Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, March 22, 1916, Page 9

ealih Hinis - / 2 ( turier has W hat Kind of Parent Are By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX. Copyright, 1916, by Star Company. 1f you are a father or a mother, sir, or madam, what are you doing to make yourself agreeable, and desirable, com- nions for your chjldren later in life? ou have no right to bring children into' the world, and to rear them with an idea of their duty toward you, unless you @ .« _ appreciate your duty to them. That duty does not consist in merely ®iving them care and opportunities for rducations-4t includes making yourself companiohable in their maturing years, and in your old age. That guestionable #ift of old age may be bestowed upon vou, and if it is, it will be the duty of your children to care for you. But are you thinking, acting and living in a manner.that it will be a painful duty for your children to have you about? 1 have seen the happiness of a good daughter, and a deeply consclentious woman, shadowed for years by the un- governed temper and the fault-finding ag- sressive mental habits of a mother whose care it was her duty to assume, and which she performed cheerfully, but with tears in her heart because of her moth- ‘ ers attitude. I have known a parent to enter the home of a married child, and by intoler- ant creeds and continual harangues upon bellefs which were not shared by the household ruin its comfort No parent has a right to destroy the peace or happiness of a child simply be- cause that child is his or hers. No tie of blood or law entitles one man being to mar the life of another fact that you are responsible for your child's existence makes it imperative for you to take yourselt in hand now, today, and begin to prepare yourself to be a delight and & comfort in your de- clining yea: Over and over cnfldren are urged to think about being comforts to their parents, but rarely is one word said to parents about belng comforts to their children. The obligation is mutual. Patience, se- renity, charity, progressive ideas, tol- erance and adaptability are all neces- sary virtues for those who are growing old to cultivate. Keep up with the prog- ress of the world. g Avold growing queer, and look to it that you do not become a bore by talk- ing continually of yourself, your ideas, your theories. This is the danger ground for the mature in their association with the young. A very little of the past goes & long way with the young, who are looking forward, not backward. Are you the mother of one child? Do you worship your offspring and find happiness ‘only in its soclety, and in its pleasures do your pleasures lie? How about the future? If your child is a daughter, remember she is growing into % womanhood, no matter how you trive to keep her a child. What are you going to do with your time and mind and life when she sets forth upon that personal path in which each soul must walk alone? Perhaps it is your ideal to follow ever at her side, and to be her guardian and chaperon and comrade. But unless you S —— You? begin now to make something of your own life, you will be an frritation and a drawback to this child of yours, It she has heart and good breeding, and the right Instincts, she will guard you from this knowledge, but the fact will exist all the same. And you will give her only pain, and worry, and ner- Vvousness, instead of the happiness you long should be her lot. If your child is & son, the same fact much confront you. He will go forth into the world and live his own life. He will love you and be grateful to ycu, as his mother, but he canmot live with you or for you wholly. He will choose a wife, as his father did, and make a home for himself. What about your future then? Begin now to think a little about these things. Turn your attention to other subjects for a time each day. Read, study, travel and go about it, if this is possible for you, It 1s all very to talk about being a mother, and nothing else, and being sat- isfied with that vecation. But unless you have something else in your life, by and by you will sit beside the highway mourn- ing your children because they are not. As well strive to stop the incoming tide with a broom as to hinder the world's way with individual protest. Adapt yourself to these changing condi- tions, and teach yourself to be receptive to new ideas, instead of rebellious against them. Your child is a part of a new wenera- tion. Therefore the new generation should interest you and you should be on the alert to join the procession of progress. Each individual has a duty to perform independent of all other individuals, | whether parents or children. You must make the most of your own life, of your own mind and soul You must not live so wholly for your child that you forget the duty to your- self and to the Creator, to complete and perfect yourself. The day of the shadow mother in black alpaca and an adoring smile for the wonderful child has passed. Be a woman of oharacter, purpose and