Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, November 22, 1915, Page 8

THE BEE: Which Girl Would You Choose? An Easy Answer to a Difficalt Question By DOROTHY DIX, (neek; between comfort and discomfort; | between success tn life and failure. That's the difference between marrying a terrible difemma. . He dcesn't knos & &irl who ls some account and one whui ‘l which ¢f two girla #0 ask to marry. Both |18 Do sccount, and it's up to every man L | are nloe, sweet, pretty giris, but one of | to take his chilce. t the girls is Jost a Consider it 'n this way, A young man writes me that he ls in son. If you doll baby, while | were going Into a business In which you the other Is a had every dolar you had in the world hustler, nveited, and In which your every hopy and ambition were hound up, and you wero golng to take a partner in under A contract that would last as long as you lived, what sort of a partner would ot ? He says that it you'll gve one of the girls a fow yards of cloth she can make the pret | | you sel test trimmest Would you pick out a man whom you | éress you ever knew to be energetl:, and Industrisus, eaw, and that #he and capable, And perfectly competent to i can go Into the enrry on his department of the business kitchen and before without bothering you about it? Or you can say Jack would you choose a good looking chap Rolinson she can who combed Lis hair the way you liked, cook a dellcious but whs had never done a day's work in 3 dinner, while the his life, and who was absolutely shift- other girl ean't less and Jrresponsible, and who didn't | sew on a button, know the first blessed thing about the | or boll water work you would bave a right to expect | without scorching It him to perform? i And yet he doesn’t know which one of these girls to pick out for A wife, We all know, without walting for your | answer, which of these two men you| OMAHA, MONDAY, NOVEMBER 22, 1915, Copyright, " e . By Nell Brinkley It doesn’t weem to me that any man above the grade of an imbecile, would have any difficulty in deciding between these ladles. It's the difference between belplessness and helpfulness, between A live wire and a dead welght; between & booster and a m'llstone about your == Grey Satin Coat with Taupe suitable for day or evening wear. West . Forty- in three-quarter length, wide through the hem h tas wolf—an imita- masquerading Nevertheless, it ls sutficlently would grab as a partner. You would take the competent man every time. Well, #0n, all that marriage is is a partnership. I's & man and woman pooling their eapi- tal, and going Into business together, |and whether the firm succeeds or fa'ls depends just as much upon the woman's the work You never it does upon the man. saw. a business succeod around all the time and drawing out more than his share of the profits, | Nelther aid you ever ses a marriage auc- jceed where the wife was idle, and lasy, |and extravagant, and where it took all |to do the things sho should have done. y| Of course, It a man s rich he can af- ford to indulge himself in a no-account | wife, Just as he can affora to keep a yacht, or buy peachblow vases for par. Jor ornaments, but heaven help the poor man who Is fool enough to invest his Al in such & useless plece of brie-a-brac. Before marriage it may seem very cute {and cunning to a man for a girl to be #0 I'norant that she doesn’t know {ore fordinner, or whether you cook an | &% three hours or three minutes, but, belleve me, he won't see anything cute or cunning after marriage in billy that bankrupt him, or meals that would give an ostrich chronie dyspepein. Also before marriage the little, wofe, white hands that have never had o needle prick on their fingers, or a callous place on their palms, may seem to a man to be the most kissable hands in the world, bt he won't feel In a humor to kiss them after marriage when he has to live in a house ltke a pig sty, and work over hours to pay seamstresses for doing the family mending. None of us admire Incompetence long when it stands In the way o our own comfort and prosperity, and the man who marries a woman who n't do her part of the work of making a thrifty and Pleasant home pretty soon comes to the Place where he entertains for her the same sort of contempt that he does for a business partner who lies down on hls end of the job, Therefore, 1 say to any young man Who Is thinking of getting married, to choose his wife by the same standard that he would choose a business partner. | Plck out a girl who knows how to work, | and who lan't afrald to do it. She will | make you a wife who will boost you up the ladder of success. She will con- rve your health, your temper and your strength, and be a blessing to you all your days. . On the other hand a lazy, idle, shift- less girl who shies at the sewing ma- chine, and balks at the gas range, will handicap as a wifo that will prevent you from ever winning the race. If you marry her you will spend your life toll- ing to pay dressmakers and miliiners, you will come to haunt Intelligence of- fices for servants, and you will waste your astrength, that you should give to your business, in walking bables, and cooking meals, and making beds, and doing the household work that your wife should have done. Lack of energy In & woman is just as bad as lack of rgy In a man, and it's Just as shameful a thing for a woman Industry and abliity to do her part of Where ‘one of the partners was loafing | the man could make to pay other people | Wheiher to order a whole lamb or a half | | i in deep love and admiration. The little chap with the short legs stretches them mightily to match them to the I.englh stride of his dad, whose hand he clutches And he