The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, March 9, 1902, Page 3

SOME SAY ONE THING AND SOME SAY ANOTHER “It is more pleasure to call than it of a big affair on ve plan for Sunda; ive a tea on Sunday, one have some one vis e 1y on Sunday®” tter to keep Sunday differ- ent f the rest Jf the week.” i have never taken the trouble to think whether it was right or I fancy increase instead astic over any » tertainment. bon calling is cer- ery popular with the gentle- approve of turning the o & day of plecsure and t mean to meake religion a r, mor do I mesn to censure iy, for each and every person et right to his or her own say right here s very | eness of affairs e men have as little regard en as they have, If more we t church-goers and at n things only on Sun be less of that disre constantly growing ghown by the awful have happened late'y moral looseness that kes San Francisco rotten to the ) b str & city wae a The ques her it is right Sunday on a par with you think about t a number of have to say gree? ) ciiomppienieiiiiniii = ask a busy man whether he ap- proves of Sunday afternoon teas or mot, know very little about them, as I have i every Sunday for a month. Well, al months in fact. It cer- slre to call than it is who has the time, tion and who enjoys them I think it is all' right. Frank King. Why, what should a man know teas?. Oh, the Sunday ones, you t they were rs. Perhaps suses are not as e on other days, and better. That makes w. I know & to be popular or put me down with the ma- he fellows and I'll stand for it see, 1 am almost certain what their will be. Harry Holbrook. other than Sunday has a Business cares keep » rest of the time, and e most convenient, and, st desirable day of all one’s friends in to have a delightful chat or One is able to see people in a single day month ordinarily : . call many r gath together, kes it possible for him 1l around What out 1t? Is not a lied by any other G0 D | { Mies Cutherine Robinson. | 3 . 4 St By I « ternoon teas? Well nd r t gall them such. They en 1 of an “at home.” I have given two of them this winter—one to the debutantes and one to two girls. For each of them I think I wrote, told or 'phoned to about a hundred persons. But there was nothing formal about them; no decu. rations and no cagerer. Just punch and chocolate, which the girls served and which took the formality away. The girls who helped me recelve wore simple little evenipg gowns, just as you would wear in your own home if you were expecting company. Nothing more. 1 do not ap- prove of a big affair on an gktensive plan for Sunday. We have kept ‘(,, the South- ern fashion of keeping open house on Sunday afternoon and evening. Any of our friends are more than welcome to drop in and have chocolate, so that the ldea does not seem so foreign to me. 4— Sy RS Y ]l- Miss Daisy Burns. k1 H I would not give a tea on Sunday, but I £0 1o them. That sounds something like a difference with a very fine distinction. But there are six other days for enter- tainments, and it does not seem positively necessary to utilize the seventh. Still, tae men certainly are an advantage, and in these days they seem absolutely neces- sary to soclety. + 4 \ Mrs. William F. Herrin, kS e I did not have a tea. My daughter had an “at home,” ‘or, in other words, a few friends came in quite informally—a mere call. What difference is there in-a call made on Sunday from one made on Mon- day? The idea is identical, so far as I can see it. Sunday was chosen because the men could drop in. Many of them owed calls; many of them would have called anyhow. On that particular Sunday there were probably over a hundred young peo- ple who happened in during the day to drink tea and have a little chat. Yes, she had some friends help her entertain her guests, if you call them such. I have no idea whether teas, receptions or any=- thing of that %ind are to be popular. - I have never given it any tliought. We merely had our friends come when we could get them. Does not every one have “ome one visit them informally on Sun- day? B Mrs. Horace Davis. I J I have always belleved in the European Sunday. Sunday is a day of rest and rec- reation. 1 think it should be different from other 4. but not set apart for meditation and g r. 1 do not like the idea of having soclety gatherings on Sun- day, though it ig a proper time for soclai gatherings. It Is a pleasant custom to be at home informally to one’s friends. either Sunday afternoon or evening, but when it comes to sending out Invitations for a large reception, the same as any other day in the week, I don’t like it. The %Rl n S S Pl (2 Z AN — THIE SUNDAY CALL. H young people of this generation have lttle enough reverence at best, and it 1s better to keep Bunday different in some respeots from the rest of the week - L it 30N Mrs. W. E. Lester. ‘ L e — I do not give teas on SBunday, but I go to them. WHy, I have no ideas on the wubject, #o please Aon't agk me for them. 1 - All that T know s that the notlon to e tertain on a large scale s comparatively new here, but It looks as though it had grown popular. Really, ‘as far as [ am concerned, I am entirely neutral, and really T have