The evening world. Newspaper, March 22, 1921, Page 21

"TUESDAY, MARCH 22, 192 Rules for Success By Business Women ( TO GET ONE ) DEVELOP SENSE OF HUMOR UBSTITUTE CHEER FOR WORRY MUST GIVE These Are Maxims Devised by Three Prize Winners Out of 2,000 Contestants Who Wrote Essays on “How I Earn My Salary and What My Salary Earns for Me.” By Roger Batchelder. Copyright, 1921, by the “Develop a “Be thrifty.” If you are a tusiness woman ahd Would be a success, follow these rules ‘hey are not written by one woman, ut by three, each one of whom at- tained happiness and success by three difverent roads and by telling of experiences won prizes in a contest recently held py the Bank of the United States, for which 2,000 New York women wrote essays on the subject, “Wow I Earn My Salary, and What My Salary Earns for Me.” Three society women, Mrs. Vincent Astor Mrs. J. B. Harriman and Mrs. James lees Laidlaw, were the judges. “if T had dreams, stern reality forced them into the ackground,” wrote Miss ‘Edith M. Rohr of No. 69 West Tenth Street, whose essay won the first prize of $100. “Making ends meet was not as fascinating as weay- ing a daisy chain, and ‘passing the b was then unknown. The only time I had to dream was at night, and in my sleep; they were usually unpleasant dream visions of a need to provide. I soon learned that life was ‘So much for so much.’ To get, one must give. Through the years I have given the best that is in me “To get, one must give.” There, in- deed, is an axiom which so many fail 10 recognize as the truth. ‘ And again, "Give the best that {9 in you.” To-day, because she followed those two precepts, Miss Rohr is the exec- utive secretary of a firm of prom- inent architects, and is content. “| earn my salary in a more inter- esting way than ever before,” she declares “The conditions under which the work is done are not en- tirely satisfactory—i. e., bad lighting arrangements, insufficient heat and k of fresh air. But if oo is in- terested these things fade. ‘Considewing ‘the difference in the personattties of the men, the posi- tion calls for much tact and toler- ance; close attention to detail, infinite patience, stick-to-itiveness and a Vast sense of humor. I might say iat, witMout a sense of humor, the woman in business is a failure.” The reason for the failure of many girls who work, according to Miss Rohr, 18 that they regard business merely ag a stepping-stone to matri- mony. “With me," she goes on, “it has ever been a matter of money, with the thought uppermost that to jive, one must work.” This woman, who spells suecesa with a capital 8, found that she could not do her best work unless condi- tions at home were conduc) to rest ind comfort. Accordingly, she made her apartment a real home, not mere- ly a place to live in, but a home with books and other creature comforts which her salary provided. A dime savings bank, purchased during the war, when humanity made constant calls on her generosity, has civen her the habit of systematic saving, and now every dime which she finds im her purse at the end of the day goes into the little bank. “While other women build their castles in the air, I'm building some- thing more substantial,” she oon- cluded, “Tife has taught me to face facts, I believe in preparedness. To us comes that inevitable time when active life is through. Age must make way for youth. And what more di tressing than unprovided-for old age ‘The true meaning of the word “Salary” came to Mrs. Mary John- THE EASTER GIFT. ASTER gifts now have the right of way in the shops. In jewelry, bracelets and pendants are prominent. Dainty gifts seem more ap- priate for Easter. Ivory domi- noes in @ glass-covered case of sapphire blue leather are the acme of daintiness, A Fifth Avenue shop is showing a novel alarm clock that is a beautiful boudoir ornament. It is mount- ed on a buse of rose quartz, and the novelty tiles in the fact that you can ascertain the time at night without opening your eyes —just push the little ruby but- ton at the top of the clock, and it will chime the hour just passed and the minute, A bottle of perfume is an ideal Haster gift. ‘There seems to be no limit in the novelties that are being used as contain- ers for perfume, One firm is showing an exquisite pertume bottle of baccarat glass in the new low, wide shapes. Perched on top of the glass stopper is a