don’t some ore yourself you realize that you 10. Y: mind that Ise will, There they are in black and white -rten good commandments for both /foride and groom. It's up to you to lve up to ‘Them. a. te . CI00D BYE DEPasiT ! Copyright, 1941, Which Man Will Peggy The story of m typicel New York years ber sonlor. The Heart By Caroline Crawford (New York Evening World.) by Press Publishing Co, of a Girl Choose for a Husband? sirl. Peggy Dayton, eighteen, hae just Her heart’ ls divided between two lovers, Billy Bractem, her own axe, and Hirrivon Townley, a bachelor ten ‘The office opens mew experiences, brings tiew lovers., Begin oftairs, treading this story to-day: exery instniment a new epleode in Peany’s MARION MINTON’S DANCE, EGGY knew that she would meet @ score of young men at Mar- ion Minton’s dance, Marion was the type of girl who changed her po- sition every three “months and al- ways acquired & — number of “office friends" with each a} change. Although Pesgsy seldom met any young men she especially liked through Marion she wore her daintiest frock and took great pains in grooming herself for thia particular dance, Marion's apartment was just around the cor- ner from her own and since Billy Bracton was not invited Peggy skip- ped out without waiting for Marion to send some one for her. “I'm so glad you came early,” whispered Marion as she kissed Peggy upon both cheeks and led her into the room where they were to dance, “There's a young man com- ing here to-night whom I know you'll have a terrible crush for. My dear, you just ought to hear him play the piano” “{ detest mien who play the piano,” . declared Peggy, “they're always such frightful sien," “But Cyril Budd isn't wait until you see him, Marion proudly, “Cyril Budd! What a name!" roared Peggy. “Cyril, probably pro- nounced ‘Cy-ral' by people who call his playing ‘chawming.’ My goodness, Marion, do you think I am going to fall madly in love with a man by the name of Budd who plays the piano! Wait until [ find some one for you.” Just then Cyril Budd arrived and Peggy gave Marion a roguish glanoe. Mr. Budd looked rather “green,” though he did not resemble a “rose bad” or any other kind of flower ud, He was tall and dark and had curly hair. Peggy knew he would have curly hair if he played the plano, the combination seemed to go together. jarion led him to the piano imme- Piately , etter bad introduced sissy; just announced Peggy und, much to Peggy's distaste, he had to admit that he really was a wonder ‘in his own line. As the other young men and girls began to arrive great applause followed. Peggy Marion's prediction was right—most of the girls did rave about him. Later when they started up the vic- trola the couplés were dissatisfied with the jazz it produced and wanted Budd to play for’ them. Pemey thanked her. stars for this demand. Rudd had just piloted her through a fox-trot and the camel walk and dur- ing that process nearly ruined her dancing punrps. “I'l play under one consideration, announced Budd, “and that is that Miss Peggy Dayton turns my music for me.” He ran his fingers through Nis black shovk of curly hair and emiled most winningly at her. All the young men laughed and the girls tittered and whispered “Oh!” Peggy could feel her cheeks burn- ing with indignation as she tripped over to the piano, but she decided to do the right thing by Marion and du- ully began her work. She had fairly good education in music hel self and was able to play MacDow- ell's "Ode to a Wild Rose,” the operas and popular pieces so that she was well equipped for her task. While the other young people danced and pronounced it the best evening of their lives Peggy avoided Budd's eyes and turned sheet after sheet of music. He had a ridiculous way of looking up at her during sen- timental snatches and strains that made her want to pull his hair or box his ears. At last, just because she didn’t care for him and hecause she wanted to show others that she, too, could play, Peggy sat down on the bench beside Budd and they arranged duets out of almost every piece. Budd took this as a great compliment and played with more spirit and feeling than ever. When the party broke up he ac- companied her home and at the door held on to her hand as he looked deep into her eyes. "Good night, id Peggy, rather curtly, “Aren't you going to kiss me good night?” he asked. “I'm not that kind of a girl,” flashed Peggy as she ran up the apartment steps. Hormorrow-—Cyril Budd Proves @ Persistent Admirer. aa a -— The By Roy L. MATTER, old top,” asked Mr. Jarr, as he noticed Jenkins, the bookkeeper at the office, 66 °S looked worrled and nervous. “Not short in the old accounts, eh?’ “Swell chance in this office!" grum- bled Jenkins, “I wish I had the graft to use the firm’s money like Johnson, the cashier, has, Temporarily, I mean,” “Anything wrong with the old health, then?” Mr. Jarr inquired, so- leitously, "I know the old bean has always been weak, but that don't matter to a bookkeeper.” “Tho old bank account is weak, the old health 1s all ight,” growled Jenkins, ‘But the matter is I got an assessment put on my property— \t was put on last year, and I got a notice that interest is running up on it at 7 per cent, and [ got a chance to sell the place.. But how can I with an assessment, and it in arrears too? hey cut down and paved tho street, ¢, just to give the grafting contractors that are behind the reform adminis- tration in East’ Malaria a chance to TE BS 8 EH Do You?) WHAT 2oYou 1921; (New York Brenie World), By Fre Publishing Co. QUESTIONS. ~ 1—On the coastline of what State is Cape Sable? 2—What name with twelve 3—Which ite the population, California or Tex: right given to a figure 4—Which is the larger city, San Francisco or Baltimore. 6—What name is given to the coean beyond the three mile limit 6—What is the national emblem of Scotland? 7—In what year was the Spanish- American War fought. in what ert region does Lake Chad lie? 9—Of what material is a sabot fix up an advance for you. The boas mer dross, for the girl with the fuszy made? Isn't a bad old scout, and he has his lair, ais sacint i “ ic” troubles, too. Think how rotten bust- jow, tal is principle an 10—What dees “harmatic” mean? Oe has been.” apply it to all ‘your dresves, ANSWERS, “If he'll come through, I could even whether party summer or 1, Florida; 2, dodecagon; & ‘Tex#s; love him too,” said Jenking. winter or dressiness of any sort. 4, ultimore; & high seas; 6 thistle; Aw the boss came through all right, You are the type that ean stand 1 Yios: &, dahura: 9, wood; 10, wir- everybody loves everybody at the of- rufflings, so do not pass them tight fice this week, » by, They are so womanly in eames: Seee she resieesie St A I RE RE rr Family Goprright, 1971, (New Tork Evening World.) by Prem Publishing On, McCardell divvy with thelr political friends.” “Yet you complained to me that the Strect Department wouldn't pave the street in front of your place when I was out there a couple of years ago and we had to walk thtough the said Mr. Jarr, “Your property has been improved, hasn\f it?” “Yes, but If I pay this assessment the guy who looked at my house mightn’t buy it, and if I pay the assessment I can't buy coal for this winter, and I should have bought dt last summer, but because I had a couple of tons left in the cellar"— “If that’s all you got in your cellar I don’t blame you for feeling gloomy, coal alone won't keep you warm,” Mr. Jacr interjected, “Well, there's a lot of other things I got to worry about besides not hav- liquid fodder for my boosehound nds,” grumbled Jenkins, What other things are worrying Wilberforce?" Mr, Jarr inquired Why, I'm ured of being called Wilberforce when my name Js Harold, which 1s just a3 bad, and I'm tired taxes, income taxes, buncome taxes, all’ kinds of taxes! I'm tired of riding in the trains every day with a lot of addled eggs of commuters, I'm tred of eggs for breakfast and liver for supper—I'm tired of every- thing.” You look tired to death,” sald Mr. Jarr. “isut I don't think you have any trouble money can't cure.” “But | haven't the money, and so I can't get cured, and your sympathy is well meant; but you haven't any money either. I feel Ike chucking it all up and going somewhere.” “Where?” asked Mr. Jarr. “Wher- ever you went you'd take your trou- bles with you.” “Well, nobody cares for me In. this world, what's the use?" Jenkins plied, And being a big, manly man, he looked as though he were about to burst Into tears. “That's the trouble," said Mr. Jarr profoundly, “The greatest pit- terness