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es ee es «+ ———— a -TUESDAY, MARCH 11, 1919 i Wit, Wisdom, Philosophy Of Nixola Greeley-Smith 5 Hxtracts From Her Brilliant Articles in The! H Ow M - Evening World on Topics of Perennial Interest to Women—Marriage, Women, Divorce and Growing Old. Nizola Greeicy-Smith believed in truth. Bhe bdelicved in deauty. Wives, Be. these two ideas dominated her self-made philosophy of life, she could ify women and romantic love perfectly than another can do true and lovely. jiyle, marry the man she “Most men do not perceive fine dif- © gerences of sn: le and texture in Women. And it is almost as foolish fe let them choose their wives as it ‘ould be to let them select the wed-| @ing dress. | “Almost any man ts the raw ma- fo) terial of a good husband, ae A But you have to be a competent chef to turn| Bim out a finished product. Some "| Wives have the idea that a husband | 2 fe such a dangerous being that he} Meeds to be muzzled and chained in- @ide the front door, But neither love even fidelity has ever been com- % by petty exactions. |d wines, old books, best. What person who has an; t e—a love with a mellow flavor, “+ ripeness, a rare bouquet, would ge it for a new one? Only an flonal parvenu, an admirer of; furniture, hotel lobby art, rail- | station fower beds. And he es what happens to bim. 4 WIVES. oA: seldom finds his ideal old loves wife, because she is really two wives—one to be proud | pi'ana tho other to make bim com- le ioe simple, everyday, despised omestic virtues are the common - Meritage of the woman every man iy thinks he married. The ideal wife, @f course, is a cross between Cleo- $ patra and a little brown hen, and mihether he domesticates the siren or ri fowl he will spend the rest of life trying to make the litue hen like a Bird of Paradise or teach- ig Cleopatra how to cluck, If you iapnot be domestic, be as domestic you can, "#wWhat I like most about women, I & 7 Maink, is that they are—they want to Be—peaceful. Woman has kept the Peace of the home ever since the bd thome w4s invented. But sometimes, America discovered after keeping ) ‘out of the war three years, the price "ef peace may become too high. My s New Year's wish for women {s every wife may be able to pre- the domestic peace without her own personality as the *Unimaginative persona inquire now then what great books women written, what master pictures have painted, what splendid in- P¥entions they have struck from the _ feek of Infinite ignorance—my an- “ewer is that it Is the love and faith of en which have wrought all these Jes of human thought. The mo- t woman stopped believing in man would stop being great Decause the a wife be domesticated a den WOMEN. MEN are great in direct Proportion to their capac- ity for loving. So I wish every girl who will grow into nhood in 1919 a grat and sim- heart, a heart not too large or low for love to fill. What form Flove shall take does not matter. May be a great book, a great ple ) tare, @ great baby, a great achieve- for the public welfare, be only a life lived beautifully, out malice, without envy and, be- everything else, without lies, greatest tragedy of civiliza- fe is that it has maae woman, born be so great, condescend to be 60 The feminist movement, with wheel of Suffrage, is simply tand marriage without idealizing it. to this right more often than {t hinders. brilliant man is duller about love than the simplest Or it! without sentimentalizing them and But she herself has expressed those things in life which she found | The following quotations from her recent writings in Bvening World indicate her fecundity of ideas, her wit and her felicity By Nixola Greeley-Smith Covgright, 1919, by the Pree Publishing Co, (The New York Evening Work) MARRIAGE HE fulfilment of a perfect love, which is just another phrase for a happy marriage, must be threefold, mental, physical and spiritual satisfaction. rare but not entirely mythical. formed by and of any two persons who love each other in the three dimension: the fourth dimension whenever we find out what it is. “Most men marry their wives because more or less adroitly—and very often women show them their love, the least talked of among woman's rights is her right to It must carry with it Such a marriage is The Happy Couple ts —and who will love each other in quite unconsciously—these The most important and loves. And showing her love helps For the most turles, wherein woman was felt os a mighty foree and not as a sugary phrase DIVORCE, 6c OMEN