The evening world. Newspaper, July 16, 1919, Page 18

WEDNESDAY, JULY 16, 191 Let Hubby Tell You Of All Your Faults BECAUSE, MRS. NEWLYWED, It Gives You a Chance To Tell Him of His Don’t Be Afraid of the “First Quarrel” —Like @ Thunderstorm, It Only Clears the Air—And ¥ Can’t Really Please Each Other Until Each o You Knows What the Other Expects of You. By Fay Stevenson Copyright, 1 by The Press Publishing Co (The New York Brening World). : F course that “first quarrel” has) souls gnd bind them together for " to come some time, No matter|and do not suppose for a minute thet how sunny the day, how beautl- | they can escape these human storms.! \ ful the sunrise, how | They are as bound to occur as ot! glorious the sunset, | January snows, March winde, Aprit! They are a part of married} WEDNESDAY, JULY 16, 1919 “Every Woman a ‘Mrs. ~ Say Women of Germany “Right,” Says Dr. Davis: _ And Gives Her Views _ Men, Married or Single, Preserve Matrimonial In- cognito in Non-Committal “Mister,” Social Hy- _ giene Bureau’s Head Points Out, So Why Shouldn’t Women Have Same Privilege? But ‘That Is Only One of Several Interesting Argu- ments Here Presented. By Zoe Beckley Govrright, 1019, by The Pree Publishing Co, (The New York Kooning Worl.) HAT all women, wedded or sin; should enjoy the name, style and title of “Mrs.” is the burden of a bill prepared by German fraus and frauleins for the Assembly at Weimar. This,,Dr. Katharine B. Davis tells us, was one of the signs of the times which interested her on her recent six months’ tour of Ku. 4 + — - Read Character at Sight WHAT THE EYES TELL First of a Series of Articles, Extracts From a Course of Lessons Prepared by Dr. Katherine M..H. Blackford, the Famous Character Analyst—Dr. Black- ford’s Observations Are the Result of Studying 18,660 Men and Women ~ How to “9g Srooge < O REOU LOUS SUSPICIOUS how young the new | Showers and midsummer thunder- moon, how bright | storms, the stars, SOME | life. TIME there will be| We have all i met the couple whol declare that in all their married Mfe}| 28 wee ee eee a thunderstorm, a| } rope. Dr. Davis, formerly Commissioner of Correc- | windstorm and a/| they have never had ONE cross word./| | tion, now head of the Bureau of Social Hygiene ut | ; tempest. It is a|But when we look into their faces wel | No, 61 Broadway, went abroad for the Social Morality | MiRTHFOL INTELLIGENT UN BALANCED LOVING part of nature. It mista? ease ie setae ee ee | Committee of the War Work Counc], Y. W. C. A, to has to be. And tk Asus 7m a | 1 select delegates to Si i some of us are just | the Ananias Club, We know that they, unrare © Soneeetion Rare ta; September “We DO YOU KNOW ANYONE WITH EYES LIKE THESE? STUDY THE PICTURES, THEN STUDY THE PEOPLE YOU MEET. ans wild enough and|have had to battle with the elements Hi @iscuss fundamental questions involved in social moral: | 13 ; | the upper ard the lower eyelid and|staring or glaring eyes, are all in- heathenish esiough| of human nature, to tread the sam : ARE cciire tte Dall & aAlengtghiaete| so Maggi a By Marguerite Mooers Marshall thus tends partly to close the eve. | dications. of more or less serious| to enjoy these storme, We love them Matrimonial path and pass through ' women--or rathér the conferring of a title of dignity Comriaht, 1919, by Tho Press Prbtiah (The New York Brening World.) This also ie very eastly recognised. | mental disturbince. a# much as the calm, peaceful days|the vory same pitfall and etymbling upon ALL women—comes well in the category of social HEN you meet a new employce, a new friend, can you teil at sight) phe intelligent eye has lif ar-| “Affection, sympathy and love and| because they express a certain bois blocks as tho rest of us, We know. reform. W what gort of person he or she is? kle and glow. ‘There is an indefin- | other tender and gentle sentiments | terousness, an unruly wildness which | that they arc composed of the same \ In these days of general readjustment, fs it fair that man should go} Dr, Katherine M. H. Blackford can, That is why employers! abie something which shines out| give us a soft, glowing eye, partly | Shows nature Is not all monotony, berlin Surat tise Miho yds tell- , Blithely his way under the al! concealing, curiosity-piquing title ef “Mis: | depend on her to fit together jobs and the persons who| from it and can never be Mistaken. | closed by a half smile and very| Now most of ue have as moody a] they ate ah Sete oes We sir Gan ter” while woman must proclaim S12" 3 aT do them best. That is why she has advised so many | Pull or feeble mentality is sh