Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, October 27, 1915, Page 9

st et e et i i 13 R OMAHA, WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 27, 1915, 9 No aher Place *I Know a Girl There!” No. 4 New Orleans By Nell Brinkley Copyright, 1915, Intern’'l News Service. *,' Can You Afford It? ' By BEATRICE FAIRFAX. | Above Thy »Home We all know that we are living In ar extravagant age. Most of us do not recognize the fact that we are very | strong “contributing causes” to the ex i travagance of our age. | As a matter of fact. we cultivate nll sorts of expenaive and luxurious hali s and live on the scale suited to the mens of the man one move higher up in our financlal world. To say “I cam't affoid 1t meems to most of us to be a slgn o incompetence or even of fallure i W\ _Bavon ORovGE, \ g N w\\ ] s = ‘“The Little Gods of the Household Are Jealous Gods.” \ — By DOROTHY DIX | to talk. He never has time to go off | | little iaunts with her, and when he does| This, the ninth commandment of mat- | y,ye pis pleasure he wants to take it rimony : | Thou shalt exalt no other place above | with other men with whom he can con- thy home; neither thy business office nor thy bridge table, nor any cause shalt thou put before thy home, nor neglect thy home for it If the true co-respondent were named in the majority of divorce suits, it woull not be the same blond-haired eren, or some romantic locing Lothario ness, or soclety, or the wuplift move- ment. These are sponsible for the breaking up of more homes than the whole bunch of wayward Im- pulses and fickle fancies and straying pas- slons. We Ameri- cans are not by nature a romantic and a sentimental people. Ideals ap- peal to us more than individuals, and when we make fools of ourselves, and hash of our lives, it is oftener over a thing than it is a person. Thus it happens that when the average American man neglects his wife and leaves her to go her own galt alone; ‘when he is so little acquainted with his children that they think of him as that man who comes here every Sunday, and ‘when he has to consult his address book to see where he lives, i is not because some other woman has stolen his affec- tions away from their legitimate owner. He still thinks—when he stops to think of her at all—that his wife is the one woman in the world. He theoretically &dores his children, and he spends money lavishly on his home, but these are not the real interests of his life. The thing of his pas- slonate preoccup: tion, that he thinks of by day and dreams of by night, re- and ambition cen- ters around; the things that makes his pulses thrill, or sends a chill to the marrow of his bones, s business. It is the hus- bands absorption in business that marks the beginning of the parting of the ways of most couples. The man gives his real interest, his real enthusiasm to his work, and not to his home. He hurries through his breakfast with the paper propped up before him so that he can read the stock market report, and if his wife tries to talk to him he mum- bles an incoherent reply that shows ho hasn't heard a word she said. As soon as he has gulped his coffee and eggs he Joyously rushes for the car and is swal- lowed up in an allen world from hers. ‘When he returns at night he is too tired out to want to go out with her to any place of amusement; too tired even It would be busi- | which | verse on the | 1s interested, | Bometimesa | woman mad | after socloty, and | drags her husband | down into poverty | by ng to Keep up with people who are better off than she 1s. Instead of | her home being a | spot of peace and rest for husband and children, she makes of it a place of walling | and discontent be- cause she cannot have the things she wants. only toples In goes give smart entertainments. to joyfully or to stay In contentedly ideal of happiness 1s to get aw: the excitement is most fast and furlous time to have babies, a husband and make him comfortable. soclety columns of newspapers, and hav afford. Her con- ception of home 18 a hotel suite and | a Pomeranian dog and it Is no mar- vel that she 8o of- ten spends the sea- son at Reno. Another waman |who 1s & home | wrecker, albeit un- intentionally, is the woman who gets interested in the church or the mis- slonary soclety, or some cause that children’s stockings need darning. waste; while she fact that the most important work any she has taken upon herself. is that they do not relize that the little gods of the hearthstone are jealous gods and that if you fout them they fly out of the window. This is why it 18 80 im- portant to remember the ninth command- ment of matrimony: Thou shalt exalt no other place above thy home; neither thy business office nor thy bridge table, nor any cause shalt thou put before thy home, nor neglect thy home for it. Be Mistress of Your Nerves to Be Beautiful By MME, LINA CAVALIERI (The Most Famous Living