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Z 6 gale ere ame rear ae Can Fathers Make Good As “Matchmakers”? .They’re Trying But How Would It Work Here in New York? “No Job for Either’Parent,’’ Says Dr. Brill—‘‘Father Would Pick Man Just Mother Picks Man of Opposite Type—But Marriage Is a Vocation, and Only the ‘Man and the Girl Really Know.” By Fay Stevenson. ‘Consright. 1921, by the Press Publishing AVE you heard the latest news from London? H They are passing through an age of matchmaking papas! “How, indeed, could it be otherwise?” asks the London Daily Mail. "The case 0! the marriageable giri is ‘a serious one. @mong 80 many, but, alas! the few men who would marry cannot. So it be- He must find the few eligible men there are. booves papa to get busy. “No more does he play a fooling Game of golf with dear old Col. X. No, he works strenuously with the Professional and then engages the pounger bloods. fie challenges young nk, the finaneier, and manages to Five bim a good game. They fix up another for next Saturday, and who can wonder that’ pretty little Miss 1921 decides to caddy for father, or to play a round herself? “For times have changed indeed. The matchmaking mamma has dis- @ppeared. ¥, Bhe is not even in- svited to parties nowadays!” But if papa turns into a match- maker will he select the right man for his darling little daughter? Has eny man the intuition and keenness fo play the part of matchmaker as well as woman? If the New York futher should follow in the footsteps of the London father would he select the man who would make his daughter bappy “ever afterward"? Would he know the workings of his @aughter’s heart as well as mind- reading, matchmaking mother? Those are a few of the questions I asked Dr, A. A. Brill, the well known psychiatrist and one of the leaders in his specialty of mind analysis at his office, No. 1 West 70th Street. “No doubt papa would make an ex- cellent matchmaker as far as select- ing a good husband is concerned,” said Dr. Brill with a little twinkle in his eyes. “He would probably ¢- lect a mighty good provider. In fact, iy many ways I think he might su Pass mamma in this line; but, aft ail, matchmaking is a thing which @hould be left to the young people themselves.” “Then you do not believe that cither fatter pr mother can select the right man? “Certainly no’ replied Dr. Brill prith emphasis, “Marriage, or falling dn Jove, is a vocation. No one told you to be a writer, did he? No ons tells a man to be an artist or a mu- @ictan. People select these things fc themselves. They do them because they want to do them. And it should be the same with marriage. Both the oung men ind the young women inow when they meet the right per- gon to wed. “Of course I am speaking of nor- mal, capable people,” continued Dr. Brill. “You couldn't expect defectives and weak-minded people to recognize their proper mates, but defectives ani weak-minded persons should not be permitted to marry, 90 that settles that. A young woman of average mentality who is perfectly normal does not need to have any one assi fher to find a husband. She will rec- ognize him the moment she meets ‘him. And the same is true of the oung man.” ay Ywhat type of young man ‘would papa select for his daughter I asked, turning the interview back to its original pivot. “What chara teristics would a man pick for his n~im-law 2” ; wonnte woulo pick out a man just like himself," declared Dr. Brill “Outside of the fact that he would probably alm at a better provider than himsclf, he would «elect the ‘exaet qualities for his daughter's husband that he possesses himself It he plays golf, billiards, voker; if he reac, collects antiques or ‘art curios he’ will naturally turn to men ‘of this type. And since the average daughter is like her father and ad- mires her father in many cases she might be well pleased with dad's se- lection. That is why TI say that, al- though I de not believ in match- makers, papa would really make a better one than mamma.” “And yet women are supposed to have a kecner intuition than men,” I id. Aieener for many things, but. re- member the daughter is inclined to ye like her father,” said Dr. Brill “Now, when mamma goes into the matchmaking business she always Pe Lucile the Waitress By Bide Dudley. Copyright, 1921, by the Press Publishing Co. RE you superstitious?” asked Lucile, the waitress, as the friendly patron put down his knife to chase a fly off his nose, “Not particularly,” he replied , “I might a’ knew you wasn't,” she went on "since you're taking a chance on that hash, But I thought I'd ask. J ain't, neither, You never see me picking up no pins or walking around ladders. I'm a fatality and I believe what's going to happen wil! come off a skeduddle time. What made me start this line of dictation was a fel- low who come in here recently with @ horseshoe. “ "Look, Lucile!’ he says. ‘I found %. Tm agoing to have some good duck.’ , “*and you come in this place tv ? J says with a hard look Sure!” “Then I take etarted yet.’ “Oh, I don't know,’ he say Cn it the luck ain't ‘G.m- weno sp cnn tagnesaysanns It in London— HRS SNOB.IS CALLING Like Himself, Just as * SHE HAS HEARD WE Wi . (The New York Urening World) Not only is she one tries to select a man who is just the opposite type of her husband. She wants her daughter to have an ideal husband, the type of man she neies she missed, If she has mar- ried 4 practical, busin man you wili find her selecting a Professicnal or artistic son-in-law, a man who will take his wife out eve- nings anc d. all the things her hus- band failed to do. On the other hand the wives of artists, musicians and creative temperamental folk will se- lect a hard-headed business type of man as an ¢ligible son-in-law. “But neither matchmaking papas nor mitenmaking mammas can solve this question of marriage as well as the man and the girl,” concluded Dr. Brill. “Marriage is a vocation, a ca- reer, a calling, and only the two—the man and the girl—really know. Will some one please page the Lon- don matchmaking papas? TELL HER WE HAD BLUFFS | WHAT oYor? Copyright, » by the Press Publishing Co, (The New York Evening Worl.) QUESTIONS. 1. In what position does a butter- fly hold its wings when at rest? 2. Wha® country in proportion to size produces the most butter? MY COOK SAW YOu Tis SUMMER 3. Where di called Bushm Savecnt® 4. With what vegetable did Bur- bank experiment in his first work in plant breeding? ‘ ea evils sity BS the El-Azhar, 0 je olde: i i i the worla? st university in . 6. What element in the cocoa bean is extracted the manufacture of cocoa and retained in the manufac- ture What ssortteli did Will . lat portfolio dij iliam C, Redfield hold in th - ident Wilson? ey abies efi res 8 Which continent produces the least coal? 9. Which country next to the United Stason produces the most coal? 10. Where is the world’s chief source of cobalt? ANSWERS. 1. Vertical; 2, Denmark; 3, South Africa; 4, potato; 5, Cairo; 6, fat; 7, Seeretary of Commerce; 8, Africa; 9, Great Britain; 10, Cobalt, Ontario. You Beat It! DON'T TELL HER WE STOPPED AT THAT CHEAP BOARDING HOUSE is bs ere SHE WILL ASK WHERE WE THE. EVENING WORLD, MONDAY, AUGUST 29, _ By Mauri a aes By Doris “TELL HER WE STOPPED AT THE HOTEL DE BILLION. has tried to force upon her in no other country will we find t WHY EXPOSE OUR J “tention musy be. i devot ol POVERTY ¢ oe ae ats development but also to the shape- lines of the limbs: A log that does not taper but ends in a thick, clumsy ankle detracts from the general good appearance of the entire body. The daily care devoted to the im- provement of the A SUITE . EVERYBODY IN SUMMER I DIDN'T) 1 DIDN'T SEE HER ( SE HER SHOW HER THESE POSTCARDS OF THE HOTEL DE BILLION You PROBAB WOULDN'T SHE STOPPED ATTHE HOTEL DE BILLION LY leg and foot is of importance . equal to the care yiven the face and the hande. Good circulation in the extremities «is an indication of general good health. All day long your feet are en- cased in prison celis of leather, and this to a certain extent intpairs free circulation in the leg, so {t is abso- lutely necessary for you to take some means to send the blood to the ex- tremities. Sv much for the side of health, and as regarda beauty, 1 know by the many letters [ have re- coived how keenly you feel the em- barrassment of the too thin or over- fat limb in the present short skirts. To-day's leswon is selected _ be: cause of its particularly beneficial effect in molding the limbs into shapeliness. These after-bath rubs that I have been giving you offer a jeans of quick massage of every portion of the body, A few minutes devoted to practising this leg mas- sage will give a much needed stimu lation to your feet and legs, As thes* rubs are taken immediately after the bath, the pores have been opened by I read your articles every night on how to reduce your weight. Would like to know how to in- ore: y weight. | am twent: twe yeare old, weigh, 110 pounds and am 6 feet 71-2 inches in height. | drink on an average a quart of milk a day, and for the past three weeks have been tak- ing a half pint of cream also. | % lote of candy, ice cream and try, but to pick up e' ‘The milk and cream that you are taking are very good for you, but I do not adyise the overeating of, candy, pastry and ice cream, espe- clally between meals, because It will Courtship and Marriage Consright, 1921, by the Pres Publishing Co, man would be unable to supply. ing World), (The New York & : . ork Rrening Wor Your first duty is to your parents, Die eh u ary and I have found that the young Ha be on cred girls who appreciate this fact are ? ing and in love ‘the ones who come out on top with my parents’ chauffeur, who “Dear Mies Vincent: 1 :hi is two years my senior. I