cute little good luck elephant. Of course, a girl appreciates the bottle quite as much as the per- ‘Preas Publishing Co, (The New York Byening World és © get, one must give.” ‘Suhetitute cheer and hard work for worry.” ense of humor if you haven't one.” PORCELAIN STATUETTE. A PARIS FAD REVIVED a ET ETITE, gorgeously colored porce- lain statuettes are the rage in the best novelty shops of Paris, after an absence of many years. American tourists are buying up the pieces at fancy prices, Here is a deli- cately executed piece called “The Car- nival of Venice,” that sold for $26. Son of No. 434 West 47th Street, the winner of the second prize of $50, When she lay on a sick-bed in the hospital. After the death of her hus- hand she began to worry, and before long completely undermined her health. The doctors made her prom- ise that if she recovered and was able to go back to her baby she would never again worry. ‘That was six- teen years ago, and to-day she has a happy, well educated daughter and owns a ‘bungalow in the suburbs. “Substitute Cheer and Hard Work for Worry’—that is her maxim for success. “When I left the hospital T rented a flat of six rooms,” she writes, “fur- nished with furniture from the auc- tion rooms. Three of the rooms I rented out, in this way paying m own rent and allowing me thre rooms for my own use. Of cours this meant getting up earlier eac morning and working a little later keop my home tidy. I devoted one night a week to sewing, making my own and my little girl's clothing, 1 put my daughter through school and gave her music lessons, as she was nuusically inclined, She was graduated at fourteen, and after a few years in high school secured an office position, continuing her work at night school. With her salary and my own ¥ could now do a great deal more,” Not long afterward Mrs. Johnson sublet her apartment and bought a bungalow, placing a deposit on it and paying monthly instalments from her own and her daughter's salary. ‘We were and felt very rich in- deed,” she asserts, “with a home in the city and another jin the country. “I believe that work is the mother of invention,” she declares finally, “and that we would never be where we are to-day if it was not for han work, Work means pay and pa means Money, and using it properly so that it will m n something to You in your old age, you can say—'I sul have my sal You may not have children or friends, but you won't need them if you have your salary.” The winner of the $25 prize, Mollie F. Kelly, emigrated from Ireland in May, 1914, and came to New York alone, ‘Through a friend of her mother's she obtained a position. Her first savings she sent to a girl who had advanced the money for her pas sage, and after six months she was able to buy a suit of clothes, hat and shoes, and also send $20 to her mother. Despite sickness and lack of work, she now has money in the bank When she worked for the Govern ment during the war for $19.90 a week she saved half. To-day, at the age of twenty-four, she is worth $1,500 and is able to send money home regularly These three women have mad good, One, a girl, had to give up her dream castles and earn hor bread D Ret, One must give,” she learned and she recognized the jo much for so much. Don't worry,” says “Cheer and hard work are substitutes.” “Re thrifty” immigrant girl. Even though each woman laid stress on a different means to atta n- ing the goal of success, one can see that that alone would not have been sufficient. Their creed was the sam: and by following it thoy succeeded, as every ome, man or wo succeed it he or she follows it,” a t that the next excellent “Life is the slogan of the — | BOUGHT THIS® HAT JUST ( For | Fy WHEN You COULD GeTA zs NICe HAT 4 ON THERE WAS A TIME erent Beat It! WHAT DID YOu ( PAY FOR IT 9 +~— - 4 Ron ee pe) YES, IT'S MOSTLY CASH AND NO Se ering fo serps > Cough, ‘The Peowe 1 THEY SEEN TO THINKS EVERYBODY ; IS CRooKED Se WEAR IT TO A ( PARTY AND _ / SEND IT BACK NEXT: Day mia ) OLD BAYS OF / TRUSTING THE SRT REGAIN ECRTWENE ETT Hemet MY ! IT'S Lots oF NONEY FoR A HAT To WEAR. 2 HATE THAT CASH BUSINESS, IT'S AN INSULT TS OUR Yes THE Goop ied Says if MoreWomenWould Look After Their Homes and Rear Babies There Would be Fewer Divorces “There is @ sight all hearts beguiling. A youthful mother to her infant «mi ing, Who, with spread arms and danciny feet And cooing