Beauty.) Realizing as I long ago did that the ex- tremely nervous woman cannot be beau- mistress of my nerves, I studied the sub- ject chiefly by noting the effect of a cer- tain regimen upon my nervous system and leaving out that which 1 found was of bad effect and cultivating that which ‘was good. 1 observed that when I was acutely consclous of my nerves I was in one of two otetes. Either 1 was sulfering from the state of nervous irritaticn or nervous exhaustion. One state was ts bad as the other. It was not in degrees of misery, but in symptoms they differed. Nervous {rritation caused me to be ANY WOMAN CAN SAVE $5 AN HOUR Put gasoline and solvite In a wash boller and dry clean everything. | Ever dry clean at home? Well, it's | #0 oasy, inexpensive and the results so | plensing - you'll be surprised. Any | woman can clean and renew the bright- | ness of ribbons, silks, satins, laces, | yokes, silk shirtwaists, kid gloves and shoes, furs, neckties, children's coats, | sults, caps, swiss, lawn, organdy and chiffon dresses, fancy vcsts, vells, woolen garments, network draperies, rugs, in fact any and everything that would be ruined with soap ana water. { Get two ounces of solvite at any drug overactive, to refrain fro.n rest because rest waa impossible. It was such a state as the exhiliration of intoxication. Ner- vous exhaustion, on the other hand, is an extreme and continued fatigue, with a tendency to melancholy. These states write different charact in the face, but both are expert faclal handwriters. Nervous firritation causes the eyes to be strained. It causes a faint but perceptible twitching about the lips and eyes. Frequently I have noticed that in this state the face is mottled with bright red spots, showing that the ever- charged nervous system has reacted upon the circulation. Nervous exhaustion produces the lines of discontent and despair. It ploughs deep furrows from nostrils to lips. It etches perpendicular lines between the eyes, The lips are pale and the cheeks || bloodless. When a woman has reached this sad state, every effort exh her. She loses her appetite. She sleeps fitfully or not at all. She Is In a vague but painful state of apprehension. Friends and occu- pations or amusements bore her. 8he Is tired of the world, tired of life. It is much to be regretted if one reaches this state, It 1s the open door to suicide. ‘The cause in each case is the same. The sufferer has made an overdraft upon her encrgy, an act as foolleh ang with results as serlous as to make an overdraft upon & bank, On the other hand, if I am of irritable temper, iIf T am over-intense in my pleas- ures or my pains, If 1 talk too mach and needlessly, If 1 cxaggerate when I talk, {1f trifles assume more than their true proportion in my life, then I know that 1 have reached the stage of nervous irri- tation. If by draining your vitality either of these stages of nervousness has been reached, you should address yourself at once to a cure. Of course, it were far bet- store and put it in two gallons of gas)- line where it quickly dissolves. Then | put in the goods to be cleaned, rub a lttle and out they come loovine nv bright and fresh as new. You will find nothing fades, shrinks or wriniles, re- quiring no pressing. | Any woman can do five dollars’ worth in & few moments | snd you can't make a mistake. Your grocer or any garage will supply the gasoline and the drug store will sell you two ounces of solvite which is simply & gasoline soap. Then a wash boller or large Aish pan completes your dry-clean- ing outfit.—Advertisement, ter to prevent nervousness. But if this has not been done, by simple living and vigilant self-control, then not a moment should be wasted. If you are in that fever-like condition that betokens nervous frritation; if your eyes are too high, if your face too vividly expressive; If your volce 18 of too high pitch, your tomes too sharp, you must remove the cause of this concert piteh of the body. Don't talk about your ailments nor per- mit others to talk to you about them. Over-sympathy {s worse than none. For over-sympathy makes you sorry for yourself, and there is no more depleting state of mind than this. he Sometimes she even starves the family that she may A Such a woman wrecks her home be- cause she never makes it a place to come Her ; trom home to restaurants, to cabarets, to sum- | mer resorts and winter resorts, wherever and the pace most killing. She has no no leisure to ralse children, never a minute to do anything 80 dull and deadly as to try to entertain | Her ideal of life s camprised In try- ing to know the people who don't want to know her, In sceing her name in the ing a hat that cost more than she can she leaves her home run itself, while she tries to run the universe. She works her fingers to the bone making flannel petti- coats for the Hottentots while her own She lets her own servants steal and lectures