sel to read by the careful observer. disposition as Mother Nature herself. | bo use they haug,not witnessed the } | RePepinsterhood or her married state |She may be an adorable, unselfish | young persons how to seek successfully for success, In|!" @ dull, rather expressionless, va-|gadness and resignation show in a|We have our serene, calm days Q24|..,445 of nature” and because they ne + avery time she is formally men-/#0ul who has denied herself every- a new series of seven simple lessons on “Reading Char cant-looking ey Iso very difficult| rather well-opened, hollow looking | we have our days of storms and LEM | nave never had the joy of “coming! h} toned? ~ thing for her siater’s youngsters. She to describe, but casy to recognize. eye." pests, Sometimes our hearts are! acter at Sight,” founded by the Independent Corpora- to an understanding.” They do notl “Mig whe secks refuge in plain, un-|™ay have spurned eighty-seven of- ; \oison naued | “Great nervous irritability, severe} And the quickest way of learning| cloudy amd we feel like “blowing” | j ora ; ; know the pssons ise. “Mary Jones,” some one Is sure| fers of marriage when she was a oe Dr, Blackiord NY oh Ra how eS be his vrei emotional excitement, mental unbal-|to distinguish these and other ex-|around and howling. Our environ- ‘They auca taleaed tae Toten cruel ) it Miss Jones or Mra,| Peachbloom girl. herlock Holmes, how to detect the character and intel) ice and insanity usually show| pressions, says Dr. Blackford, is to|ment may be all sunshine and love ‘ me =F x or married?” matching of .brains and the tuning} of two souls into one, know the supreme joy it ® one ever startles a| But does the office boy consider It Master |this? Does the renting agent? Does Or “Are|the hotel clerk? They do not. They Mervy, no! |glance at her card, curl a lip and ligence of the persons about bim just by looking a: | themselves plainly in the eye. Twitch-| imitate the expresaions you see with- them. ing, Jerking, unsteady eyes; eyes|out being able to identity them, and And after having studied no less than eighteen | which are glazed or too brilliant; eyes | e2 note how YOU feel when your eyes look that way. Only be careful thousand men and women, Dr. Blackford declares that | which are very dull, as If the eyeball | th vour unconsi 7 ‘dot but the storm is on within, Beware! If we did not have thie other side | to us we woukl not be of this earth. | We do not pose as angels without Nth They do not of “kissing 5 i and making up! i i i é i . 3 a Mould not ALL women attain majority be “Mis. So” and “Mrs. FH it [ , “Mastex" and write it : myself on record long ago,” Davis, “as favoring the abol- ©f labels which carry one’ te into public or profes- Alin ma Smith’ is ‘Doctor’ alike | the first name is Mary or | y should not a mature wom- presumably mistress of her | whatever they are, be ‘Mistress’ whether she is some or not? I think #he while I did not mak: Feasons behind the Ger- i ee ee a ee ee es ere i H hi | AT man ‘8 movement, their bill in- terested me as proof of progressive BE cave, retain reasons for ‘wanting the c' ? i one—that it is nobody's Whether you are married or id was the protection mother, This latter ne iin tt a a eS LL LL RS gg Rade [ , ask the German women | sniff. -other women, including | count.” “Hm—old maid—she don't So then, since the wedded wife may freely assume the unwedded tlie, abbreviate | for reasons, why should not the soli- just as men, | tary soul reap such reflected comforts | from boyhood, become |as may be borrowed from “Mrs."? That there ARE advantages in , Wearing the style of matrimony Is thown by the fact that nearly all whose miurriages have been dissolved for one reason or another retain the “Mrs.” although resuming the maiden name, Few women wha have once won their matrimonial diploma, so to say, are willing to relinquish the degree it conferred, Dr. Davis is syre the ancient preju- dice against the state of mature spinsterhood has not passed, nor wilt ever pass so long as women remain mothers of the race. Thoughtful per- sons, #he points out, realize that an unmarried -woman may be a truer, better mother-in-deed than many a mother-in-fact, But to the popular mind, ‘nothing takes the place of the hange. The first was | rundamental idea that wifehood and motherhood are women's highes: achievements. The woman who passes them by, or is passed by them, is a ‘woman to be pitied, if not scornfully ignored. “You remember ‘Mrs. Dowie’ in James ,.M. Barrie's ‘The Old Lady Shows Her Medal: ‘I never had a man nor a son nor anything. I just