tucks in his small chin, puffs up his hard little chest and longs his face soberly in a pretty struggle to look as much as possible like the man of his heart' &irl offers tribute to the girl with the diamond and platinum purse that is always fat when she wraps her small throat round with rabbig fur, striving to picture the ermine at the throat of the other! little mother with the heart of gold puts in tiny stitches, and snips and plans cunnnigiy by night lamps to give her small girl in high school a humbler duplicate of the same frock her richer friend wears. The tiny e'd with the old apron, the apple cheeks (there's some- = 2 Tyl The poor The Here is tribute! thing she has that you have not), and the raggedy dog, with the one ear in full sail and the long, swiping tail that no one had the fash- ionable heart to bob, prances and minces with her brows up and her toes turned in behind the chic young person in the park, abroad to chinchilla and velvet with her great Russian wolf-hound pacing beside—and lcoks very much like her! Incense swung faithfully and with a worship- ful heart—to see that you appreciate it—Daddy with the valiant trudger by your side—girl with the unfailing purse and the ermine collar—Ilittle maid in school who may have your frocks from the best shops—and purply-born young woman whose dog and gown are a delight to the eye!—NELL BRINKLEY. The Greatest Gift in the World— The Passing Hours, Which Are Either Slaves or Masters not to be competent in her business as By BEATRICE FAIRFAX, it is for a man not to be competent in his. Marry a girl who Is some account, son, and you'll get a some account wife. Take the girl who knows how to cook and sew if you want to be happy. fl under its own It is with time that we buy all the | &00d that comes to us in the world! 1t| is by a wise use of time that we get| wisdom and riches and happiness and love and health. And the only reckless spendthrift in all the world is the man or woman who wastes and squanders time, The only thing in° the world that is freely and without handicap the posses- slon of us all Is time. Every day every one of us has all there is. Every day each of us has precious hours and min- utes and seconds to spend—and the free- dom of cholce as to how we will spend them. And if at the end of the day you meas-| ure nothing but waste on the credit side! of your ledger—that marks the one and| only absolute waste. A broken friend- | 8hip may be renewed, a lost fortune may | be retrieved, a wast city may be rebuilt | There is nothing final about most loss » N {In the world. But at get of sun the day| |18 gone—it will never come azain—it fs! 5 [over. That is an awe-inspiring thought | |and a true one. | ! There is plenty of time in the world—! but none to throw away. Life is for | work and patient attempt to understand wi" resto re you r s ki n |and accomplish. Idieness, grieving, re- ering, Bk | ret, useleas pleasure-seeking, gossip—all {these are inefficlent thefts from your ysicians have prescribed for ye: skin and scalp troubles, | OWn treasure of hours. You deduct them 1f the skin is in bad condition the semi- strap-belt of and cuffs are of the \ from the grand total of your own life. | The day is yours—yours fully and freely What will you do with it? Life is for work and growth, for kind- through neglect or an K\flk Of | ness and love. If at the end of every al nhfi:‘:‘o‘hfil r:; twenty-four hours you have actually ment and done something on Which you can look belore and say, “It is mine, and it is good.” you have made & worth-while use of your time. “Work doesn't necessarily marching along steadlly at one job—it takes in interruptions and deviations from the course you have mapped out i for yourself. It fsn't the plan that counts, it is the effort and growth and ability. Suppose you start out one day with a definite idea of cleaning your china closet and silverware. A message comes from a sick friend who longs to have you come and read to her. If you go with a feeling of irritation because your scheme for the day has been interfered with, you are wasting your time. But It you do the particular thing which lies before you cheerfully and amiably, your day is not wasted. The actual scheme of things is much bigger than you and your personal designs. It takes in more than your little one woman per- spective permits you to see. In reading to & sick friend there ia cheer and comfort for her and growth and unselfishness for you, and for both of you the chance of knowledge to be guined. Your time wasn't wasted at all— it was simply spent differently from what you intended. There lies the distinction and the differgnce. Bvery day a mental inventory ought to be taken. At nightfall ask yourself ques- tions llke these: Have 1 grown today? Have 1 given something to life and learned something from {t? Have 1 actually used my time to advantage? Have I the right to a warm feeling of contentment over my accomplishments for the day? Or have 1 frittered my time away idly and uselessly, seeking amusement and diversion—""killing time?" The thirst for amusement grows in pro- portion to your placid indulgence of it. If you get to a state of feverish unrest, or your one desire is to go dashing about madly seeking all sorts of forms of idle amusement that appeal to the sur- face of your consclousness only, you are wasting you time badly. To be taken out of yourself at the end Storm Centers BBy JANE M'LEAN. A wide sea waste, with lowering clouds Sweeping above the roll of foam— Pale rain-clouds clad in misty shouds; A ship at sea, salls spread for home, And rain, wind-maddened, shivering by Till westward gleams the first clear sky. Long lashes cast discreetly low; The