have learned to be Women, so long as they love, have the pity of angels, the ten- derness of doves. But when the | American woman ceases to love she es no reason why she should not up the 8. P. C. A. and ask the |Soclety to send somebody around to take the old pet to the lethal cham- ber and put him out of his misery. “We have, as all our European critics assert, far too many divorces in this country, not, however, because of our depravity, as they would like Us to believe, but because of our amazing innocence. When asked for by women, American divorces in a Small number of cases are the result of @ mercenary spirit which might have caused Messalina to blush, but far oftener they grow out of a ro- mantic girl's disappointed perception that she is not living happily ever after, like Cinderella and tho Prince, I am convinced, perhaps erroneously, that no man ever got a divorce en- \irely of his own accord. Men, know- ing more about sex matters, do not enter marriage with the romantic ex- pectations that women bring to it, and they are correspondingly less dis- illusionized—never sufficiently so to divorce Mrs. Tweedledum to marry Miss Tweedledce, unless manoeuvred into a corner where they cannot help it by the Tweedledee lady, “Matrimonially, all men of any de- gree of experience are pacifists, Their platform is the immortal common- place of Gen, Grant—‘Let us have Peace.’ The recipe for winning a bachelor is simple: ‘Make him as comfortable as possible’ That for making a married man get a divorce is even simpler: ‘Make him as un- comfortable as possible, “The paramount right belongs to the child. ‘To his best interests the per- sonal happiness of husband and wife should be held subordinate, Even when parents are not happy, how do they dare to break that fairy enchant- ment, rub out the look of wonder from baby eyes that see too much, make deat to the chimes of fairy bells baby ears that hear wrangling and recrimi- nayon? GROWING OLD, td other life is so empty as that of the woman who, having no interests save her emotional relations with men, finds this one source of adventure yielding to the relentless advance of age, It is in vain that she digs herself where Folly and Frivolity are ed, in in- trenc double chin, “It \s not always cherry blossom time the orchard beautiful adventure of life. is no endless April for any one. the time of harvesting harvest be of children or of ideas, world frost of years upon her magnetic hair. | undefiled, revolt against being mod- her endeavor to join hands’ risies, yet fuses them all to beauty rere ladies of past cen- in the crucible of her warm pity,” in vain that she endeavors to camouflage her wrinkles and ber in the heart any more than tt ts in Young love is the most But the} heart has its four seasons, and there To the woman of middie age life brings) turned straight north, and after a whether her “The Girl of the Golden Heart is the | rose among women, the rose of the She need not fear the blight of age upon her perfumed cheek, the For all these invasions of time the arch-Prusvian will leave the golden heart untouched, the core of beauty She is the woman who, | knowing everything about life, loves {t, who, far too wise to be decctved by all our little pretenses and bypoc- \ PASSAU ‘ i SONG \ THESE VERY LATES ' e e ° ° e iladi in Paris Wears Her Hair T PARISIAN COIFFURES ILLUSTRATE HAIRDRESSING "YLES EQUALLY BECOMING TO BLONDE OR BRUNETTE ‘How the American ‘‘Fighting Doughboys’”” By Joseph A. Brady (Former Lieutenant 5th U, 8, Marines.) Copyright, 1919, by Pres Publishing Co, (The New York Evening Workl,) LL the world loves the Poilu, the unshaven, tired old French soldier, A who looked so anxiously at the young, beardless American dough- boy im the early months of last year, and who looked at him gratefully and enthusiastically later in the year, All the doughboys par- Ucularly love the Poilu, and I am going to try and tell you why they think so much of the French soldier, I served with the French soldiers as the first oMicer attached to the 33d French Regiment in the stormy days of the great offensive of last March, and their evolution from the melancholy desperation of those days to the enthusiasm of later days is worth ro-| cording, | With several other American officers who had graduated from the 24/ Corps School at Chatillion-sur-Seine early in March, I was assigned for| temporary duty with the French Army, After a long ride on the rickety old French railroad trains we stepped into auto trucks for the last