call myself Missis to give me a stand- ing’ “That shows how most folks feel about it At all events,” thinks the former ~ Correction Commissioner, “since most American girls in their carly twenties are either marked out for marriage or for some special call- ing, the title ‘Mistress’ is appropri- ately earned. I would have the term ‘Mistres? or ‘Mrs.’ apply generally as signifying grasp of affairs, grown- upness, the full-flowered mind, and not specifically to the social state known a8 marriage. le have done once and forever with the words “old maid” te all be ‘“Missis,” girls, on our twenty- Gret birthday—and stay #o forever s the most eloqu Perhaps more than all the other fea- tures put together, I have sometimes thought that if we could learn to read! everything there is in the human eye accurately we could know the human soul, “The thousands of expressions by means of which the eye tells of the thousand different shades of thought and fecling and traits of character in their possessor are diMoult, indeed impossible, to describe. We can learn to know them only by study and Practice. It will be of some assist- ance, however, if you learn to classify some of the more obvious expressions of the eye. \ “Bince the eyelid is given to us by nature to protect the delicate and sensitive eyeball, its position on the eye indicates very clearly just what degree and kind of protection the in- dividual himself thinks or feels he needs, “Tt is evident, then, that the wide open eye—that is to say, the eye which is habitually carried wide open—indicates either ignorance of danger or carelessness of danger. The man who does not know that there is anything to fear is trustfully confiding, innocent and credulous. “On the other hand, the man who appreciates the danger but is not afraid of it, is nevertheless prepared to meet it and his eye is not so wide open, “Another function of the eyelid is to admit or exclude light from the eye, ‘The eye that is wide open, then, seeks to gain all the information that is possible, It is not only credulous, but it may be curious, or it may be full of wonder and awe, or it may be very alert and watchful, or it may be very highly excited and eager to seo everything that transpires. These expressions of the wide open eye are more transient than that of mere credulity or innocence. © * “Still another function of the eye- Md is to veil or hide the expression of the eye itself. The wide open eye, therefore, has nothing to hide. It is t features in the human face are the eyes. | “The eyes,” she explains in “Reading Character at Sight,” “tell you more about the character of their possessor than any other one feature, #fectly open. These traits go very \tself were dead or shriveled; wildly' catch you at w« cious models do not ‘k! wings. Therefore take two young) _ After the first little “tiff,” disagree ment or quarrel! (whatever way youd Perfectly honest, perfectly frank, per- well with credulity. The individual who readily believes everything that is told him is usually also ready to open up his heart and confido in almost any one, having“very little Proper notion of keeping his own counsel, “The honest eye, which yet guards its own privacy, 1s only moderately open, and has a calm, easy, direct, level gaze which Is unmistakable. “Just as credulity and trustfulness open the eye wide, so skepticism, shrewdness and suspicion close it, sometimes until there is only a nar- tow sHt of an opening through which the eye peers. Naturally suspicion, which has in it an element also of fear, closes the eye more than shrewdness and discrimination, The shrewd eye usually has somwhat of a droop at the outer corner, “Cruelty, coldness and lack of sympathy partly close the eye as if to shut out all appeals, In this ex- pression the eyelid appears to press down upon the eyeball, the lower edge of the lid drawing almost a straight! line horizontally across the eyeball. “The lying, deceitful, utterly un- trustworthy eye js also partly closed, ‘but in this case there is a furtive- ness, an unsteadiness, a shiftincss about the gaze which is also unmis- takable. Many dishonest people know that this is true and assume, for the purposes of deception, an in- nocent looking baby stare, which of- tentimes deceives the unwary, but need not deceive those who are very observant and watchful, Such an assumed expression cannot be main- tained successfully for a long time. UR ebon gentlemen from the FY ncient and highly romanced sec- “Mirthfulness, wich raises the wv corners of the mouth and thus tion of East Africa known as pushes up