The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, December 3, 1905, Page 6

THE SAN FRANCISCO SUNDAY CALL. X HEN weo rend that the fair plainant in a recent divorce / sse had found ber allowance P of 8400 quite inadequate a5 & covering for the.monthly ex- wehojd and thet she to graut her six times rder 1t properly care for ' children, most of us that given $200 every away thy difhculties, Iie ling nelther here be mor were dreamt of 1o of the modern md saniset omplex and « ) has learned the . thing, Svet the wooder mtenance—interested rate the phrase s ) g}\\W@\\J b bl il (D R “Wnar it costSs? 1o 7t tfie— RICH AARS HOUS'E JWWJ s 2 Sy R = = S n BT T () SN LR mefl_m; L j “L G ‘\\Wfl\ m\m\fi%" fl'm . T e == == = == e e ur ready recelve he nistress at what- The study of her guests, definite ar- er nnot ever b of th she may return ranging of her functions so as to se- e con- from her pleasuring d unless it e cure the titled foreigner or gifted poet B f oy per very late the beaut! e not hung or musician, all of whom are being ntil ¢ % d to see eagerly sought by her competitors; the er ! t proverbial . interest in some charity, wise or fool- . keling stitch in time on 11 1% in per- ish, sensible or senseless: the endless . kW cn fect econdition its next ocea- " . v e glon. must 8¢ De put.in its Pace in e duties that must be discharged by her . \ es oriticised wardrobe. rootn self—duties so engrossing they leave a w h trans As the Tomtine of 'li broRiN b no time for the old-fashioned beauty o 1w re witing o 00 8- s i Mt sleep. In place of that sweet restorer niain ol L abhroas the ia vantanes has come the skillful masseuse, tho g for Ruswing the WU aad b8 ‘u',\,',f,. complexion expert, who sees to It that - but al fier Servh Sret-wnt the wrinkle lines of care and fat! 1t always her serv first and chatios € swing the are kept in check. - o8 Of her ‘own heart The woman whose millions provide a studving eith aces wide fleld forethe exercise of her soclal r people from her ow n”;v v:v'::(pxx-?.v\':-‘ D taler;’t: ,nnds an engagement calendar n homes ere theare e ‘Yo WA * & - an abmolute necessity If her vartous ap- I '”-lr‘r".":!u‘ ::.‘»‘un; : ho & MOL‘&"IE ZYoros *’% Gfi'@ J X o pointments are to be miet. On its % - maintaining her social eminence must 3 o b ;m\'es ala(retset downdhvr plan of lite leave to nurses, maids and governesses the pantry maid more work that she or weeks to come and without it blun- L ® oare o ° le ones. She o « P ders and oversights would inevit- s r meohth, SrhichSe & ‘,"\““"; (n:h 1‘:\!,;“”“. B l,‘_?;'"‘;: can take care of, the parlor maid Is the They seem to have nedht:;u‘_:::l;u.:trl: fas. g uld be inevit w 't sufficient to tempt Fighty her own, but certainly it is tho 0rSt person called upon to help. She ot 3o g o 2t ease” with which TN Keeping of such a record has in- e enter the service, ;.. of wisdom to trust others with Must, too, be skilled in table-setting and contented and mind at ea troduced a new member to the domes- by whon ogh ie his daily routine, ih, quty of carrying out n regimen waiting at the table, for it a lMght n the poet tells us they were Once asso- (s gtaff—the soclal secretary—and she ~ Mtein s e apaster that shall be uninterrupted by, outside evening meal is the custom for the chil- ciated. has become Indispensable to those 25 ahith Bouts of i "“ he enabled jnterests i€ her own life !s sg ordered dren of the house and such members of - The functions of to-day are elaborate whosé plan of campaign Is extensive o 1o becnracs o ioueasing of B8 (nat she cannot give daily personal at- the family as wish to joln them, the _'There are, besides all these, the ... 'y o o oo 1 kéeping with the or complicated. sy ding 1o the: trarourier of tention to her family parior mald serves, assisted by ome of !aundry and the stable, @mployin& & enormity of wealth that makes them A young woman of good family, g i . ‘.\,~\”Il.\llml‘(n‘l1;-l\‘ In all the little army devoted to mak- the men, -hu\.me number of fovers is varying number, according to the house- powgible. In their planning there is a fitted by nature and trainiag fot suec- - then treated easier the dimiculties of the women greater than she oan properly care for. hold, and special extra servants for spe- never-ending struggle for novelty of form cessful grappling\ with the difficuities ing of 1 bearer jacted with such gre ose who recog- as temporar ashion no members should be se She is paid from twenty to thirty oclal needs and occasions, so that the wage or detail, an anxiety to find something that beset the aspirant for social hon- e ame N care as these. dollars per month, the amount depending roll for the home alone becomes consid- new under the sun with which to amuse ors, no matter of how well established fy al servant is her maid, Honesty, breeding, education and high- upon her taste and expverience, erable, notwithstanding the fact that em- men and women, who, having at their position. she is the counselor ana requiring \mfn;: mindedness are essential qualities In Above stairs, in the private sultes of ployers are members of a taclt union command all the possibilities ‘of the friend of the mistress whom she serves, ~ > Joes. then :h’r determining thelr fitness. the members of the family and their to keep wages down. whole, wonderful world, are not easily di- Her salary., which may be set at any "t be an adept Where there are w\’v‘m! men servants, guests, the housemald or chambermald Does it seem that with so perfect a verted. e figure from $2000 to 35000 a year, puts 96 tonts Su8 the parior maid is séldom In evidence finds her work, and In homes where a system of service, with the problem of This struggle presupposes in the hos- her in place apart, and as her work - must 1 3 W th o ! save from her work which is done before great deal of entertaining is the rule vision of labor so satisfactorily solved, tess talents of no mean order and It would be impossible were she not arirote, Wi & dewies Sir Dol tha day rogularly besins for the family, three or four such servants ave required. the mistress of the household would find brings her s resourcefulness’ that could thoroughly Interested fn ita