quivering of a tender chain; Rose-color in a vering glow Glimpsing the tide that swells within— Till, with the tears that quickly dry, Eyes misty stili, the storm sweeps by. i | 1015, Intern'l News Service | | | going of a hard day’s work through amusement is a very sane proceeding. If you have been teaching a class of geometry all day long, and have arrived at the state of nervous tension where you are likely to lie all night on a sleepless couch, fig- uring out squares of hypothenus and radil of circles, you are on your way to a scholarly waste of time which ought to be spent in the recuperation of slum- ber. aAnd so a little harmless diversion that will rest your tired mind isn't a waste of time at all. It is a prime neces- sity of your being. Nothing constructive, nothing® that builds up your life and that of those with I whom you come In contact can be waste- ful. Seize upon work. makc up your mind that it occuples your mind, your body, your heart and your soul. Be sure that it is individual and suitable, that it is legitimate and vital. Gather in all its opportunities with a feeling that it is an tmperishable part of life, do it thoroughly and well. Turn your attention to your family re- lationships. See that you are being fair to them and in them. Make sure that your ambitions are not overshadowing your affections. Give your attention to the tenderness you owe to your friends and to all who love you. Bee to it that the common duties of your life are being attended to. Study your own talents and develop them to the utmost of your abil- ity. Do your duty by your friends. Bear your sorrows bravely and unflinchingly and with a background of feeling that they will work out for your ultimate good. When to all these things and the tasks and requirements they bring in their train you have given your attention, make sure your time will not be wasted. Your days will be full with constructive matters, and for the destructive foros of \dleness and grieving and unkindness and malice and uscless pleasures there will be neither thought nor opportunity. | [ Advice to Lovelorn | TTTUBY BEATRICE FAIRFAX Bunch of Questions. Dear Miss Falrfax: First—As there soon to bé a baby shower perhaps would suggest some danty or preits present to be given to the baby. Sec ond—Will you please tell me the best way to clean white furs? 1 have cleaned them several times with gasoline, but it is hard to dust out. Third—Do you think, as I am 19 years old, that I am oid enough to marry. The condition and needs of the family are important factors in declding ques- tion No. 1. If poor or in moderate cir- cumstances something useful, particularly & little nicer than the parties themselves, would be ltkely to buy, would be appro- priate. Anything too expensive would be out of place, however, unless the family of the recipient was affluent. Rotter consult others who are to contribute and not overload the little one with too many duplicates. Not able to answer No. 2 Many happy marriages have been con tracted at your age, but as a rule it is far better to wait until the babits and ideals of both parties have become a little more firmly fixed Your True Happiness, Dear Miss Fairfax: When I was 17 | eloped, and after spending two yecars with my husband I became d.scontented and returned home It w 1 for him to live in the coun: had been brought up in N missed the theaters and other plac.s of amusement 1 am now studying for the stage, at wh work my teachers tell me 1 will Le successful. However, 1 often Teel that I snould give up work and return to my husband, although I am sure that I do not love him as a wife ghould. He wishes me to come back and my parents wish it also. Should I return to him? DISCONTENTED. I believe you could find the greater happiness at the side of the man you married. The loneliness you feel in the country is by no means so great as that you may know out in the world when you have only your work to console you and no one with whom you really s and first, as evidently you still do with the man who cares for you even a‘ter your desertion of him. Have an Understanding. Dear Miss Fairfax: 1 am 23 It have been going about with a man for six months. Before he met me he was engaged for nearly four years He does not keep all appointments with me and I know he goes to see h's foriner faincee. s he worth worrying over, or shall 1 give him up. ANNA W Your situation is a sad onec and one that unfortunately is not very unusual You would probably be happler if you could get up your courage to hov plain talk with the young man. The certainty of your situation Is whet u you unhappy. Once you knew to give him up I am sure find the courage to do 80. Dun't perm this situation to drag alons. Yo 15 either trust the mun absol ... Con to an understanding with b.n. you would Don't Be Hansty. Dear Miss Falrfax: I am married tw. | years and have a baby boy 4 month: old. My husband is very jealous. ke has no reason to be, however, because 1 don't give him reason to. He always quarrels with me, and I don’t like to quarrel with him. He says he will do better, and is better for a day or two and then it is the same thing over again. I have folks, but I hate to leave because we have the baby. It's just impossible to live with him. He will not let me go down town without him, and I don't go any place, not even to 'see my folks, who ilve just about a couple of blocks from us. ~He says he can't trust me. I am 23 years old. Please tell me what to do. Thank- ing you in advance, M. D. K. Possibly some things, innocent in them- selves, cause his jealousy. Search your conduct for such and if found remove the cause. 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