on political economy. She drives her own husband to drink crusading for total prohibition. She knows everything except the one vital woman can do is taking care of her own man and children, and fulfilling the duties The trouble with both men and women o ; ’ i (e / ,Vg;,d"fi Lia.d . : i/ W f “She taught me to say New O-le-ans—'stead of New Urleens! She proved that there was something as warmly white, with a touch of gold and violet in the shadows of its petals, as sweet and as trop- ical as thé magnolia—=and lovelier still! And when I went away she sald, in her soft, mild drawl, “I'm mahghty so'y to see you-all g0 'way.” mellowness, softness and dusk. lose the velvet softness of a southern night. out of the word “South” she {8 made of. There are no high-lights in the southern girl. She 1s all Her eyes can be gay, but they never All things that whisper Jessamine flower, and yel- 3 low rose, slow-flowing water, and pine woods, blue bonnets (water hyacinths), the mocking bird, magnolias and the golden moon of the Bouth, the deep-throated crooning of the songs they sing there, the memories of the old South, the gallantry that still lives there, the languor. She Is the South, Her skin i{s warmly white; her eyes and hair, it she {s Creole, shadowy copper; she is as sweet as a sun-warmed grape. And nowhere 18 there girl or woman who understands and is as kind to “Adam" as the Southern Eve.—NELL BRINKLEY, Why We Quarreled By VIRGINIA TERHUNE VAN DE WATER. Copyright, 1915, by Star Company. When I was a chlld young girls were not allowed the freedom which is theirs | now. And they were far gentler and less | arrogant than is the young person of today. My daughters are twins—16 years old. I insist that they are still chlldren and | #hould be treated as such. They should | have the innocuous pleasures suited to| their age. | “And what are those pleasures?’ my | wife asked me once when I made this statement. | “Candy pulls, simple games like domi- noes and checkers, walking or driving parties and plenics—always In the dny-] time, and always with a mature chaperon along. That's the way my sisters were trained. And you were brought up in the same way,” I supplemented, remem- bering suddenly how strict Irene's mother was with her. My wife laughed as I enumerated the various amusements 1 considered proper. “Imagine a modern, up-to-date girl satisfied with that kind of entertain- ment!" zhe jeered Why, they outgrow dominoes and checkers by the time they are 10 years old. Walking and riding parties have gone out of fashion. As to plenies, they are well enough In their proper season, but they are very elabor- ate affairs nowadays, and are only poasi- ble in summer, at any rate. Hven In your day plenics were not given in mid-winter, my dear.' I saw that she thought my contentions ridiculous and it vexed me. “You may sneer if you like,’ 1 said, “put 1 do not consider the parties our virls attend the proper things at their age” ‘Yet you sent them to dancing school,” she reminded me. “Did yom not expeot them to attend dances later?" “Certainly,” 1 repl , +slmple, sane uch a8 w< had when we were “Times have changed, dear,” she sald gently, them."” I thought that “and we must change, with perhaps she had at last reached my viewpoint, since she spoke so calmly, and I kissed ner and sald nothing more. I hoped that there would be no further cause for such dis- putes. They had become more and more trequent with each passing year. But her manner meant only a desire to conciliate me. Even then she had in her mind a plan for the children, and desired my acquiescence. It was for a luncheon party of ecight girls at a fasnlonable restaurant, followed by a box party at the matinee, and, after dinner, a little dance at our house In the evening. “It i Christmas week,” she told me, “and I want the children to have a good time." “But," I protested, ““the program those #irls have arranged would tire a woman of the world, It fs outrageous.” “Young people can stand a good deal =9 = of fun,” she sald smilingly. “And Gladys and Hazel have set their hearts on hav. ing the gayest affalr given by any of their set this season. “It will cost a great desl,” I ventured. My wife has her own income and 1 could not use expense as my strongest weapon. “I will defray half tne expen she sald sternly, “if you wish me to." o “You know I don't grudge a cent for anything that will make my ochildren happy,” 1 reproved. ‘“That is, if it Is also good for them, But you are making fashionable women of little girls We argued hotly, and, as Gladys en- tered the room during our altercation, I knew I was put in the wrong in the eyes of my own daughter, At last I ap- pealed to the child “Gladys,” 1 asked, “wouldn't you and Hazel rather have a simpler affair than this one you are planning?” “Indeed we wouldn't,” she answered. By ELLA WHEELER WILOOX, Isaw an angel with majestic mien And radiant