Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, October 14, 1915, Page 9

14, 1915, _ Paris Autumn Styles 3% Republished by Special Arrangement Another Valuable Article from with Harper's Bagar : : : : the Pen by Mlle. Cassassa. Live Not With Thy In-Laws Says Marriage Decalogue—Fourth Commandment Warns Sunlight Beauty Against One of Most Potent Sources of Domestic Discord. By DOROTHY DLX This Is the fourth commandment of matfimony: Thou shalt not abide in (he house witl tion, condescend to snoop | their daughters-in-law | and spy on and sons-in-law, and to steaming open letters and listening t keyholes “SBunshine puts iron in the thy in-laws, for therein lieth trouble an Men who are the pink of courtesy and { dtbsensioh. valry to all other women in' the world b According to the o) 10w a brutal disregard of even the com- blood. statistics compiled by the court of domes- tie relations, the mother-in-law is the most potent soune of domestic discorq, and the first ald to di- vorce, Sometimes it is the wife's mother wha breaks up a home. Bometlmes it is the husband’'s m o t her, but the concensus of experfence showas that efther lady is & trouble breeder, and that any household is mon courtesies of | in-law, | life to their mathers- And £0 It goes, and so it always will go ong &3 human nature is in its present e@eaerate state, for the in-law propo | 8ltion crystaliizes into concrete form our three most pronounced weaknesses. These |aro tycanny, jealousy and selfishness and {they get in their perfect work when we are brought into intimate contact with our n-laws. There is, to begin with, the hitter strug: &lo between the bumptious young hus band or wife and the conceited old woman | about how the house shall be who shall run it. Then there is dying husband { the cthe run, and the un- wite of er, and the bitterer joa! alousy of ® m and “The sunshine bather woman is elways at- “It strengthens the hair." “Bathe your {Pmd)‘ every de- § i 3 sy | ousy of tho motiner who has seen her N i due to run up the |place in a child's affoction '..\m: ‘\:: Bl 12 sunehine ! storm signal when she arrives in it. |other, and an Idolized son or daughter | ® | Of course this should not be thus. |going blithely off with a stranger and | i Bvery mother should cherish her newly |actually being happy with him or her. | acquired child as her own, and eovery | Above all, there is selffshreps, the sel- | i bride and groom should love ahd honor |{ishness of the man who feeis that ne has | } their new mother. Only they don't. There |a right to monopolize his wife's every | seems to be some sinister psychic influ- ence that makes the mere fact of people becoming In-laws to each other bring out all the latent meanness and cussed- ness in thelr natures as hot poultice brings out the measles. Women who are tender and kind and sympathetic to all the rest of the world are gullty of Incredible crueity to their mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Generous women who deény themselves new hats to send flannel. petticoats to the Hottentots begrudge their old moth- | er-in-law a bite to eat and a =eat by the fireside. Noble women, who would scorn doing any other sort of underhanded ac- thought and interest; the selfishness of the wife who feels herself defrauded it her husband gives a dollar of hie money or an hour of his time to the mother who bore him, and the selfishness of the mothor wno belleves that her son-in-law should work himself to death to supply |her daughter with luxuries, and sof the mother who belleves that her son's Wife #hould be contented to be merely & do- mestie slave and not for guwa. It is especially important that a bride and groom should start housekeeping alone, without the presence of any third party. The first year of married life is inevitably a time of adjustment, in which there is bound to be much friction. It left to themselves, a young couple will ask wny gew- g Mrpagrt By FLORENCE CASSASSA. the parks or little green squares that ght their differences out to a finish. The Prize-Winning Beauty Model, | have been aptly styled “the lungs of Then the bride will weep and the bride« N U1’ attain the full stature STO8t cities' because they are indeed, groom call himsclf a brute, and they will | ; : wnbmnnl w «.n r:‘ A :a to| the breathing places of large eommuni- kiss and make up and love none the fn 1“11 t:‘“vyh:‘:‘ 4 .u.u ‘;1‘ e tles, Or you may be nearer to the rec- ! less for their quarrel. But it is another LRt et e e wlood. It| reation plera that extend, tongus-like, inta story when the bride's mother is in the | URSERE DA 0L ES TR one of the great rivers by which New y house, and eggs the wife on to rebellion, | ANAA 1o, (A BRIbEY GF. 18 capgamaiea, - 1y 4 ilion, | stimulates to greater activity those in-| YOPK 18 girt. It is better to walk to une % and tells her what a persecuted martyr | Py 1 hick Inclined to lasi-| ©f these than to ride. 1 W ° urges her son to stand firm and not let| :‘:::‘.;“::hl’,', ‘"?0 ,‘:nr‘lm,,,.u': a;:. I,: A his wife henpeck him. | ! 