The evening world. Newspaper, August 9, 1919, Page 11

MRs SOR NEW 1s tis, LAWRENCE elk Giese. Of a Middl 5 ‘ Should He Marry the Pret ~Girl” He Loves— He Merely Likes? 4 my figure portly I realize that if must make the great leap at once. “Lam on the verge of proposing ‘to one of two girls, but I cannot for the life of me decide which one I ought to ask to be my wife, It's a ease of being desperately in love with one ‘girl and knowing that the other would probably make a better wife for ® man in my circumstances. “The girl I love is very beautiful, but she knows nothing at al) about the practical side of life. Despite my age I am not a wealthy man, and I am very doubtful whether love in & cottage would bring either of us happiness. In fact, I simply can't picture this bewitching beauty In @ gingham apron toiling over a lot of dirty saucepans. “The other girl ts a plain, sensible girl and I hold her in the greatest re- epect and admiration. She is & and as far as making a good home is concerned she would make an ideal ‘wife, But while I'm eating the dain- tes she cooks so well I find myself not thinking of her but of the ttle beauty who doesn't even know how to boil an ess. “What I am wondering is, whether I could learn to love the sensible, practical girl and forget the beauty? Can a man learn to love his wife with F only a foundation of respect and ad- mulration to start on?” B. B, A great many men marry women when their better sense warns them against such a marriage. They some- times feel that although a woman will never be able to make them happy or to hold their love they are #0 very much in love at the minute that they are not willing to awake from their love dreams. They would rather go blindly on, spend a few. happy weeks of blissful honeymoon and then awaken to the awful truth— too late! But the man who marries a woman when he knows she is not practical, not @ good housekeeper, not eeo- nomical, not the mother type of wo- a man and possesses no tastes con- genial to his own, Js merely playing with fate. No matter how much he fancies he toyes that woman, he can- not expect to change her character- igtics or make her take his view- ES The Perplexing Love Problem thoroughly capable, domestic woman, | ANGEMAN e-Aged Bachelor ty but Impractical “ Doll OR. the Plain, Sensible, Capable, Home Making Girl By Fay Stevenson ‘The Press Publishing Co. (The New York Evening World) have remained single until forty-five because I have always been afraid I would. wed the wrong girl, but now that I am reaching middle life and my hair is getting scanty 1 ever wish to have a home and wife But, strange to say, even at my ma- ture, sophisticated age I am just as much at sea about choosing a wife and Just as afraid I shall select the wrong type of wife as I was at twenty-one. viting long years of unhappiness, while the man who marries a woman of tastes similar to hjs, who is ca- Pable, sensible and possesses at teast some of the qualities he expects a wife to have, will find the lesson of love not at all difficult. “The Choosing of a Wife” was thi text of a sermon preached last sprinj by the Rev. John Roach Straton at Calvary Baptist Church. After say- ing that life is composed of only two elements—woman and religion—Dr. Straton gave this advice to young men: “In choosing a wife, the wise man of to-day will choose a comrade, and not @ consort. “Man ‘should choose a character and not a complexion. He may while away idle moments with the fast and Mippant -voman; he may giggle with and fondle her, but when he marries baby to a pug dog. education. are often in direct ratio, strong drink come poorly prepared food.” he describes. by her physical attractions, plain but capabls girl ):.:n), her real wort’. tlons no ser favorable qualities what then? matrimony, golle eyes or wavy ringlets, ." It he persists in marrying gach o misfit wife he is simply tn- her, dance with her, drink with her he must look in another direction. He || will want @ wo..an who prefers a “Every young woman ought to be taught how to cook as a part of her Divorce and indigestion while melancholia, crossness and desire for a8 a result of and indigestible ‘That last paragraph particularly He is merely fascinated His appreciation of the qualities of the show there is deep-rooted admiration for Outside of mention- ing the fact that the girl he fancies he loves is VERY beautiful, he men. E.pposins that beauty should tade— The bubbles and froth of Ife are not what count in the long run of Man does not expect to live upon kisses and soft words, pa- It would be much easter to learn to love @ sensible woman. Fow men are 2on- tent to live happily with a wife who is vold of common eense about the aS MRS Fan: ERIC | FREUNG NOvSEN II, PERSONALITY, By Joseph French Johnson, carries a personality trade mark, | it with a clearness that seems ubcanny. of @ strong personality. worry about his stature, not depend on that. He may develop a ality though he be only five feet tall. Jay Gould, Russell slender men, Sage and E. At the same time, his body. qualities or characteristics will help a tions. about letters of recommendation than Business men care much less the applicant for a job imagines. Let ten men answer an advertise- ment, all but one having excellent references, If the personality of the tenth man is the most attractive, the chances are that he will get the job, Self-control, disciplined will pertains to our friend, the Bronx|with the condition, perhaps, that|#onality. bachelor, But I do not believe he is|upon investigation his statements really in love with the beautiful girl|about himself are confirmed. Power to make ih © personality of the right kind practical, vital things of life, no matter how beautiful she may be, A woman may have the most en- chanting eyes or the dearest little rosebud of a mouth, but she must he able to understand her husband, read .