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7 | POT TN TOE TOT & MAGAZ ZINE w& THE » EVENING wt WORLD'S .» HOME . Why Do Women Marry the Wrong Men? fee HOOD HE EVENING WORLD offers three prizes of $10 each for the best answers to the fol- lowing questions: BEST DESCRIPTION OF THE IDEAL HUS- BAND. WHY WOMEN MARRY THE WRONG MEN? WHY DO WOMEN CONDONE THE FAULTS IN MEN THEY CONDEMN IN THEIR OWN SEX? A $10 prize to the best answer to each ques- tion, Letters must be written on one side of the paper only and must not be over 150 words long. Send letters to Mrs, Harriet Hubbard Aver, Fvening World, Pulitzer Building, New York City. 1000000006000000000000000000000000 | By Harriet Hubbard Ayer. There are a number of letters published to-day that I hope may | tove, |with precious Httle llving cargo be thus brought into «If not elegantly, who, as one writer tereel) puts t, “threws a Luffy? who ts certain to come to grief in his affairs matrimonio! ‘Test any ono should migunderstand what I have sald As suggesting that ever¥™ womar who discovers flaws |in the character of her hus nd is adv ito tyt | the divorce courts for relie® I call attention to th me and helpful letter from “Tappy ed,” who when she fo her husband {a bit short of her ideal mada. up h nd to make the beat of things, end has nging | happiness otit of disappointment. y T think this woman was only disappointed in a minor way She has net gone through the hideous revulsion of feeling that overwhelins the unhappy wife who finds her sitpposed ideal in image of the coarsest, most repellent composition, As long as there ‘s a chance of saving the ship of matrimony, ty all moans try our cheery writer's rule— tact and good temper—and may many a bark the harbor of content, Mrs. Easyplease Turns the Tables on the [an’s Ideal Wife. / Dear Mra. Aver: serve ag warnings to young gir who are on the verge of marrying | the wrong man Uniappy Wife? says that girls lo not know t own iminds, | ‘They think they are in love when they really are not, and very soon after they have sworn to love and rates What God has joined the wife discovers man who {s her husband she can neither respect nor honor nor love. Love will not be coerced. Other sentiments, such as respect and honor, a man may by his conduct command. But love !s the subtlest, the least controled of all our emotions. ‘When the man loses the Intangible quality in him- | self that evokes love in his sweetneart or wife the} charm is broker. No one can say just what quality ft is that wins the heart of womankind, Indeed, thera are as many {deals ns there are men to exemplify them, I am tempted to think, after diligently reading | the enormous correspondence on this subject. One point Is safe to make and the attention of bachelors and denedicts is alike called to ite importance. Y ‘deal husband must be strong and gentle, his M principles irreproachable, his word as good as his| bond, tender-hearted and generous; petty annoy- ances do not affect him. It matters not whether dinner 1s hot or cold, he ts al though everything were all right, ya ready to smile and act as Ho not only has fan excellent business head, but ig able to wash without soda, cook and tend baby, and must be a neat sewer and good walter, He must be entertaining, vivacious, gentle, thoughful, witty, handsome, but not vain; tual, artistic, musical, a linguist; also understand care of furnace, landscape gardening, how to make money raising poultry, how to feed family of ten well on $9 a week. I am conscious of not requiring of my {deal |the standaml set for women by him, and you may hear from me again. MRS, EASYPLEASA. First and Foremost He Must Not Flirt with Other Women. Dear Mra Ayert Tis ideal husband, I think, is first and foremost one who loves his wife and does not flirt with other women. Then he should be worthy of her respect and love and not have a mean, fault-finding Tt %3:FMair Readers of The Evening World W: t myseit. 