voice, returns its answer sweet.” By Fay Stevenson. Copyright, 1921, by Tee Prem Pu {the New Yor Drona Wort s 66] there anytiing in this world of ours that can be compared to a helpless baby?” That is the opening sentence of an article sent to The Evening World from an old-fashioned mother of thirteen ehfldren, This woman is Mrs. J, A. Boland of Pontiac, Mich, Eleven of her chil- dren are now living, the eMest being twenty-four, the youngest three. Mrs. Boland believes that motherhood is a woman's noblest work and that the woman who is a mother should con- tent herself with maternal duties There will be some who read this g00d mother's philosophies and senti- ments who will sniff and shake their heads. Motherhood is not the goal Or ambition of the typically modern woman. And yet I sometimes won. der if the woman who dodges m ternity, who fondles a lapdog spends her time at or behind a desk doesn't regret her earlier ress olutions when the silver threads be- clubs or gin to appear in her hair, 1 won der if she feels as if she had got all the sweetness out of life. Read some of the extracts from this old fashioned mother’s article and 8 what motherhood has meant to her, She writes: “How many women there are who don’t want to be troubled with babies, Women want to be leaders in public Mfe rather than leaders of homes or to be mothers, ‘Elt the women of to-day were com- polled to look after the home and the SS care and rearing of qhildren there would not be the vast number of di vorces that there are to-day. “Women can't be business women and mothers. Women can't be club women and The young married woman who stays on at busin: keeps other young girls who need work from ob If the man starting out can't keep a wife, then he'd better remain single. “I saw the other day where a noted preacher said that one way to stop divorce was not to patronize the mov ing pictures where such people played, ‘That is one way, but the other is not to employ married women, are many beautiful girls who ony “ed MRS. T. A. BOLAND AND TWELVE OF HER THIRTEEN CHILDREN. and waiting a chance to make @ name for themselves, but these women who do not want to be bothered with ba- bies push them back and the men in business who employ these women are to blame. “But after all, who is the happiest woman in the whole world? It is the mother, the real mother. It is the woman who knows the joy of a baby's kiss and soft arms about her neck ‘I speak from years of child study and motherhood. “Nor does a woman know the full meaning of motherhood unless she cates for the child herself. The rich mother or so€alled society woman who leaves the care of her children te nurses gets very little real happi- ness through her motherhood, ' -—— “Then there is the wife pt the tray- elling man, the man who 1s away from home. His wife has all her time to dress and parade for the benefit of the other woman's hus- band. Whe . ‘Have you any babies?’ 6 her should and with a baby stare and a ‘We never had any.’ "Many times I have shocked these women by telling them I have had thirteen bi man who meets an Well, Jolin, have you & family? and hears, ‘Oh, no! My wife is in the hospital most of the time. “But how many think or know the real reason, It is that they do not want to be bothered with a baby “And yet the her life to her babies, the woman who has her ebildren because she kuows that it i God's will, is the only happy ‘woman on earth.” woman who devotes dies MODERN MAID. * BY MARGUERITE MOOERS MARSHALL Copyright, 1981, by the Preas Publishing Co, (The New York Rrening ] N the dav morass we call life, love is the one light—even though it be a “ae flickering will-o'-the-wisp, which evades us, cheats us and et last breaks our hearts. Yes, Cecile, modern girls are wild young things, but at least they do hot say to the suitor who has swallowed the hook, after a year’s anglth “Oh, Archibald, little me!” I never dreamed If only there were some morsel of flattery which would have on a tall man the universal, irresistible effect of telling a short man that he looks like Napoleon! To some of us the most detestable persons on earth are the pseudo nature lovers ‘who use the woods and the sea to point their platitu- dinous morals and who would pat- ronize a wild flower! Why is it that a woman rather likes to present an “old flame” to her husband, while a man dreads