nevgr taken the troubls to think whether it whs right or wrong. But, as I told you, I do not give them, but I attend them all the same. - e —— - Miss Marie Wells. Bunday afternoon teas e they to be popular and do I approve of them? Why of course. Why not? Is not Sunday a good day to call informally? But you mean a really, truly tea, where hosts of people jre expected, don't you? I have never had one on Sunday. Just a few friends In to drink tea and chat. But I think they are perfectly lovely just the same, as the men can attend. Of course that is the only reason why Sunday is chosen, as the other days are crowded with business, From the number that are being given and the hundreds of peo- ple that are attending right along I fancy they will increase instead of de- crease In popularity o ———e e}y i Mrs. Henry J. Crocker. e —— 3 I do not approve of the Sunday after- noon teas or receptions. But right here let me say that neither do I heartily dis- approve of them. The main reason why I do not sanction them is on account of my little children. Sunday must be differ- ent to them from other days. While they ride their horses and have thelr books there are numerous things that they are not allowed to do, and to them Sunday ls Sunday. This having of teas, receptions or “at homes,” if you so please to ca)' therg, would work havoe with their ideas. ‘When one has reached the age of discre- tion the ideas of right and wrong may be settled by one’s self, but until then the gulding hand must be in evidence. And 80, you see I am not enthusiastic over any kind of Sunday entertainment. —— Joseph Rosborough. Sunday afternoon calling is certalnly very popular with the gentlemen. Judg- ng from the way they are flocking In In- creased numbers to the homes of the girls on Sunday just in time for tea bears out the idea that their popularity is not on the wane, But Sunday afternoon ealls are not a fad, The idea I3 not new, What really 1s new Is the fadt that people are commencing to expect more visitors than they used'to, The majority of Bomes keep “open house'’ throughout the aftermoon and evening, particularly the Southern familles, T do not think that formal af- fairs of any kind are much given here, If at all, Pl il Rev, Willlam Kirk Guthrie -+ | Just as long as the Present state of busi- ness affairs lasts people will use Sunday for recreation. And until the shops elose at noon on Saturday and earlier in the evenings Bunday is the only day that the working people have that ls thetr own, When a man works until 8 o’clock he fs tired and wants his dinner. After that hemust dress and by the time he is ready to ¥isit so much of the evening has passed that he can, at/the best, make but one call. I do not approve of turning the Sabbath into a day of pleasure and recreation, but the Européan Sunday Is most certainly with us in San Francisco. The people who work do not use it as a day of play any more than the people of lelsure do. It is something that might be called peculiarly San Franciscan. \ - Rev. Frank K. Baker. o+ The Sabbath was made for man and not man for the Sabbath, as most people seem to belleve. I do not think it is right for a man to bring in all his friends and overwhelm his wife or his servants. In doing this we take our minds from the true significance of the day, and not only our minds, but those of the people whom we entertain. The Sabbath should be known for its extreme simplicity. Life is too fast. Truly right living is a fine art. The Pharisees burdened religion. They felt that almost everything was work. They even carried the subject to such a length that a serious debate arose as to ‘whether a man should wear a wooden leg on Sunday. They questioned Christ when he healed on the Sabbath. They sald it was work. And for that reason he sald, “Come unto me, ye that are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” He did not mean to burden people with religion. He meant to make life simpler. When people give teas or entertaln on that day they certainly do not follow out that 1dea. 1 do not mean to make religion a bug- bear, nor do I mean to censure anybody, for each and every person has a distinet right to his or her own opinion. But let me say right here that it is this very looseness of affairs that makes men have as little regard for women as they have. If more women were strict church-goers and attended to certain things only on Sunday there would be less of that dlsre- spect which Is constantly growing. That s @ainly shown by the awful calamities thatl have happened lately. It is Just such moral looseness Wfat makes San Francisco rotten to the core. The France Militaire publishes statis- tics showing that cases of sulcide are very frequent In the French army: more so, perhaps, than In any other Huropean force. Among every 1000 deaths in the army from all causes. no less than an average of fifty (In 1806 exactly fifty and in 1807 fifty-one) are caused by self-de- struction, while of every 100,00 men on the rolls of the army no less than an average of twenty-seven commit sulcide every year. Among the colonial troops the nymber s even higher. In the navy the practice seems less prevalent.