4o | . | omans Many a mother-in-law also lays the | B A S S Ol G B it oo P a0 Axe to the foundation of a hon o) Influence she feels it her ,m;, to call her ::,, h,,: As in the gown to the left, Callot be- | A touch of fur is requisite even on the | coloring. That hair which is daily ex- In-shootg 1 tentlon continually to his wife's faults, or| Neves in the future of the lace frock. | yore geverely taflored mult A band of B ain R dherraiol mdi: o } u;:m;n hnhe rouses suspicion in a - young :;":‘: ‘:‘}’;:::,l_az: ‘.l;‘::“o{n‘;:l‘:\ll‘t::l "‘flfl'." seal heads the turned-back hem of this :;I-‘lnlll‘llmon @ richer color and stronger | By BHATRICE FAIRFAX. B e PInE e how Btrabey and a deep cape of the lace ads beauty | Smoke gray velveteen sult, matching the ‘The woman Who 14 habitually sunshine| The firt who tukes 1t out ln winkiag g finfier othe Hight st8. “‘"d‘:m;':‘,"':"; to the back of the plaited bodice. | shawl collar-and cutts of. the samo fur, bathed is always attractive, The woman | °an have a lot of ! , “Dear Miss Fulrax: What do you think | pretey stenographer had anything to do | . " Who shuta out the sunshine and prefers| 1, 1y weil to be charitable in conversa~ X of a girl who i engaged to a oy :Ib“ with it. U -"":Chrl. ||.lntul;lwl)'l by #o much dis-| yon even If you cannot sign every sub L] doesn't love, but wiio Kmowk If hor Influ- | iy araeore, he for == = T e L i | gQUOLS her: Desuty, scription peper that is passed alons. ence Is taken away from- him he wil cnm,m,,,,,,,,,f,"n,w:;t'r‘,’m:'"';’.' Thou A e | Ut 1o her of carry oUt MY former in-|met & prosperous. voung man, who seked |. Wholesomenoas 1 a fundamental of — i amount to nothing?. She-felt it her duty | po™ IO TR o ok s Hid I tention and wait CAROLINA. [me to murry him. Heé does not wish, | womanly beauty. It is the cornerstone| A good many men have become reform- i ; this man, after keep- bt e . g ik PR (N o con- [Nowever, to take care of my mother al#o; | o gonuine attractiveness, There 1s no | ers through faflure to take liver medicine to promise to marry this for therein lieth trouble and dissension, A (] 1 L lorn Don't try to force your Darente te voun | 1, hould like to know It It would be begt i ing_company with Him for same time. | o o0 N (RS AN Cimension, vice to Lovelor sent to your marriage at the cost of your | o\ marry him under these ciraumatance, ;o-al:m: -llel;:::am;n-u" wnnlolut'. ::mucuumnuly. 3 The man loves the girl very much an X An other's health. Go home and see if love (With the hope that in o e abit of sunlight absorption. ® | —— 1 vows she will pever regret marrying him :I:Tl?:liicla::\‘)lli:):’r‘x:fimf“u .‘n direct ratlo, e my BNATRION PATRPAR=— ‘lnr:m 48\ G persuation cannot win their | Will help my mother. UNEERTAIN! cause of bright eyes, ruddy checks, red Biblical knowledge will W“'h.l man ] He 16 ok 4 DA ek dn An vy TRiSAne Go Home | consent to what you.think spells your| Don't risk the lifo and happiness of | jing and the exudation from the body of t0 Put up & good argument whether it would be weak if h> had the opportunity, Dear Miss Fairtax. 1 am a young | happiness. I am sure that if the youns [your invalid mother for a'man who is not [ the very easence of health. benatits his morale or hot. g ! “PERPILIXED." woman of good lineage, and for the lus: | man you love is Inferior In nothing but |loyal enough to you to be willing to re- | Ah, yes! I hear a great outery from| yu. ' men suspect that the- manuschpt | A woman's irfluence is @ wonderful Joar have been keeping company With &) soclal standing you can overcome DPA~|spect your love and devotion to her. You | the city shut-ins, “We cannot all live| o'\ obituary writer does not tally with (8 thing for zood or ovil and Perplexed Ynl et o Tao Y af he ‘bisct | rental prejudice—and overcome it best at |ghould refuse positively to marry him i€ | in the suburbe or the countey,” they com- |, 04 of the recording Angdl, | raises a fine point in her letter. Dut Standing, aocinlly, as myself, | howos he awill not give & home to the mother | Plain. No, but 10 cents will pay your| i 1 marriage without love never yet led ‘to vt'?v_~;lmz tutlhlll Lo rr:w:\:lz‘nll Inh;n .h;:‘l:‘\;.l — to whom you owe every consideration. | round-trip carfare to them. Everyone Is| During the month of Beptember the ) havpiness. hay conbented ta. our betrothal.” ) am Don't Desert Your Mother. |He will probably respect you for your | within reach of the parks and plazas with | June bride generally discovérs that her The woman who marries a man cither carning my own living, but it {s slowly| Dear Miss Falrfax, 1 am @ poor works|fine feelings. If not, he would never | which this city is dotted. No one but|cooking s mot up to the standard of " 10 Aarm’ N (from avil seaya Tt whieh DISRRINS (Y rme’ whother T susht to re- | Ingalid mochor 1 am . and’ recontly | bo the right sort of hushand. lives within walking distance of one of | mother's he has fallen in the past or to save him from falling into evil ways In the future, must have Infinite love, patience and sympathetic understanding to bring to her task. But the greatest of these is love, for it will animate ard vitalize all the other aualities. A woman’s influence is s great for avil as for good. 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