have sen keeping company with a known him for six months, and Sou n°ePne Sorttalong friend am sure he ambitious and for about six months. He treate clever as he ie good looking. He me wonderfully and takes me to as told me he reciprocates my sement. | affection, but my parents ebject NA eciasc eb diteatld ike hi h friend, to him, saying he would never do bce. Sum Ny mah et a nok for me. Since then they have believe ! ever shall, He says he discharged 1 was heart- Deeken anullle tw deve ene loves me and, although | have told him how |! feel, he thinks that at some time | may care more for him and hopes some day to make me his wi will please adviee me if it ie proper for me to take his evenings and pleasu: when | feel this way toward-him or do you think I had better drop the friendship? “M. 8.” If you enjoy his companionship and are perfectiy frank in telling him you are simply a friend and do not feel you care enough about him to ever marry, 1 think you are safe in going about with him. Of course, the girl who pretends she will some day wed is really jilting a man under these conditions, Many girls have exactly this same platonic friendship for young men, but would not think of marrying them, Dear Miss Vincent: | tinually asked my fiance kiss me, yet she considers this impertinent, | would | know what course | shail have to follow in order to break our engagement. What is your vice? J. P. I am afraid you have selected an loicle for a fiancee. Of course every engaged man and girl kiss. Why nor talk to the girl's mother and if you find they are so very prudent, gets nervous and his eyeglasses fall break your engagement at once. off his nose into the soup, That . Answer te ANXIOUS and LONE- starts me on a lecture about luck, LY: I do not know the name o* ““They ain't no such a thing.’ I any home where you might find the ‘Superstition is all bunk.’ type of wife you seek, Howe: C T guess you're right,’ do not believe you would be happy ‘You can have this horseshoe, under thdge conditions, Why not “No, thanks!" I tell him, Well, to go to a different town and meet make # long episode short-winded, he some one entirely different? There tak 8 horseshoe and out he goes.” are many shop girls and working b didn’t you accept the shoe?” women of about your own age who i n, and, “Dear was Friday, the Thirteenth, and, be- lieve me, 1 ain't got any use for that teen and h been goin: with a boy of eighteen, He when he came to me and said he had arranged for us to be married secretly. |! was rather startled and asked for time for consideration. What course shall 1 follow? UNCERTAIN.” Do not elope with this young man, The very fact that you asked for time to consider his plan of a secret marriage shows that you have good common sense, Think the matter over and you will see that your par- ents are right, not so much because he is a chauffeur but because they probably know that you would ex- pect things in life which this young * (The Now York Evening World) me some bean soup.’ “I do a cat-step to the kitchie and soon he has his soup. Right away he finds a fly in it. “‘Retter get the old horseshoe to working,’ I says. “Next he drops his fork, and in bending over to get it splits his coat, “‘When does the equine footwear start funkshuning” 1 ask “ ‘Never mind!" he growls, ‘Then he Says. asked combinatioa,” seems By Betty Vincent oy to think a great deal of me but he is an awful tease. | am a girl that cannot stand teasing. Through his teasing we are al- ways quarrelling. What shall | do? M.S. C.” Join the “Old Maids’ Club” or else get into the spirit of teasing your- self. It is evident that you have no brothers or playful masculine cous- ins, Why not get up a few teasing stunts yourself and have a little fun? ® 1 The Jarr Family “W deal,” a good example. high ily. “They replied Mrs, Jarr, lineage, i By Marguerite Mooers Marshall,’ Copyright, 1921. by the Press Publishing Co, Even though a matchmaker has heard that marriages are made in heaven, she conceives heaven needs herself as an outside selling agent. bribe the janitor to do the work. Chief among the present “problems of the girl” is the resumption of diplomatic relations with the man, or men, at home, to whom she has by becn “too busy” to write all summer. Tne wicked flee when no man pursueth, but so do perfectly good They know it's the surest way of inviting pursuit. Add bitter pills: The realization of the woman who has lived long enough to BE interesting that she has lived too long to “LOOK interes:ing.” ‘This is the time of year when the summer widower is trying to strike the solden mean between not looking plump and happy enough to rouse suspicion and not looking so pale and hollow-eyed that a remorseful wife wornen (The Now York Brening World) sows, “I NEVER will go away and leave you alone again.” Home is a vastly overestimated spot; the manners of