brow, and smile divinely sweet, Strong human passions writhed beneath his feet; There, too, expired those coward faults which screen Themselves behind inheritance, and lean On dead men for their strength and think it meet— All, all lay prostrate, owning their defeat. Then to the spirit with eyes serene I cried aloud, in wonder and in awe: “O mighty one, who are thou that thy glance Can eirenmvent heredity-—cheat chance, And conquer nature? The angel answered: What thine occult law? Art thou incarnate Forc: e—the over-soul?” No. 7—The Man's 8ide—The Puritanical Husband Tells of His Battle Over His Daughters, : ‘All the girls are giving stutnning holi- day parties, and we mean to beat them Al “What a false standard you are fol- lowing!" I exclaimed. “I am surprised that you should allow it.” I added, turn- ing again to my wife. To my distress, Gladys burst into tears, “It isn't fair to scold mother when sl Is trying to make us happy!" she sob- bed. “It lsn't fal; “There, there, dear!" wobbed the mother. “Father doesn't understand— ‘but mother does!" 1 resolved to try to understand the sit- uation, 1 know my wife is devoted to her children and that she is a good woman. Perhaps, 1 told myself, I was narrow and old-fogey, as my wife often suggested. Yet when, on the night of the dance in our drawing room, I stood at one side and watched my daughters, my heart turned sick within me. ‘The modern dances seemed to me wsuggestive; the dresses worn by the girls immodest. 1 sought out my wife where she stood In the shadow of the bay window, gasing with smiling eyes at the dancers. “Isn't it all pretty?' she appealed as I came up. “It's disgustin, T burst forth, in- dignantly. “I tell you I can't stand this king of thing! It is bad enough to see a married woman who is able to take care of herself, gliding about in the tight ‘cluteh of a man—but it is shameful to allow one's daughter to dance such dances in such a way!" She looked at me aghast. “I would not,' she sald slowly and acousingly, “huve such an evil imagination as yours for all the money in the world. What you have just sald is an insult to your wife and daughters' I cannot prove that it was not, for all the girls in the fashionable set dance and dress in the same style. But 1 often wonder if all husbands and wives in that set quarrel as do my wife “I am Self-Control.” and 1 about the freedom allowed the up- to-date young girl. A8 a matter of fact, bravely to ae n, W edge that a thing is beyond your means and that you don't propose to squander your earnings is a very fine thing to d> It carries with it sincerity and a fearless indifference to snobbery and false values of what makes lfe worth while. The most pathetic part about extrava- gance ia that it so seldom Luys us any- thing we really want. How many of the people you see in gay cafes at midnight are getting thelr money's worth out of being there? Lights, music, exuberant people all about—to how many people are these really essentials of enjoyment? Most of us enjoy a “cold snack’ out of the ico box In the coty atmosphere of home with a consclousness that we aren't living extravagantly far better than the Nttle flurry In high living that brings us & five-dollar check and the necessity of lunching on & glass of milk and a sand- wich for a week to come. False pride about money matters fa um- utterubly silly. We ought to do what we can afford to do with a graciousness that makes offering someone our simple home hospitality truly royal. We ought never strive after offects that defeat them- selves just because of our consclous striv- ing. There are various sorts of extravagance ~—a lavish spending of emotion where it ia not appreciated, a foolish wasting of one's self in late hours and social galeties that bring nothing real or vital into one's life—all forma of waste that mean an out: Iay which does not repay itselt are in- efficlent and extravagant. A very brilllant woman who has made for herself a place in the world recently maid to me: "I allow myself two even- ings a week during which 1 keep latd hours and play as exuberantly as I like, I can't afford to waste my energles |1 long evenings of jollitication that get mo nowhere. I have to save myself up sd that T may make my days count. And it I spent my nights foolishly they wouldn't." . B0 much for wasted energy. Waated emotion Is just as absurd. All the *“} oan't live without him' girls who shriel madly for the return of a lover whan affection waa relfish and who never givw them more than a few joyous mamen's to offset hours of pait and gile 1o ing criminally o trivag feelings!if (o - H thetic enous’ Nows bar g more? Nome of un ~n «#* howirle come on thi nre f because the r:t o' t'e wot 14 g bling after ti-se thin », oy ¢ mit ourselver o | ntee means do not u- v “1 ean't affory it' 11 u splendid sen~ tence to learn to tay. 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