leg of our trip to the front. We were excited, interested, and above all things wondered what we would do in this first time under fire. In late afternoon north of Soissons| ——— - ~ we saw the distant observation bal bread and cheese and drinking Joons of the enemy and realized we) “Pinard,” the Poilu slang for his red | memia Geen ba an clea wine. The word ran like wildfire af- riding parallel to the line and did not/ ter the first of them saw me that an get closer until after dark. Then we| American was in the line, 8 were T was pointed at and watched, but there was hour we came to the trenches and| No enthusiasm. ‘They were wondering wore taken to a dugout in the resorve| whether the Americans were going to line. We were just going in when/ relieve them and there was a desire the first shell I ever heard whistied|in the Pollu to know whether the American Army that had been talked above us. I ducked and ran into the} dugout, and when I heard the explo-| of so much was really in France. And there was a keen desire to know what .| sion of the shell some distance away I decided that it would be necessary| kind of soldiers the Americans were to hear many shells at once before| going to show themselves to be. I deciding how one felt under fire. learned much of this from one of the ‘The next morning, @ clear sunny | French officers later, morning, 1 walked to the front line| “Quatre longuess annees, quatre with some French officers and saw |longues annees,” are the words that my first of the French soldier at the! rang in my ears all that day. “Four front. They were sitting in the long years, four long years.” Every trenches sunning themselves, eating Frencb officer and goldiey I spoke to, after a few minutes, pointed about to|we had to hold them, to hold their the black upturned earth of thy Che |confidence, until the Americans could nin des Dames and the sullen land- arrive, seape of the front and murmured it| During all the time I was there I over and over. They had had four|wus bombarded with questions. How years and they were tired of it, end} any soldiers will you send? When in a few days the Germans were to/will you send them? How much start what might be a successful of- training w they have? And after fensive, Jevery quizzing some pessimist would We came to a low place in the ke his head and say he feared we trench. » French officers bent low|Would be too late, Then they would {all grit their teeth, gnd I could almost j|understand them as they would say >» |that France would have to fight it Jout alone yet. And they would have, to the last Frenchman, is attitude doubt on almost hing, on our numbers, our train- our fighting qualities, had but and ran past it, I did the same. heard some one shout b looked around, An old unshaven s dter about forty y ing at me, He was telling me to look at him, He had apparently been drinking pinard, for frst he ran low in| the trench and yelled that that was] iT oe eae nen we first rushed ike the American, Then he jumped) into the elds west of Chateau-Thierry up, on tho parapet in view of the en- |) yy me asrench were pap emy d outed tha ha a my and shouted that that was Ilke |) oy ana they were going back with- the Frenohman. out confidence in our ability to stop It flashed over me that it was althe Germans, They tried to get challenge. I had sensed the doubt of|pack for fear we would be the Americans in almost every sold’ er, | prisoner 5 and here was one who dared in the| But after Chateau-Thierry! sight of fifty others to place the chal-|on every road and in every lenge, I ran back, jumped up clear on|Poillus were grinning and yelling at to the parapet and stood there, I) our soldiers, “on soldat! Bon soldat!" turned and invited the Poilu tocome.|And they were walking straight and He and the others looked a second in|not bent over, When they went into nd me. rs old was shout ot us taken Woll town the surprise. He started to follow me, A|the attack at Soissons it seemed a French officer stopped him and thty|new race of Frenchmen, A smiling, told me to come down, As I did two/dashing, stand-up and get-'em soldier bullets whizzed over me. |who had determined that the war was What I did was not bravado, It]won and it was only necessary to was absolute necessity, If I had ig-|convince the German with a sufficient nored the challenge the story would |@mount of raps on his hard head, have spread, doubt would have as-| +9 TEST A PERSON'S HEARING. jsatied the French of the value of the| “mectrical apparatus invented to Americans and an untold moral) rest q person's hearing shows the strength would have been lost to us.