its inhabitants arc atrocious and their mannerisms are worse. The first Delilah started a scandal when she had the hair of some one else cut, but the Delilah of to-day isn’t even allowed to cut her own hair ia peace, The friendships of summer are touched by frost almost as soon as summer flower HAT did they ever do for us?” asked Mr. Jarr gloom- did a “They We. who come of being descended the de Jarrs of old Provence, should be inspired by the principle of noblesse oblige.” “It's been a hard summe: | Maxims of a Modern Maid | HEN a man offers to fix a squeaky door or a balky window his sense of nobility is so strong that he doesn't realize how often, after wniting two weeks for him to make good, his wife has to Great set from sighed named By Roy L. McCardell i + Jarr, “Clara Mudridge-Smith is buy- ing books on heraldry and is hunt- ing for a coat of arms of her hus- band’s ancestors, and he's your em- Mr. Jarr, “and to make it worse, here "1 go ancestor hunting. I'm with President Harding and I say, too, we should return to normalcy and never mind the Norman blood. Anyway, it's my ancestors you are talking about, and I don’t believe there were any de Jarrs, or that they ever came from Provence. Providence, Provi- dence, R. 1, yes, but not Provence. To tell you the truth, I rather think the Jarr family originated in Jugo- Slavia.” “1 might know you would only make fun!" whimpered Mrs. Jarr, “I have to get some new engraved sta- 1 know the old man; he won't be interested in ancestors, I'll bet you!" replied Mr. Jarr. “and why do you think so?” Mrs Jarr inquired, “Can you sell goods to ancestors?” asked Mr, Jarr. “That's what the boss is interested in, selling goods, Ancestors may be refined all righ when you do dig up; but they are dead ones. Our business is whole- sale woollens and it is confined strict- ly to selling to descendants. Know any good prospects? Copyright, 1921, by the Press Publishing Co, TT" American woman has refused to adopt the if a moderately short skirt is Answers to Readers’ Questions. eee How to Reduce Your Weight | Right in Your Own Home | Shapeliness of Lower Limbs and Ankles Aided by To-Day’s Exercise. Doscher. ; (The New York tvening World.) ‘ the new styles, he limbs of the and rightly so, as in women so universally to remain in fashion. LEG AFTER-BATH RUB. the warm er and stimulated by fi r, Added to (hia, the neficial effect of the rub helps to the fat and more evenly » your welght. otice in the illustration the body is bent so as to enable you to grasp both ankles firmly. With a rotary mot using a forceful stroke, move the is around and up the Tes. This will improve not only the saepe of the limbs bur will cure cold fest The arteries situated In the ankles «re very impo: t and the increased @iP. culation that will be yours after peac- tising this exercise will have a won- derful toning-up effect Beginning with the towel rubs, go through the entire set of after-bath rubs in the order given, finishing up with a good brisk stroke as (Hustrated nd each morning will be 3 ation. upset ” digestion and then you will not assimulate your food and cannot gain. Be careful to thorough. ly masticate all of your food and to eat plenty of exgs, butter and green vegetables. A half hour rest betere and after the meuis will give othe blood time to circulate to the stom- ach and prepare the digestive orguns for your meal. Try getting a tow hours more sleep and I am sure that you will gain, : If Mrs. E. Brown will send me @ self-addressed envelope I will give her a personal reply. If M. M. of Benton Harbor will send me a addressed envelope I wii give her a pe al reply. t am asventeen years of age, weigh 106 pounds, and am very in appearance. My height is 5 feet 4 inches. Kindly tel me how much | should weigh and how | can gain a little in weight. F. De. For your age and height you should weigh about 125 pounds. Try drink- ing plenty of milk and eating more green vegetables, eggs and butter You must get plenty of sleep and e& ercise in the open air. ‘Try to rest half an hour before and after each meal. Be cheerful, especially at mea! time, as laughter has a tendency tv make you stouter. 8.0. S 146 pounds. ~You should weigh about See above suggestions . D.