interest in life, aside from being & mother of a son or a daughter, And your son and daughter will give you far more attention and a broader and deeper love and appreciation. In-Shoots Keep you mouth shut and you will Fain a reputation for wisdom and also avold grip germs. It does not take but a little to turn the friendship between two women to bitter hatred. The minister has signed many a deo- laration of war when putting his name to a marriage certificate When asked to choose between style and comfort man seldom displays any more sense than woman. The stationary blush is never so at- tractive on the face of a girl as the one that occasionally fades The girl who distributes her photo. &raphs too freely among the men cheap ens hereself. The afternoon costume, as de- signed by Beer, strongly suggests the 1830 influ., ence. Of sage green taffeta and white or- gandie, this cou- ated a costume at once sophis- ticated and de- THE BEE: ( JMAHA, WEDNESDAY, cre- The houses of ‘couture veritable bee-hives, so deep are the many designers in their work of creating mew styles for the summer and autumn, says Harper's Baszar for March. The buyers from America are gone, and with them the models shown at the early February openings. These models, many of which are on view In New York, confirm the predl tions made six months ago. The styles of fashion's age of romance—I18%0 to 1848 are and will continue to be much In vogue, but this does not mean that other influences will be ignored. A va- riety of styles is belug encouraged. The Spanish school, and particularly Velasquez, is inspiring to several of the couturiers. M. Doeufllet, however, is authority for the statement that the Spanish Influence will not affect the sum- mer styles, but rather those of next winter, the Velasques school is more appropriate—and especially good—for the brocade tissues, velvets, passementeri and the heavy gold and silver embroide ies used for winter costumes. The houses as a rule are designing some finteresting and unusual things One of the big establishments on the Place Vendome has just finished a sports coat that is sure to be the most popular thing of its kind. The model is of red broadcloth with a double-pointed cape in the back and a most fascinating collar thet flares upward in front. The garment is lined throughout with dove grey broadcloth to match the cuffs and flaps on the pockets. Another at- tractive sports coat from the same house — S— HE Can fod Te By THE JESTER. “How oan I know if I'm in love—really in love?' asked a pretty girl of me the other day. “Have you ever heard,” 1 asked guardedly, ‘‘of the man who in- quired how he could tell the difference between & mushroom and a toadstool Bhe shook her head. “Hat it and see, I replied, “and if you don't dle you'll know it's a mushroom.” After all sald and done, the analogy Is good, though I don't know that it is absolutely necessary to resort to such desperate means in the case of love. Marriage, of course, will always tell you, beyond & shadow of a doubt; but it is possible to discover without going thus far, The common or garden signs—I am told —are a loss of appetite and an aversion to settled work of any kind; but I don't lay 1t down as an unassailable truth. It is one of those things of which you can never be really quite sure. You can only guess. The longer you have to think about it the more chance you have of finding out. Because love is, or is expected to be, closely mixed up with matrimony, many girls imagine that it means finding = wan they can do with; whereas, it should be ‘finding a man they can't do without. N. B.: T clalm no originality in Parls are | for this last remark " Latest Smart Creations from the Master Designers of Paris :-: o is of English serge in a plaid of blue and mustard color. It falls below the knees and has a collar slightly draped around the shoulders, ending In a ruffle. There are many three-quarter length coats of silk for motoring and for wear over one-plece dresses—all the houses are making them—and they are wholly fas- cinating In desigms that recall the days of our grandmothers. Beer has Just made one of bottle green failie, shirred ail around the walst, with a collar con- sisting of a double ruching wider at the back and standing upwards. This tybe of collar is oming the new things that @all houses are featuring. A well-known couturier {s showing one of these coats in deep blue fallle with an embroidery of tiny coral beads on the high standing collar; wide tucks run across the black on a line with the elbows and are finished with two coral ‘bead tassels at the end of the tucks. Perhaps tha oddest feature of the new frocks is the combination of organdie and silk, an innovation for which Bul- loz is responsible. A charming three- plece costume recently seen is made up of gros de Londres with a wide ruffie of organdie on the skirt, embroidered in cross-stitching in blue and yellow. The walst of organdie was similarly em- broidered, and the Jacket of gros de lar of organdle, also