1 quite as near perfection, id made up my mind ro perfection, not being pe! | 1 did not find my hueba. as [ thought he was, but 1 tyo things—to be good-tempered and not to —_ and ft has the desired effect of making him mshamed lit he is mean-tempered. I think if a great rfiafiy| women would try it there would be more tdéal Hut vards In the world, for every one knows how much} {mer can be Influenced by women. Love, tact ani good temper are the three great mr you thought he was hide your disappointment. Try ho: HAPPY THOUGH MARRIED. ; Women Marry Wrong Because They Haven't Courage to Wait. Dear Mts. Ayer: OME women marry the wrong men becnuse they have not the courage to wait until they meet the man they really love and respect. A man Should be older than his wife by years. Then he ought to have sense or judgment enough to overlook her slight faults. He should also know he must sup- port her or lose her confidence in him. He must re- spect his religion, no matter what creed. Lack of faith does not make a man big: it denptes a wen character. Ho must have a strong sense of duty in politica, religion und general walks of life, otherwise he is not a man to make a home happy. A Jealous men tx@ thing to be shunned, for where Jealousy 18 there runs doubt, and then good-by to happiness for- ever LOTTIN ©. Let Prospective Husbands Read and Reflect on This. the| happy, unselfish, kind, amtable, temperate, intelleo-| pear ate Ayert HD ideal husband ought not to assume ene posl~ tion of the husband and perhaps the father of a famfly unless he can show the world he can be a supporter and properly care for home and all the Interests of rt. Lead on exemplary life before his children, so that his fvotsteps in after Ifo may he Let Him Have a Quick Temper and Control It. Dear Mra. Ayert N ideal husband should be a Christian anda one ‘Who would strive to attain the full stature of a man, mentally, morally and physteally. Having the man who pretends to be what he ts net; | disposition. I would not wish a husband who was outgrown childhood, yet should realize that he is but words in matrf-| If you find your husband ts not quite wiht, to make him your ideal husband and you wi!!! atitt Be) fa ehild in the kindergarten of God, and should cuitl-| vat® & brond and charitable nature tow A good citizen, temperate In habits, progres 1s, strong mentally; one who knows and knows that he Khows what he knows, A quick temper would be a good thing for thie man, as it would give him Sihething to do to control it when brought into con: fact with others (e) CHAVIS MAN followed by his children. To do this he must be sound {n mind and halthy in cons. nh and have falr education. As it ia Impossible to gather grapes from | thorns or figs from thistles, the husband must not | forget to bo a ittle of the lover, as does not the wife ati] remain lady love? Married llfe can bo quit te fo happy {f the lot 1s cast with a true and noble hus- band. He will never shirk the responsibilities of ths | 1 life. The wits or widow of nuch @ hushand forects | him never. A WIDOW OF A LONG TIME. Counsel from a Wife Who Finds Marriage a Success. Dear Mra Ayers WN answer to your qi*stfon of why women marry the wrong man I w¢ 'd say because they make | €0, Instead of corgi in and trusting men they think men are beneath them, and are Always up in| arms and are persistent in having the las: word. I} am married seventeen years and, thank God, have nevaz given my husband cause to give me a cross word. When God is in our hearts we cannot fall to have love at our homes. One who has tried, with} God's help, to have a happy home, love husband and ix children and have succeeded tn all things. Mrs. GERSTENPRERG, Under the Smiling Exterior Lurk Cruel, Taunting Words, Dear Mra. Ayeri © my mind the {deal husband ts not atways | handsome, debonair man who has a smile and gay jest for every one. Ah, no! for oftentimes beneath the smiling exterior lurk cruel, taunting werds not for outsiders—oh, no!—but only for the woman he has promised to love and cherish for ayo My {deal husband need not be handsome, but he @hould have for his wife a deep and abiding love—the love thet will pardon a woman's little fraiitics, and| get the love that will protect amd gulde her from anger, should temptation cross her path. Then I} would have him religious—not vauntingly so, but hav- ing the true Christian spirit; for a famtly that does not acknowledge Gou js desolate indeed. East, but Pad not least, 1 4 ali Tach aNechi the sad things on Gals conrth me ts the AN AMERIC. A Girl Can Naver Tell a Man's Character Before Marriage. the drunkard’ AN GIRL. Dear Mra, Aver: N . © a young girl mects a young man, I Ho is t me, he dregsea in the latest fashion, fe lavis attd presenty upon her and is all that a girl Lwish.for; in short, he 1s her {deal, After mar receives