| his thoughts and make @ good home to hold his love, Some men actually like doll-baby wives. But woe to the man who ex- pects a doll-baby wife to keep house, bake ples or push a perambulator, He should remember such wives are luxuries, not necessittes, After waiting until forty-five to wed, what a tragedy it would be fur a bachelor to select a wife who couldn't even boil an egg! in critical worry enter, Worry chine will in time be @ young man who chine cannot fail to sentials Dean of New York University School of Commerce; Alexander Hamilton Institute; author of “Business and the Man.” Copyright, 1919, by The Press Publishing Co, (The New York Bvening World), ¥ the personality of a man we mean those qualities which singly or in combination distinguish him as an individual. Every one of us No matter how much we try to hide or disguise it- men of experience will always see Mere physical bulk is not essential to the possession Moral and mental character- His success in business does Let him remem- ber that Napoleon was bélow medium height, and that H. Harriman were man to make the most of his personality must take the best possible care of A personality which is the expression of desirable get a position, and will help him to rise to higher posl 1s Something that young men in busl- ness should take pains to cultivate, self-confidence, tesy, a mind eager understand and a resolute but well play an Part in the building of a strong per- By self-control we mean simply the the entire human machine do just what we would have it do and nothing else know that temptations to excessive indulgence in any kind of pleasure must be promptly denied do not let yourself get excited, and emergencies do not ‘are enemies of clear thinking, and If you do not think clearly your ma- seeks to get control of his own ma- ality and to increase the value of bis services a8 a business man, Self-confidence is one of the es- to business man who possesses it in a high de- Gree bas & personality which drives he ip twenty years old that oature New York Society Women at Newpo Social Activities of “Peace Summer’? Afford Them War-Time Work and “y ve" MRS KIN Camuev” MRS CRAIG BIDDLE. rt Sacrifice everything before it. Self-confidence ‘8 based on knowledge. Hence young ousiness men seeking to strengthen heir personality should devote a sood part of their time to the study *0f business principles and practices. A man must know the dimMeulties ly- ing in the path of his enterprise be- fore he can possess confidence in his ability to overcome them. Self-confidence {s not conceit. Con- celt rests not upon knowledge but upon vanity. Your truly’ self-conf- dent man may be very. modest and claim little for himself. He ts satis- fled to show his power by doing things, He has no fear at all of be~ ing underestimated, But the con- celted man, knowing in his heart that he i» really not what he pre- tends to be, unconsciously seeks to make himself seem very important. So he poses, throws out his chest, and is found out, Of all the single qualities which may be made to lift a man above the crowd, and so give him personality, courtesy would appear to be the one easiest to cultivate, All intelligent business men know the Importance of courtesy in dealings with cus- tomers, but they certainly have aim- culty in finding employees equally wise, Many a retail business man has ‘been wrecked by the brusque, unobliging, critical and sometimes (insolent attitude of clerks, Let a young man cultivate cheer- fulness, good manners, easy but cor- rect speech, cleaniiness and a good personal appearance, without aiming at foppery or succumbing to conceit, and he will certainly achieve a very desirable and valuable form of per- sonality, and’at+the same time he will be cultivating self-confidence, will and self-control. He will never be mistaken for a mollycoddie; i¢ he always has in mind the comfort of the other, fellow, he will never be too suave or too polite, A drop of honey sometimes is all right, but a bucketful is sickening. To cultivate the will means to cul- tivate the whole man. If a man is born with a smal) and . retreating chin, he will probably be told before President of strong person- young man to cour- to know and important Let the will In danger, let and excitement ditched, Surely conscientiously acquire person- success. The RTS LE ee The Four Cornerstones of Success has given him a weak will. Yet ® weak-willed, vacjliating man, if he is bandied right and is wise enough to handle himself right, can become 4 strong, forceful, dominating char- acter beforo he is forty. Let bim