the cheek, partly closes|Abyssinia have just been received by the eye by pushing up the skin and flesh under it, giving characteristic wrinkles at the outer corners of the President Wilson at the White House. ‘This stately mission, clad in gorgeous UTS fected the Copyright, 1919, by The Press Publishing Co, (The New York Evening World.) holeproof casings, and are the favorite food of squir- rels, human and When nature invented and per- cunning laugh to think that here ‘was one time of us, But while nature was laughing we got busy and invent- ed the nut cracker. Nuts come in various sizes, colors and degrees of nutlitude, from peanuts which can be found in the ground and at baseball games to the walnut, which has a misleading name, since it does Ignorant Essays © © © NUTS By J. P. McEvoy. are hard boiled eats in boiled nuts when he co’ Pigeon toes. “Curved is the line of beauty” is her motto, Nuts can be.found in all the walks of life, from the lowly pea- nut which waxes to luscious ful- ness beneath the dark mold (ain't that pretty?) to the fuzzy cocoanut that swells to pleasant plenitude high among the frol- icking fronds of the majestic palm. Among those who are fondest of nuts are elephants, baseball fans and squirrels, I have often wondered why an animal as ex- pansive as the elephant should pick on the poor little peanut Pleasant eats as peas, otherwise, nut she laughed a low, ters, he had got ahead ing the nut she patted the back and said: of." Peanut butter. all his life filing his teeth on hard uld be sinking his face into such soft, soup, cheese and mashed potatoes, There ain't no sense in the crit- After nature had finished mak- herself on ‘Well, there is the nuttiest thing I can think Then man went ahead and . showed her up scandalously by inventing the nut sundae and In the parlance of the prole- terlat, any one who is a little cuckoo in the conk is quaintly not grow on walls, Nature, who when there isn't a kind word in a referred to as “a put.” This is @enigned the peanut, also do- toa of them, ; because, like # nut, he'll be signed bowlegs, knock knees and And consider what a darn fool cracked sooner or later, ae atic ut fssctns eye. velvets, jowels and cloths of gold, “Gross sensuality thickens both|headed by 4 dignitary by name nis Dadjazmatch Nado, are visiting | Washington tn the hope of estab- lishing closer relations between the most progressive country in» the : world and one of its quaintest, queer- ) tho squirrel is. Here he spends | est corners, Merely to speak the name Abyssinia calls up visions of barbaric grandeur such as surrounded the throne of Balkis, Queen of Sheba, and moxo modernly, her descendant, the late King Menelik, who figured im the world news 4 eration ago with Not less persistence affd far more pic- turesqueness than most twentieth century monarchs, Abyssinia now has an Empress, Ulzero-Zeddita, Queen of Ethiopia, now 43 years old, anda daughter of the famous Menelik. Zeddita rules over a land which Is conceded to be the most interesting of the East African states, , Old King Menelik distinguished himself especially in 1889 by signing |a treaty with Italy in which ran this |clause: “His Majesty the King of Kings of Ethiopia CONSEN'TS to make use of the Government of His Lieaierty the King of Italy for the World’s Queerest Nation, Abyssinia, Seeks Friendship of Earth’s Greatest treatment of aj! questions concerning} other powers/and Governments.” ‘The Queen's people number upward of 5,000,000, of which most are coal- black or chocolate-colored Africans, with @ generous sprinkling of Arme-| nians, Indians, Jews and Greeks, and @ dash of British, French, Rudsian) and Italian, The majority, of which] the present Abyssinian Mission are} samples, are well formed and hand- some, with good features, lively eyes) lant bearing. y speak a sort of Semitic dia- coming down straight from Ham, but unlike most Se- lect, Biblical mitic tongues, is written as ours is, from left to right. Travellers tell us the country is an amazing mixture of savcgery and lofty ideals which find expression in the most majestic ceremonies and customs. The state religion, for instance, is Christianity, which suddenly was grafted upon a seething mass of 4frican heathenism, Qne of the odd reguits is that acci- dental reinarien 18 accounted wil- ful murder, Dreams are used to detect crime, ag told of by Count Glehon in hi With the Mission to Menelik.” it tho prayers of the priest fail, and also his curses, some small boy is drugged and whatever person he dreams of is conceded to be the criminal, Travellers of some