nothing so much as the appearance on the horizon of an old sweet- heart? What any girl wants in a lover is the technique of an expert com- bined with the enthusiasm of an amateur. Every man believes there should be quantity production of children in the home—always provided {t ts not HIS home! A per- twelve- Definition of an optimist ton who has watched a year-old boy handle a gun, and who still believes that the Le je of Na tions or the World Court can pre- vent wars, The most thrilling sins are always those which we do not commit—but to which we confidentially confess. In-laws are persons whom one loves from a sense of duty, but with most blood relatives even that motive is insuMotently compelling. you would care for poor, SAE No. 3. MRS. MOLLIE NETCHER NEU** . RS. MOLAR NETCHPR NEU. BERGER, who is sole owner and manager of one of ¢ jangest department stores in Ameri¢d, is anoth American woman who earning $50,000 a year or more, store is located in Chicago and | sald to have an annual ness of close to $20,000,000, ¥<JARR FAMILY By ROY L.MFCARDELL. e t, 191. by The Prem Publishing Co ore Now York Kvening World.) 77 OW, don’t go out, please,” re- marked Mrs, Jarr, as ehe noted Mr, Jarr betrayed symptoms of wanderlust, “Mrs. Ran cle is coming in for a few moments, and I want her to se you in your own home for once! Besides, you should stay about the house long enough to establish a legal residenc “Legal residence?” repeated Mr. sounds like divorce law “You never mind what it is,’ said Mrs, Jarr, “Here comes Mrs, Ran- can't stay my dear," re marked Mra. Rangt after she and Mrs. Jarr had kissed each other. “lL know my husband will be running out the minute my back is turned, al though 1 told him to stay and ke: an eye on the ebildren till | returne Where do the men go, now that the saloons are done away with, I won “Phey go bowling and to the bill ard rooms and play kelly pool and rker pool—wWhatever those thinks 1 now we will have to @ h those places.” “They'd only get up other resc rhaps worse,” sald Mrs. Rangle ‘Well, we could keep on abolish- Mra. Jarr dectared, and Mr. huddered. Have you read d Mrs. Rangle. ‘Main Street'?” Did you like "ve read it, but I can't say I like "replied Mrs, Jarr, “How did that ung woman in it expect to reform a whole town? Reform should begin at home.” “It can't be done,” remarked Mrs, angle, wistfully rm sure I tried to do tt, but I'l bet that husband of mine has gone out the minute I left the house. How can you reform them at home when they won't stay fake them stay home,” suggested Mrs, Jarr, and she gave her husband 1 menacing glance that stopped him is he was stealing quietly from the room. t's all well enough for you to say W your husband is here and you are here.” remarked Mrs. Rangle. *But never mind that, my dear; what I called to see you to aak you about is this new religion to worship bugs, an animated nature church or something like that. I hear Clara Mudridge- Smith and Mrs, Stryver are heading “Mr. Jarr and I were just talking about it,” said Mrs. Jarr. “I think It is the craziest thing I ever heard about “Still, there is good in ¢ Mrs, Rangle piously ave should not judge it until it plained to us “L hear some very nice people are Joining,” sald Mra, Jarre. “Will Mr Rangi¢ with you to the meeting at Mrs. Stryver’s to-morrow night?” He says he won't. I called to pee if Mr. Jarr would go with you." Wait, IL ask him," sald Mrs. Sarr “You noed not wait," Mr. Jarr de clared from the doorway. “Rangle ind 1 have an engagement to join a new beneficial society, "The Nuts of the Village!’ It is a more rational mevenent than being @ bug, don't you in! Ax) Mr, Jere was gone, ' . SABIAGE Copyright, 1931. hy che Pr (ibe New Vorkivenns Worlds oy 66 T YEAR Misi VINCENT SL 4 twenty years of age A want to gain the love ef irl whom 1 admire very he doesn’t seem to care much for” me, but she alwa ft friendly. PULLED.” You say in your letter that young lady always seems fri ie That is encouraging. Why not of your affection? Perhaps she thifiliy: you only feel friendly toward heér.: “Dear Mies Vincent: been going with a rand ti in her out a id that she whom she think it adv tinue going Girls of nineteen do not alwi know their own hearta, It ts ie for her to tell you the way she feels than to pretend she cares for yam deal. 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