no more presents, money ) abundantly, he {an't the eame as de- Then there are continued quarrels . at Inst, sho Yes a miserable fe. A girl can never tell a man from ‘hts looks, nelther by his ac- tions, for men are vony Qifferent betore and after marringe, OND WHO KNOWS. Marrying for a Home Only Brings Its Punishment. doosn't flow marriag Dear Mra. Ayert OMIEN marry the wrong men because the one they thougnt fdeal and the one they toved ana cherished most In thelr hearts—that one did not love them, and that 1s why they marry wrong men, And then they marry arfother, not for the love of aim, but with the Intention that he provide a good | | home for them, tecause he loves her. ‘hat 1s what 1 because sne does not OARTERET. a lov marrying the wrong man, e¢ him. | Let Hifm Overlook Faults. He Has Some of His Own, Dear Mrs. Ayert Y idea is this: The ideal hunband should end M must be religious, true and loving always to his wife, through # happiness, overlook her faults to a certain extent, as he has them, too. LIZZIB, Does Not Expect More from His Wife than He Can Give, Dear Mra. Ayer: HE {deal hushand does not expect more of the wife than she does of him. Hie !s kind, cour- teous and patient; realizes that during the trials and worrtes of the day in household duties and the management of the lttle ones she also may be aried as he has been in his business cares; know- he strives, as she does, to put aside worry ing this, fod er de aie id Kness aa well as in health and, Tye THURSDAY EVENOUR, OCTOBER 1, 7903. se SP Se a eee ill Be Given Prizes for Answers to Three Questions, a total abstainer, for of/and anxiety and to make home a beven of love and Vie |peace. He {s tomperate dn fils habits, thereby com inanding respect and admiration. During the sor rows which come to toth he @s tender and courage ous, Searing trouble with a fortttude which gives streneth to those around him. Such en fdeal, thank: God, exists, and has made one tife supremely hepa. Women Often:Marry Without Knowing Their-Own-Minds, Dear Mra. Ayer: 441, /¥ do women marry the wrong-mant” ‘Is most cases, because they didn't known their own mind when they married, They often’ think they are “ead in love,” when they are and marry the wrong man; then, @ timo after, meet the right one, when too late, and have to spehd the rest of their Mfe in misery and heartache that.po one can imagine who-hasn't gone through it. I speait from own experience and know what it 4s. I married a good, honest man, thinking I was as much in love as any one could 6s, but-found out, only too Jate, that ‘t wasn't the true love, and no one can dream of the heartache and worry I am going through every day, worse I have met the right one—the one that I now | know, In my heart, that I really do love; yes, almost idolize. Some women, I think, know their own ming sooner than others, because some have more commom sense when nineteen years old than others at twenty nine, much depending-on ow they are brought up, I | entnie UNHAPPY Wit, This Little Letter Tells a Tale of the Divorce Court,’ Dear Mra Avert ANY women-marry the wrong men for these rea~ sons: The love of a home; some one to love and some one to love them. In thelr strong feel- ings for these instinote they neglect to study the maln point, an@ women rush into matrimony who do mot really Dear any genuine love for the men they agree to take for ‘better or for worse.” When take place for the sake of a home; for one to 1 and one to love them, instead of ascertaining beford hand whether love is really within one's heart to make the {deal home, there certainly never can be any piness. This is my personal experience (no cone ‘blame but myself), which ended in the divorce nevertheless leaving mo blessed with “gome one to love and some one to love me,” my child. 