in life is not beeause nobody loves us, but because we love no- bedy." “I'm mistaken; I do like a lot of people: I like you, Ed,” said Jenkins relenting, for he wae @ sentimental- ist also, “At @ boy!” erled Mr, Jarr ga'ly. “Here comes the boss, I think | can The fuzzy-haired girl has the title of “girlishness” given her as a birth~ right. She is that if she isn’t any- thing else. And sometimes I hear her lament because that is the only im- pression that she can manage to im- print upon the id at large. Now, girlishness need not be mean- ingless, And smiles need not be empty. But the girl with the fuzzy hair has much in her favor if she dresses her character, because at once she makes those whom she meeta feel easy and natural and pleasant. We will not lay all this to the curly locks, but we do go #0 far as to say that they are the indications of a geniality of disposition which Is dény- ing itself the right and prgper ex- Pression if it refuses to come forth and occupy the pervading atmosphere. And girlishness in dressing need not be siiliness. It can be sweet and beautiful and characterful at the same time. And if it is ail of these then it will help that girl to convey to ‘her friends and associates exactly the degree of efficiency and polse that she wishes to present to the onlooker. She can never be an obvious ‘heavy- welght, but she can oe so pleasantly firm in the manner of her convictions that all who meet her will want to listen to what she has to say. It is because the usual girlish dresses are so crudely done that they often help to convey the wrong Impression. They are designed by some une who thinks that sweetness ts shallow. And for that very reason the girl with the curly locks must be more than ever vigilant when sho buys her gowns. She must be careful that she has noc foisted upon her unwariness clothes that are ridiculous because of their Kittenishness. And still, because of her watchfulness, she must not be led into purchasing things that are too severe in line and cut. They can suc- ceed in a flash In throwing her into the background where her charms will not show at all. And that js the last thing that she would willingly have happen. You are looking ‘or a tangible ox- ample? Well, see the frilly dress in the picture, ‘This has everything to recommend 1% for tho charm of girlivhness. It ix frilled, It ts soft of texture. It is rose colored. It is bound in Uny strands of cream color. It is tucked in tiny tucks, It has slight accents of black velvet ribbon, It has @ round neck which is so becoming to the girl with @ halo of curly locks to set it off. In fact, it s the ideal party dress, or sum- wears best a simple girlish frock like the one shown above at the right. ing make a charming gandy party frock, photograph lustrates. soul. the same rule tiness and very own style amuck with know she has trouble jocks, but she must train them as a loving moth behavior accordi, polite dreasing. about too many they are curly, that carries a chal« lenge to antagonism, Sometimes vation. around your head. Don't make the | colffure look plastered. about loosely so that there will be mo danger of the whole ning wild. the privacy of your own bewdelr where you can indulge in “stragt= — neon" to your heart's content? © ree second pi 0 dress, it The ‘fluffy haired girl Ruffles and picoted edg- at the e their expression. hat you are expressin, And wl the H ityle into the ground. that path ie the way of sill But do them with restraint mixture of you will never run the risk stepping out of your own chars. eter. ‘The girl in this picture is the po. on haired type whose hair is peor: "4 has arranged it Not too many stra; overamount of pul enough arrangement lo make it as though it belonged to her. You | common sense si most hecomingty, looks, Not am ness. But t tuzsy-haired girl who is don't you? She gete her+ ed in many quarters, We taming her r and insist upon their to the rules of ere Is some’ ¢ y locks, cy | net is your onl; - Don't ‘drag. it, too tightly it. headdress a.) Keep the wild stutt for ugh many have worn the fuszy haired it best. And she too mai Now here is the short-haired fussy She really has an easier time for if her hair is kept t to a proper length, then it cam allowed Jo be as natural as it ee fn.