yearg ago tell us| of the diverting custom among the Abyasinians of curting steaks nnd chops off of live cows, Much of the meat is eaten raw, say they, or some, | i lke to put it) the average couple Jog along very well. The second “tft” | never hits a’ hard. But no one but | a newlywed can describe the agony! of that “first quarrel!" Probably if they look back they were just a: frightened when children over the first thunderstorm or the first hur-! ricane, ‘ ‘The husband gocs to business with } @ heavy heart. Will the world ever { be the same again? How can he face his fellow citizens, his business as- i soclates, since he has told his wife4 she is too extravagant and made her { ery! He, who used to call her “the } sweet angel of his life,” has made } | her weep as only a brute could. Was ‘hea brute? Well, if he were she was, }@ “brutette” for had she not said be- | tween her sobs, “Perhaps I am too ‘extravagant and you don't love me any more but I must tell YOU some: ‘thing, You talk too much about yourself! You begin every sentenee }with ‘I this’ and ‘I that! Buc he was gone. He had rushed out of the house with “So that is wher you | really think of me!” 4 A) ; But his work did not progress as usual at the office while she spent jthe morning in tears, She had ime | jtended to go shopping but he had od said she was tod extravagant, And | then at noon the telephone tinkled as } if half afraid and a few soft words passed over the wire. That evening * | there was a huge bunch of roses tn | | the centre of the dining table. The || husband did not prefix his sentences | with “I” and his wife brought forth a little account book. ow we shall really get ahead!" she smiled, And { so they will until the “next storm" delays them for a few hours only to 5 take a bigger, longer stride down thé times cooked with butter and red-|/@ne of matrimonial experience, q pepper paste, nice and hot So, Mr. Newlywed, tell your wite | \ Eating and drinking are popular | she is too extravagant, or that her pastimes, and, very liko Americans,| coffee is “all grounds” or anything i almost any old occasion is seized upon| else you would like to speak of, Don't 1 f as an excuse for a general celebru-|be Bfraid of thunder and lightning, ‘ tion, Bread, as we know it, is un-|tempests or, tea And then Mrs, popular, thin cakes of native meal,| Newlswed will tell you about some I baked, being preferred. of the things she'd like to change in } Salt is' so scarce and so desired |¥OU- After all, marriage, like every~ § that the phrase “He cats salt” is used] ‘tne cise in life, is w lesson. u big } to describe someone's utterly epend-|4evelopment. And the “fivst cuarrel" } thrift habits. Until about 1894, bara’! usually the frat bit of lisht that J + of rocksalt were used a8 money. SOuDIte Give OAC cinerea hibits ie { co with the Maria Theresa aclar a better wife or how to be a. better q 4 various kinds of cartridges. But old| "¥*and, i | King Menelik introduced a “tarari,” | “>= mec yece =.’ or doliar, which was worth about 50] ver necklaces and often silver or gold cents, and was the standard of cur-| rosettes in the ears. Toe rings are as * rency, In 1905 the first real bank! popular as finger rings, They love was born, with headquarters at Adis! strong perfumes, the more far-carry- Ababa, It issues notes and mints|ing the better, t coins, engages in 4 number of com-| Marriage is said to be 9 more 1! mercial operations and promises to! or less elastic affair, with the right i expand into an institution of modern! of elther party to end matters when. by methods apd substantial strength, Modern Abyssinians show appreciation of European ever there seems to either sufficient their, cause, practices! ‘The sending of “Missions” or Com. by adopting certain garments of that missions of distinguished statesmen origin which they mingle with their has beap a favorite custom with the own aboriginal dress, They like the Abyssinians for centuries, And now tailored coats of Piccadilly; forSin-! that railroads, banks and various in- stance, worn with close Atting white, dustrial enterprises are under way cotton panties and derby or fedora’ jn the land of coffee, rubber, ivory, hats, |gold and fabled splendid gems, no. | The women's dress is a sort uf wonder the stately gentlemen have smock with rather smart looking full- come to pay their respects, and Dring gathered sleeves drawn in tightly at' their royal mbssages, and bespeak the wrist, ‘They wear silver ankle-' the co-operation of a new and pease rings with lite bells a-jingling, sil. enlivened world, i: q ons |