2 A Los A Cartoonist’s Conception of What Happens When a Woman Marries One of the Wrong Sort of Men, Parlor Magic for the Foolish Row to Make the- Long Winter Eventngs Unbearable. ERD are e few simple, yet fngty clever, tricis in parlor magio for the long winter evtnings. Any child can do them, Yet they will keep the room ina roar, They are from ad- emoe’s unbounded surprise it will be found that the cat is no longer in the pafl, ‘This trick 1s one that may re- quire a little practise to perform, but {t will soon be learned by any really If you wish advice concerning new gowns or the making-over of The Home Dressmaker. we INS NS ure, a Drunette and does not wear full-| vet give a dressy appearance and can length skirts, Would prefer one with a long coat, FRANCES R. Navy blite, golden brown or Runter's ny ~< <soee be made adjustable to be worn on dress] velvet collar Occasions. A five-gored skirt flaring be- low the knees or kilted on to a deep| The design By Mme. Judice. skirt to match. Should I have a dlack what atyle of or apple-green vetvet, and leaves? B.A. C, for your red coat will de- Amusements. x 50a PROCTOR’S Teraitie. “tes Ses Dats! Fe" ‘Voueeiea Bands rom Mewa Fields & Ward, others. |) te “When men Love." A of my miserable existence; and then to make matters! - rwamce sheets of my dorthooming bool | clever child. entitied “Twelve Amusing Ways of Driving Grandma Craay,” by One of ‘Them, The Vanishing Ace. ‘Take @ deok of ordinary playing cards, ‘Take out the ace of clubs and, in plain eight of your audience (in order that ‘they may seo there is no deception), wet fire to the ace, holding {t until it Is whally consumed, Then, shuMfing the remainder of the deck, hand it to some- body present and politely request her to find the ace of clubs. Unless she be unusually clever she will be unable to fio so and the mystery of the card's Alsappearance will duenfound every one. ‘the temporary poll the trick.) Oriskly until {1 springs. Then of the party to again, this scemingly them, Throwing a The Watch Trick. Ask some gentleman in the room for (Acoept no sliver substitute, as this will | marble or hard- mass of wheels, It {9 10 to 1 that you'll have them utterly baffled and nonplussed at Hypnotic Puzzle. loan of his gold watch, Laying the watch on a ‘wood surface, pound it it ts an unrecognizable dents and broken challenge any member Dut the watoh together simple task you've eet person into a hypnotic: pense, The jacket sleeves are small, the (if necessary take off your coat to show that the missing ace is not up your Fleeve.) diem Hindoo Cat Trick. ‘'The following Js the mystifying Hindoo eat trick, Secure a large and jet black eat and put her in any ordinary pall which is. equipped with a top, Place “ye top on the pall, then fastening it *ymly in place. Now, borrowing a cane from some member of the audience, teat’ the pail smartly and roll it about the. floor, Atter doing this, carefully remove the cover from tho pall. The cat will at once leap out, Now pass fthe Pall about the room and let every one examine it closely. ‘To the audi~ trance in which you can make him think with your own mind is one of the most popular of all feats of parlor magic. Blindfold any man (no matter how old ones, if you wish advic® concern- ing home dressmaking, write to “Mme. Judice, Evening World, Ha zer Building, New York City,” git will give it to you in this aa eaaaaeenmeaanenamanaenansaaes ) To Remodel a Jacket. | cloth for a jacket. Dear Mme. Judtce: ‘HAVE a Diack pebble cheviot skirt anti jacket of nice quality, I should Ifke to utilize it without great ex- jacket short with loose front. The sicirt hag a very little flare, but ts too short for the présent style, Can you tell.me how I can make a pretty and stylish sult from it for this winter? I am twenty-four, tall and elender and a brunette, 8 A, iB. You can remodel your ol jacket into @ design like this illustration and really strong-minded hp may be) in the, audi- enca, Make him stand still, Then, cau- tlously eoaking his dress-gpat tells in kerosene, say to the audience: “This man cannot sce, yet he will an- Swer correctly any question concerning things beyond his range of vision." Then touching qa match to his coattaila ask him gently: "Wi >» afire?" Although utterly unable to see the flames he will in every instance shout excitedly after a moment's thought: “Gol darn ye, it's MB!’ AP. T. Letters—Questions—Answers. Bleck and White Are Not Colors, To the Editor of Tue Evening World: ‘Are white and black colors? If not, which the victim suffers severely. ‘wh? are they? Also, what is the taste ang color of water? P. W. Q. Black 1s the aBsence of color, White fs a blend of all colors, Neither 1s, property speaking, a color, Pure water has no color nor taste. ¥ Geographical Queries. fo the Editor of Tho Evening World: ‘What is known as Great Britain? ‘What is known as Continental Burope? Cc, F. M. Wngland, Ireland, Scotland and Wales are included in Great Britain, Contl- mental Europe is the continent of Bu rope. eat Great Britain. 