convince himself that hie character, his personality, need a stronger will, Let him picture to himself the joy he will find in pos- sessing that stronger will and the advantages it will bring to him in business and in all of life, Them he will find himself resolutely de- termined to do the things that make for strength and to shun the things that make for weakness, And his character and his personality will strengthen. He need not worry about his chin, A man of will does not do the things be wants to do if he knows he ought not to do them, and he does promptly things he dislikes to do if he knows he ought to do them. He Is not controlled by impulse oF the desires of the senses but by in- telligence and desire pulling together. When business men are looking for & man to fill any position, whether it be a humble one or a post of re- sponsibility, the impression made by the applicant’s personality is very important. It may be a good one and lead to further inquiry, or it may be @ bad one and cause the ap- plicant to be turned away without consideration, It would be impos- sible to describe the many ways in which personality 1s helpful,to a man in business, If you say that a man has a strong personality, it is the same as saying that he has strength of character, that im certain posi- tions he will be forceful, energetic, efficient, that bis opinions and sug- gestions will receive respect, wei ave Be oa aac WITH THE INVENTORS, For the comfort of traffic policemen an inventor has designed @ stand on which there {8 a seat and an um- brella, which also serves as a sun- shade, the usual semaphores being | mounted above the latter. ee | | To save ite user's knuckles when working close to a wall or floor an inventor has patentAl a saw with a bipged bande LMOST everybody gets bills, but there are only & few of us who know what to do with them after we get them. T have worked out a number of solutions for the bill ques tion, although I spent years in fnally perfecting a process that would be successful, One of the first ideas I had was to gather them up loosely under my arm and then walk down the street, letting thém drop in sort of careless, wistful manner, How- ever, this never worked out, as large numbers of people would insist upon picking up the bills I dropped and run after me, cry- ing out in loud, insistent tones that I had lost something valuable Sand begging me to please take them and be mote careful in the future. 1 also thought once of paving the bills I received and getting rid of them in that: manner, but I discovered that when I spoke of this my: friends told me 1 was crazy. Even those I paid looked at me in a curious man- ner; so in order not to seem peculiar I ceased this absurd practice and cast about for other methods, Finally, I per- fected a few methods, one of the most successful working out as follows: When I get bills I put them in my left-hand trousers pocke’ one after another, and then Ly twos and threes and tens, as thoy flow into me on the 1st and 15th of each month and the othe: dates between, When after « short while this pocket is full of bills 1 send the sult to the clean- ers. In a few days it comes back to me, frésh and lovely and to- tally immocent of any annoying suggestion of unpaid indebted- ness, and I put it on again and repeat the process indefinitely— well, at least, almost indefinitely. Another good way of dispos- ing of bills is to allow them to accumulate in your mail box and then when it won't hold any more move away, In this way you can continue until any one of three thin, happens: You run out of apart- ments to move into, you run out of movers or you are run into Jail. The latter solution is much more probable and is a consum- mation devoutly to be wished. How much, better it is than pay- ing Dills! Once lodged comfort- Ignorant Essays By J. P. McE Waar'TO vo Witt BATS uptodate furnishings and fi» tings can lend, you are free from the Worries and vexations of | bills, .Your rent is free, your { \ meals cost you nothing and your clothing is furnished you gratis, Success! Nothing could be fairer than that, ALFALFA SMITH. ° Yours truly, talking strike? did you ever hear an old bachelor Just another thought— what they want. “the missus” and the kiddies realizes he cannot give and with bie thinking he Father, begins to think ing lean. and the pocketbook is grow. shoes or need more food when the children need Now, @ time comes missus” and the kiddies, on for the sake of “the willing to work on—stri everything and ao he is wants the children to have provides for the family. He father is the mainstay, He and they come to realize that ‘The children are educated and on. . never can—and so he toils on he would like to be-—but self and he sees in them what are @ pocket edition of him- a real part of him. They because his children are I say he is a kind father “the missus” and the kiddies. when he shall come home to looks forward to the time All day long be toile and thoughtful, indulgent father. laboring man a very kind, You wil find the so-called for what do men strike? It would be better to ask, Do you know why men strike? the word STRIKE! something terrifying about 'Y DEAR FRIENDS: ‘Phere ig eID, the Pre Palsy (0 Ovprriglit, GOING UP