|ference between the sensitivencss of ‘Those woldicre were watqing us, and|his ears _ " a \s TUESDAY, MARCH 11, 1919 New Style Lady Lobbyist First Bunches Her Bills Then Stalks Her Quarry Miss Grace Phelps, Who Is ‘Influencing’’ Six Bills at Albany for Five Women’s Organizations, Ex- plains New ‘Efficiency’? Methods Which Make the 1919 Model Lobby Lady a ‘‘ Regular Person,” and a ‘‘Go-Getter” Who “Gets.” By Zoe Beckley Doprright, 1919, by the Pree Publishing Co, (The New York Evening World.) Cn the new-style lady lobbyist. Not fearfully, expecting to be book-agented to the nearest exit because “Senator So-and-So is too busy to be bothered.” Not timidly, as a representative of the “Woman's Worstedslipper League,” which hopes, please, sir, that you will listen to the plea of our little band in Cow Hollow, N. Y. Nay, nay! That is not the 1919 model of lobbyist. Your modern legislative agent {s first of all a dis- ciple of efficiency. She comes not solely as representa- tive of the Worstedslipper League but of five husky and flourishing organizations, all primarily of different types and differing aims, but all temporarily united in the determination to get a certain batch of bills through. Secondly, she comes as a regular person. She {fs no longer “only a woman to sce you, sir.” She is a voter. | And although she does not wave her ballot under the nose of her honorable quarry, nevertheless, it is like the garlic in the salad—not seen but glori- ously sensed. The first of these modern “influ- encers” to bring her feminine tact to|by recalling his mother’s ples, Miss |bear upon State lawmakers at Al- Phelps studies her cari index until xe bany is Grace Phelps of the Woman's Joint Legislative Conference, Under her slim young arm are six bills, no “8. And she ts going to get every one of thom made into a law, sa | she, and good tuck to her! “These bills,” explains Miss Phelps, respectively for health insur- ance, minimum wage, the eight-hour day, women elevator operators’, the ‘pit for office workers and the one \ affecting conductorettes, “They have been drafted in the main by the Women’s Trade Union , In co-operation with the Con | sumers’ League, the State Federation jof Clubs, various suffrage organiza- | tions, temperance leagues, the ‘Y’, and jothers. Thus the working girl has ; brought her problems to the woman operation and help. “Which shows," emphasizes Miss | Phelps, “that all assertion to the con- trary notwithstanding, women have learned the gentle art of working har- moniously together for the welfare of their sister women.” ! vépily, it looks that way. If there were any little hatchets, they appear to have bi neatly buried. Each \league, association, federation, union and soclety’ has temporarily at least set aside its particular aim and “gone ‘to it” in a way to get better working ,conditions for the 1,000,000 feminine employees in New York State. | And how does Miss Phelps land her | victim-1 mean, persuade her law- maker? “First I learn the story of his j life,” she explains, “Then I decide which man to approach for which bill. That is sometimes hard to do. But once decided, the next step is easier, And the reason it is easier is [that women to-day is a power in the Put New Pep in Tired French Poilus' The Poilus Had Fought Four Years and Looked on First Doughboys With Doubt—But After Chateau-Thierry It Was “Bon Soldat!” and the Poilus Were Walking Straight, Not Bent Over ~And the Poilus Went Into the Attack at Soissons Like a New Race of Frenchmen. State instead of being, as formerly, a nice, pleasing person who meant well but didn’t really count, except where a dinner, a dress for the baby or a church social was involved, “The registered woman lobbyist to-day is received with deferenco and respect In the committee rooms, the lobbies and corridors at the Capi- tol, in trains or wherever she can lay hold of her particular Assembly- man, She has her little pink card, which entitles her ewen to enter the ‘Assembly and Senate chambers, walk straight to the desk of her legislator and talk as much as she likes, “Of course,” interpolated Miss Grace, “we're much too polite to do this. Word is sent in, and our man, with invariable courtesy, walks out and sees us in the corridor, I'm for conservative methods. I feel we can gain far more by quiet, cool debates than by creating disturbances or ap- pealing to man's gallantry and senti- ment.” Be that as it