overy de- ek oh Sk _:‘mrm o€ the Solorte ot ::;‘u:r:'r':nw:flu :\;s. :‘r:‘q:h:mmd“.:; h‘hn kitchen and pantry waids are her days empty of responsibilities and not fail of winning a high place if di- tail. she may be said to hold the most ned by the un- cares? rected In other lines of activity. enviable position in the entire regime, Ehe in paid from 85 to 3 pe the guests. She has the care of the faltering trust that they will in due time But the clearance is merély to give With ah her wealth and all her gifts, the post of “prime minister to her Ma- e the serves ome of the meath, drawing room, reception room, lihwary, be advanced to posts of greater honor freedom for the serfous business of her the serlous business of entertaining calls jesty, the Queen.” and where rves ardent and perhaps one flight of stairs, with the and higher wages in the scheme of the life—the business of entertaining and for the best of which she is capable and To her the butler turns over the to devotees of society She esarns much more. duty of arranging the flowers that are so menage. They are paid from fifteen being ertained. reason nothing that be dele- sheaf of visiting cards 1 ong No matter how early her day may have important a decorative feature. twenty dollars month and their num- n..,-( “simple pleasures that i B Man allowed t« |=“-um- her succession of urrh‘-m gy & D begun, she is always expected to When the number of dinner gussts gives ber varies wu’; in different M-:. ways pl'::: o ::t'::u:.o & 5 “at home” day, nmu-.:cm: * to remove from Illinois to C ness without which an accurate sched- ule would be impossible. : In her miniature bookkeeping -ya tem are. a list of all calls recelved ax returned, a scrupulous memorandum of the debts to be paid by invitation to dinner, iuncheon, reeeption, theater or dance, and perbaps a record of all the circle of madame's acquaintances, With a word or two of mention for the chief characteristic of each. This last is the more valuable to the woman In official life wh obligations extend to riany with she_can be- but slightly ; persomal cone- SO t such guides as ‘to whom ne together if she would .avoid challe thies are most strietly under no circuamstancés to be save by herself and her s The social secre caring for the enormo which-is one of the man of fashion. necessity. of dressed any but th that-are personal ir The countless large sums or small vidual or commu the person whose c! invoke. A reading. of lines, a guick decigion th represenis another atte something for nothing: a tary consigns it to nothingness b waste paper route, sending to the wri er a formal .engraved fect that Mrs. or ML she cannot grant the request Undoubtedly worthy peopla are soriie- times thus denied a timely. assistance that is ‘urgently needed, assistance that Y would be granted most freely 17 ra. Miss Blank could really know of the but so many fantastle and ridiculc titions are received little attempt can made to discriminate—all are aliké dee clined. One of San Franciseo's wealtayy women, & woman who has given gemercusly of her time and money to help the deser ing, says that her malil brings requests for thousands of dollars every week A man whose health has falled wiskes where restoration is promised, begs for $500 to cover the expenses of the trip. He offers to repay the money scon as he Is established In his ne home, but adds that if he should be dis- appointed in his .hopes she who s so very rich would never miss the small sum be asks. An ambifious mother from up-State writes a proud letter referring to her daughter’s wonderful voice and asks for $1000 to covér the cost of a year's study abroa She encloses a clipping from the village jnewspaper in which high tribute is paid the contralto in a local cholr; eou- pled with the suggestion that the young girl, who is only 17, should at once seek the advantages of foreign teachers. As the mother is too poor to consider such. a plan on her own account, she turas to the rich Miss G—, firm in the faith that $1000 would never be missed from her great store and, besides, the money would ail be returned as soon as the prima don- na should come into her own. Another letter tells the unhappy story of long illness, with unpald rent and -doc- tor bills, and- begs. for.a 'oan of §5 until the writer is strong encugh to go to work again. 3ome of. these are Ditiful enough, but investigation .has often shown the most affecting to be carefully planned schemes to excite sympathy; without any foun- dation in fact. Hospitals, colleges, benevelent mstitu- W M = N . J@ FHALAERS ESTDENCE tions and reforme are not so modest in their requests for aid. To lift a debt, to provide an endowment, large sums are needed- and arparent personal disinter- estedness lends courage to the petitioners. All show a willingness to relieve the fa- vored of fortune of a part of the burden recelving and returning of calls, are of wealth and an indignant surprise is 3 only felt but often Muently expressed en the petitioned prefers to stagger on under the load. ; Hlustrating the proverbial way to the hearts of men (and women) the dinner holds :lrough all time the place of high favor for both hestess and guest. Hizarre attempts to encompass the origina! have given s dinners at which monkeys, or dogs. or evea the long-eared animai of obstinacy were made guests of henor, al- fording pretext for fan from the conventionalities. Stortes of these affairs coming from New York have lead us to reflect anew on the “effets East,” the phruse on our lips taking on a tone that breathes the well-worn prayer of the Pharisee, the lttle hyma of thankfulness that we are not as others But to whatever combinations the din- ner {3 made a party, the dinmer dance dinner theater party, dinmer mmusicale, or ;nnn«:d :mmr ride, the effect is merely o modifty and not to dlspla i mary function. ’ whuba The hostess prepares her list with ox- ceeding cure, selecting from among her triends those who will be thoreughly, con- genial and lead the element of perso brililance. without winch the most ele- a0t appointments will avail nothing She sees to it that the Tight peopie are o be sent in together and there her respon-