embroidered. Since there is no end of ideas that may be worked out with these two ma- terials, the combination is one that is sure to be adopted. Il You're in Love? At any rate it Is a useful working basis to regard the first notion of be- ing in love, as & man thinks when some very mean acquaintance offers him a clgar—namely, “What's the matter with 1t?" You oan safely start out by view ing it with susplelon—especially if It 1sn't the first time it's ocourred to you. The emotion, girls, are peculiar things, and like the flivver play all sorts of funny and unexpected tricks with you when you are the least prepared for them Because she is nestling close in your arms in the taxi, with her soft lips close to you, and you fesl a nice, fat thrill running down your spine, and you don't care a damn whether the meter is rog istering one dollar or twenty, it doesn't necessarily follow that you at last have found the permanent thing that nothing can alter, You may at the moment, I know, he quite positive that you have got the “goods” at last, and possibly you have, though whether in the cold, hard light of the morning- after, you will still ad here to the idea that you can face a clergyman and six bridesmaids with it later on, and settle down to unalterable peace and happiness for evermore, ls, 1 believe, a highly debatable point In fact, as I sald to my little lady questioner, you never can be really sure whether you are In love or not—you can aly think MARCH Woman’s Work -: plays an esting in a smart morn- Ing costume green and white tussah. Jacket points in. fallibly to a re- turn of the long- sleeved Eton. Londres, flaring on the hips, had a col- | Bernard dis- inter- tendency of The R B il By T edged with blue braid. In Annanias Club By DOROTHY D1y, Ever since the Garden of Eden scan- dal, when our first father got Involved in the pippin incident and wriggled out of it b laying it on & woman, men have walked in Adam's footsteps.and put the blame of all their shortcomings on wo- men's shoulders. There s, however, one sin of which most husbands are gullty now and then, It not habitually, that they have a right to lay at thelr wives' doors. This Is the sin of lying. Decent men, as a rule, abhor lying. They seldom 1le to each other. But they almost invariably lle to women, and the [reason of this is because the average | woman 18 so constituted that she cannot stand the truth. Bhe prefers that a man lle to her even when she knows that | he 1s lying. Especlally 1t 1s wives who make An- | anlases of thelr husbands. The man, if he followed his own inclinations, would | far rather be Truthful James. | | It degrades him in his own sight, and | makes him feel like a sneak thief when | he has to tell his wife tarra diddles, but it's the fairy story or a fight with her, #0 he follows the line of least resistance | {and qualifies as a fiction monger. For | well he knows the things that his Maria | would say were she presented with a bald statement of facts. What man, for instance, would dare to tell his wife the truth about having | lost money in a poker game, or having dropped it in a little fller that he took | on Wall street, when she had vuarnull nst speculation. man would have the nerve to his wife the truth abaut why he | didn’t come home to dinner, and say that | it was because he had & nerve racking | day In business, and felt that he would £0 raving mad if he had the children’s noise at home added to it? What man would be brave enough to tell his wife that when she went off | for a summer vacation alone it was a | real vacation for him, because it let him kel out of the monotonous round of too | | much domesticity? | Not one. On the contrary, Friend Hus- band glibly romances along about out of town customers, or important cases, or extra work, and wife accepts the anclent and moss grown falsehood peacefully and calmly, and thus not only puts a premium on lying, but actually invelgles her husband into deceiving her If men deceive their wives, it is gen- erally the wife's fault, because the aver- age woman makes it impossible for any husband who isn't an Iron Cross hero to tell her the truth. A man who, when he takes a drink, tells his wife instead of eating oloves to hide it or who dares admit at home that he deliberately asked n woman friend to lunch instead of prevaricating about how he accidentally ran across her in a restaurant, can fur- nish a certificate of domestic felicity strong enough to draw money on at the bank. It's mostly the wives who nominate their husbands for membership in the Ananias club. 1 Paquin advocates a fairly long coat. a girlish tailleur lavender gabardine. Republished by Special Arrangement with Harper’'s Baszar, \ | Here is The coat is - Household Topics s Ends Dry, Hoarse or Painful Coughs Quickly Home-Made Remedy, ive but Unequaled The prompt and positive results given by this pleasant tasting, home-made eough syrup has caused it to be used in | more homes than any other remedy. 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