may, I notice that Grace Phelps has a fair array of legitimate weapons with which to persuade her lawmakers, She has charms of youth, intelligence, a win some face, a slim little figure and , pretty clothes—the stylish kind, with just enough plainness to propi- tiate the Assemblyman from Glens Ki plus enough frills to interest the Senator from 79th Strect, Man- hattan, Miss Phelps knows just which legislator likes chicken a Ja King and | which has a fondness for battercakes, She never, talks “radically” to the gentleman who has voted against the| last Suffrage Bill, Nor does she| converse of prunes and prism to the} progreasive from the district where | equal rights has been a plank in the| arty platform ever since the Social- s md @ tform. She knows | which man prefers golf to billiards. | And which one is descended from a signer of the Declaration. It there] seems no way to approach tbe thin- | seme member who doesn't believe in women im industry anyhow, ‘except s| | with mofe leisure, and asked her co- | she digs from the mass of informa tion {t contains something which | hints at pies, and the rest’s easy. The |thin-lipped member ‘got,” be he Democrat or Republican, “I expect both parties to support my bills,” says the new lobby lady |The Health Insurance presents a }lot of details touching the mutual ar- rangements of pay between employer jand employee. But I think I can show them all why it 1s a matter of effi- ciency rather than sentimentality, Same jwith the Kight-Hour Day Bil, whieh will be the hardest to put through, because as yet only the most intelli- gent manufacturers understand the factual gain to them in money, im proved ‘morale’ and increased output \by shortening the hours of labor. “I expect the minimum wage will Jwin in a walk. About 40 per cent. of the million-odd women em ployed in factories, stores and offices throughout the State now make $1" 4 | week or less; think of it! ‘The min |mum wage they must receive is to |be decided by a legal board composed from thexpublic, the employer and employee, according to the local cx ving, &c. phe bill for the benefit of girl jelevator operators, street car conduc |tors and office workers doals with hours, night work (elimination of night work after 10), sanitation, en- |vironment and other working condi- tions. I don't anticipate much trou |ble getting that through!” | ‘The anticipation of trouble has no place in Miss Phelps's lexicon, She believes most legislative trouble |comes “because we don't go at them ight.” Men do not like Carrie Nation methods. Nor cutie-flirtie methoda, |Nor teary methods. Nor threatening | methods, But there is a sort of flex- ible, common-sense, all-things-to-all men method which is difficult to give a recipe for, but which, once you have the trick of it, works lke a charm, Miss Phelps is too modest to admit the gift. She attributes whatever “tact” she has to her long trainin, asa journalist. She met all sorts and conditions of people and wrote about them understandingly, “And nothing educates you human tactics,” says she, “like new paper work. When I was a studen psychology at the University of Pean- sylvania, and later an instructor, one of my professors told me I must choose betWeen newspaper writin, and the study of psychology. One, said be, was ‘brilliant and superficial y in the other ‘serious and profound.’ 1 instantly cast my lot with the ‘prif, Nant and superficial.’ But I never agreed with him that it WAS so, “The important part of lobbying is the approach. Establish your current of sympathy, Then do your talking I find that ninety-nine men out of hundred will listen to the sincere well posted, moderate woman. The fear the too positive, too loud-volced woman, They suspect the woma who is too attractive, too wel gowned. They are bored to extin tion by the lady who implores and | sobs. They flee from the female wh threatens “We do not have to threaten nown days. The little, silent ballot, which we never flaunt, but which waves ir the mind’s eye like a pennant of vir tory, smooths our way. ‘The smile power has taken the place of the Carrie Nation axe and the sweet) feminine tea Aust we learn from Mis Phelps had the Minimum Wage Law t y years, Arkansas, Ari | zon alifornia, Colorado, Kansas Massachusetis, Minnesota, Nebraska Utah, Washington, Oregon and Wis consin, all h it, and other pre gressive legislation for the woman who works voks as though New York were lagging a little. We don't seem Plea ists,’ to © page some more lady lobby- have gone at it right.”