—Nee above suggestions, \ elder person would require less ex: cise and more attention to the d and more rest and sleep. tionery this fall, if 1 ever have the money to spare, and Mrs Stryver's triend, the Baroness Bris, sug- gested she would look up our lineage, and it was she who told me that our line must have sprung from the de Jarrs of Provence.” “Even so," Mr. Jarr persisted, “what have the line from which we have sprung ever done for us?” “Phey have evidently not implanted any family pride in you, id Mrs Jarre “But nothing T ever do seems HOW TO BIND UP A WOUND. few persons know how to PRY bandage a to please you. J am sure my reading finger. Select a this book the Baroness de Bris narrow strip of gauze or mus- ght me. ‘Researches Among the pl aaa ab ibe Ancient Cymic Nobility, ina retines |@ 21-2 yards long by 1 inch wide. Peay er Seca teacpu dieean Pass one end around the wrist with “Well, I wasn't objecting,” remarked « few circular turns, carry it diagon- Mr. Jarr'quickly, for he realized that ally over the back of the band to the not only was the pastime Mrs. Jarr injured finger, cover the tip (first phalanx) with several recurrent laps, hold these in place with a few cir- cular turns, then spiral reverse your bandage the length of the finger until ¢ iM reached, opposite the inner diagonal engaged in refined but, for the time being at least, it cntailed no exponse. “Yet it has always been this wa complained Mrs. r. “When J got interested in the Higher Thought and spoke of plain living and high think- ing, you only made fun and said you preferred high jiving and plain think- cross your strip on Ing, I am sure it {8 better to be in- hand ‘carrying your end under base terested in one's ancestry than in of thumb to wrist, where you pin ur psychoanalysis like Clara Mudridge- tie it to other end of bandage. Smith now is, and going around and = What advantages has a bandage telling people that everybody who of adhesive plaster? Being firmer it does wicked things is m@re normal offers greater support to broken than those who behave themselves, bones and torn ligaments. It torn and that people who are Interested an accessory muscle in muscle stra in doing good are simply the victims holds or of repressed desires.” ping (lumbago, éc,); it fixes injured parts more securely in ry What Would YOU Have Done? By Richard S. Uhrbrock. Conyright, 1921, by the Prem Publishing Co (Phe New York Evening World AMES SLOCUM had always wanted @ collie puppy, but bis father could not afford to buy such an expensive pet lor him. One evening the family beard a dog whining and scratohing at the door, When James opened the door be found a young collie puppy on the step, The boy was Drought the dog into the house, Slocum saw how overjoyed Jatnes was When the boy asked, y L keep him, tather? May 1 keep him?” delighted with his th the puppy, find and Mr. he found it hard to suy that every effort must be made the dog to its owner, to return What would you have done? 1, Nothing. the dog? Let the owner bunt fo 2. Advertised for the ewuer? “Go the limit on the Higher Thoughi! noot the whole works on the an- stuff!" cried Mr Jarr eagerly their normal anatomical relationa; it cun be left In place longer than’ an ordinary bandage, It must be re- membered that the skin should first be prepared for an adhesive dressing: & cestry I'l] take everything back if you'll only otf lay psychounulysis, By golly! They are bringing psychoanalysis into thws if hairy it must be shaved and » the business world So far they are the skin scrubbed with equal parts not digging back into dreams, ex- of vinegar and water cept pipe dreams—for into 'the science Suppose you want to bandage a of character-analysis’ and ‘the psy- sprained ankle, a fractured leg, # chology of selling” We were to have chronic varicose ulcer, or a dozen and lectures on those bughouse theories one things that may demand such at- in business by professors of ‘selling- tention in this situation. Your first psychology’ down at office, only consideration would b business ted to pick up, and the something that will hold 8 mind ut it Remember always that ase don’t interfere with a bandage must perform me if Lam at so harmless a diversion things: (1) hold @ dress 2 as tracing our lineage,” said Mrs. port a part, (3) exert Dama Copyright, 1921. by the Presg Publishing Co Until the Doctor Comes By Charlotte C. West, M. D. (Tue New York Evening World ) should select a bandage preferably of unbleached muslin five yards long b» two and a half ine wide, Now fix with a few circular turns around thr ankie, carry it down across the foot to the base of the toes—exposing the instep with spiral cle ankle with five sim- rv turns, pass on up the ley tl turns until reverses are by the calt, embrace this n figure of 8 reverses and finish bee low the knee with a few circular This is the only bandage will hold absolutely its posi- pass up tu which tion while walking about. It is a splendid supporting and protecting bandage, as it conforms to the contout of the limb 6 ra Going Down! AR Friends—I¢ you want wealth, why not be like & | the wealthy? “Poor people” are the greatest ¢ » talkers in the world, Million: sires say little. Money is at- tracted to silence even as fish are attracted to silent, still pools. The word in this connection is POISE Instead of trying to get money strive for poise and you will have alt you need. What are you worrying about, anyway? Do you know? Sincerely, * ALFALFA SMITH, long skirt that Parta/ ace eee