8 Lape Ru: Track, 10 Bicycle. io the ‘raltor of ‘The Evening World: ‘How many laps are there to the mile fat Madigon Square Gatden when used runnii track or Pink for Girl, Blue for Boy. Me the RAitor of The Lvening World: Is pink or, Jight blue the color for a ein? endurance. Love-sickness !s not a fool- Ish fancy, but a real sickness from Love- sickness {s a depression of spirit caused by sympathy which {s a component ele- ment of nature, And you can't prevent it any more than you can prevent death, ALFRED H, A Dreas Suit. To the Editor of The Evening World: What ts the proper thing for a bride- groom to wear ‘at an evening wedding? P. D, Bride's Family Should Pa; To the Editor of The Evening Worl 1s it proper for a young lady's family to pay for the wedding reception or ts it better ¢or the bridegroom to do eof PHARL, Not the First Case of the Sort. To the Editor of The Evoning World! I read lever before in the oriminal history of New York has the law do- manded the lives of three brother: Thig'is a mistake, About meventy years ago in Erle or Cattaraugus County, three young sona of a farmer named murder to secure @ emall sum of money. They were duly executed for thelr crime, For nearly three-quarters ofa century in the 1o- We BABY MAY, | Thayer committed Calls fore & Sibkness, the Mditor of The Dvening World: Hetrd & sulckle because of Sa we Bin ho st peste ‘tunate was fogl- ee ha But be was not By ma Loe Mea atau 'et deel aise at it af 8 ee 5 y ? cality where the mumér todk place it 1 custom to date events ote rere “hree EN He PACK AT sp Givonyale,” Ya, De surprised to see how stunning it will A REMODELLLED ETON COAT, DESIGNED FOR &, A. E. bo and how lttle trouble, Cut the coat to a bolero shape and eleeve open and hanging and edge and strap as you seo by a fancy black silk braid, A plaited vest .of black poau de sole or eatin ts worn over a dlotise-effeot front of same matertal, ‘The sleeve puffs are also silk or satin, ‘The fanoy band on shoulders, cuffs and collar is of Persian embrold- ery done in binok allk or velvet, You can lengthen your ekirt by a band set in below the hips of the Persian or a yoke made of geveral strips of the black silk braid and skirt dropped down, For Girl of Seventeen, Denr Mme. Judice? T LEAS advise as to the color:and] With pearl buttons. atyle of a volved pireot quit that.a'# 1-8 yards 21 Inches wido, 1.528) for a 32, 94, 26, 88, 40 and 42 Incl bust measure will be mailed mouvy to “Cashier, The World, Pulltuer Building, New York City.” a Bir of 17 would require. Shoe The pattern ( 44 Teor 4 laches tall, of medium’ Og for 10m. Cec Sa EASON RET MRE DROIT Oe OO cig bea Gd a MRR ai a Fall Shirt Waist. &reen are pretty shades for velvet atreet| yoke {s a pretty skirt design for either suits, and made with a blouse front,| style cont, Russian coat belted in and reaching to! the knees, or a Monte Carlo pattern, are! ‘A Red Cloth Jackets good designs for a growing gitL A wide five-pointed collar and deep ouffs td ‘match of white dengaline #ilk edged with fancy braids the color of the vel-) box coat or May [llanton’s Hints. HAVE three yards of expensive red Can you advise men what style to make it—wnether olose-fitting? I bave ao pend a great deal on the style most sulted to your figure, and as you fall to mention anything in this regard I can only edvise you in matter of velvet color for your coat. By all meana have black, ag green 19 rather out of date, ex- cept for very young girls and boys’ golf coats, Challie Waist. Dear Mme. Judicet i INDLY advise me tn regard to a eream wool, pin dot, challie walst made Mice inclosed. It {s prac- tically new, I never I!ked !t and have worn {t only twice. It was made two years ago. Could I not put something with 1t.to make {t less plain and more plano at plication, for those who want a good honest- made sweet-toned and durable 0 price to ex- amine the Needham before pur- chasing elsewhere. honest representation, hand pianos of different makes taken in exchange, unusual value, Price and full information on ap- a mode NEEDHAM, 96 FIFTH AVENU ‘Women greet play, thrilling olf ‘Thurs., Sms Mats. Mon., Wed. . Sat | ee Rear Peake ‘IDBLDS. ( Favorites, ‘Vaudeville. Bway & goth eae | WALLACK’S Mats, “We. sai 2. “Bright Lines—Catchy Songs.’ Geo. 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