Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, September 10, 1915, Page 7

THE BEE: Why Women Lie-- When They Do The Complaint of a Mas- culine Critic Answered. By ELLA WHEELER WILCOX. (Copyright, 1915, by Star Company.) A seemingly Intelligent man asks me the following question: Is there a woman in America that will sot willfully lfe and decelye? A busi- ness man in Cleve- land, O., made the remark to me one day that he had been in business twenty-eight years, and In that time he had never met * woman who would not lle for money or social ef- ‘ect, and 1 say, is t possible? Re- spectfully, HOMER F. When we come down to the real basis of things, 1t is pretty hard to find a man or woman who is not gullty of some small prevari- cation each day. Almost every business man is obliged | to be courteous and polite to callers who bore him unuterrably and take up his precious time. When they say, ‘I fear | I am trespassing on your patience’’ the poor salve of business is obliged to say, “Not at all,”” while in his heart he is wishing himself upon a desert islang a thousand leagues from bores. Again, he finds himself obliged from social consideration to accept a dinner invitation, either at the home of an ac- | quaintance or at the club, yet he does | not enjoy the occasion, but is forced to | say that he has had a charming time on | taking leave of his host. In large financial transactions, the man | who {8 absolutely truthful today would | bring a salary in any museum. The lit- tle lie {n such situations is called “busi- ness acumen” and ‘shrewdness,’ and “cunning,” and ‘“quick wit—any name, | indeed? save its own ugly one. In the hours devoted to gallantry and love-making, man prides himself upon his ability to tell sweet lies which women belleve. As for woman's untruthfulness, it s a wonder she knows how to speak the truth at all, since man has so en- compassed her with false conditions, and | made such unreasonable demands of her, that she has never dared to be absolutely | honest and frank with him, or even with herself. { I often winder just when he began to | impress upon her mird that she was a | being so utterly unlike himself in her| natural passions, her aims, her rights, | her obligations. Surely in the early, ; primitive races woman was not forced to | such deception as the civilized world.has | made necessary. | Man now makes it obligatory upon | woman to declare herself as emotionless | as a disembodied spirit, else he distrusts her purity, I once knew a wife who was unwise enough to tell her husband that some years before she met him a man had put his arm about her waist during & promenade. She had rebuked him and never saw the man afterward; yet the husband became morbid and jealous and unkind after this incldent was related to him, and insulted his wife with 'ulplcwnl‘ of her respectabllity, declaring that she must have caused him to act as he did; by her indiscretions. So long as men demand much more of women that they give women must be forced to lie and decelve. Only when he is willing to overlook her errors and follies as he expects her to be in consid- ering his will she become truthful. Almost everything that woman is man made her. She is often extravagant be-| cause he continually pays attention to the fashionably attired women, even while he scoffs at fashion, She frequently neglects the domestio virtues for more showy &o- complishments because man passes the domestic woman by with polite indiffer- ence. It would be well for man to ask him- self what he has done toward making higher standards for woman before he | criticizes her too severely. : Do YOTI Know .Th;t Roman soldiers used to drink vinegar when on long marches. In some parts of Norway corn is used s a substitute for money. Germany takes a census every five years; England every ten years. C'hristie’'s most sensational sale realized ! 397,000 fn seventeen days. In Spain farm laborers earn about $1.50 a week. The women who work in vine- rds do not get more than 15 cents a Aay. Investigation made by statisticians (end to show that out of every million of the world's population about sixty- “our are blind It is estimated that in the ecivilized | countries of the world 6 per cent of | persons over 10 years of age have to work for a living. Jv NI ht, 1915, International News Service. OMAHA, FRIDAY, SE UINKLEY. | Don’t Use Soa J Your Hair 1 By Virginia Terhune Van de Water (Copyright, 1915, by Star Company.) The matter over which my husband nd T quarrel oftenest is money 1 have always supposed that this was he matter over which most couples quar 1 have no money of my own, yet If 1| ad, it might not make any difference. have a friend who has her own in- yme, wcd she and her husband squabble bout it. He does not like her to spend without consulting him, and he con- ders her extravagant, It is not that » would touch a dollar of her money, ¢ he wouldn't. Nor is there any need t his doing so, as he is a very rich an. But he wants to be consulted hout all her expenditures. In my owr case, T have no noed to talk bout how to spend my money—for that a negligible quantity George hates to ear me say this, but it Is true. T am a ependent. Ho is a geuerous husband nd Is willing to open accounts at the various shops where I want to buy hings, and when the billa come In he mys them by check Doesn’'t that ‘sound nice? Well, In reality, it is dreadfull When the first of the month comes and I see a sheat of bills laid with my husband's mall, 1 shudder. I wateh him anxiously as his eyes run down the column of items and figures—for I am the one who has or- dered all the articles named. To be sure, some of them were for the house-table linen, curtaing and so forth. Once n & while it has been necessary to or Kot & company tablecloth. There are also replenish my stock of fine napkins, occastons upon which I have had to make tome gift—wedding present, or something of that kind—which has gone from both of us. 1 alwayg explain all these matters. It i bad enouxh when George asks me If all those things were really nocessary. Yot as he is reprosented in some of them, and uses some of the others himself in his home, T can often reply calmly to this question. But when the items are | clothes for myself, it is a different mat- ter. Last winter T had a nmew wrap made at home. I wanted to buy it ready.made | but evening wraps are very expensive. I consulted my husband about the matter and he agreed that, golng out as often as I do to little dinners and other eve- nings affalrs, I ought to have a nice cloak to wear over my light gowns “If you can have it made at home, get the materials from one of the shops where we have a charge account,” he suggested. . | 1 did this. T longed for some nice fur to trim the wrap with, but I stified this |longing. Instead, I got just enough | swansdown to go around the neck and | slecves. For linin -, 1 got seven yards | of brocade, at a “special price.” It would i not look ‘well to have a satin coat lined with cheap material, Yet when the bill came home and John glanced over it, I saw him draw his | brows together. | "“Can this be right, deart he asked | “Seven yards of sllk at §.50 per yard? I | thought your coat was to be of satin, i too."” | *“The other s broeade for lining, desr,” | T faltered. “Really that wasn't muoch to pay for it. “Lining!" he exclaimed. wood #ra- | efous! 1f you spend that much for lining, you'd better wear your coat inside out.” | “You told me to get a handsome wrap,” |1 reminded him. “And I thought you { meant me to do so." | “Certalnly I meant it he returned. | “But 1 did not suppose you were golng | to have it lined with cloth-of-gold." | “I am saving & good deal on It by hav- | Ing it made at home,” I ventured, ‘“The garment from which it's copled cost §70 ! Just as it is In the shop.” | “A millionaire’s wife can atford to [wear thet kind of thing he said brusquely. My wife cannot afford it.” | Yet, later, when he admired my pretty | coat and I reminded him of what he said, R T i TR b he was hurt to think that I “‘cherished & grudge” against him. “You know I am always glad to have you buy nice clothes," he insisted. “I was not displensed at your getting that wrap—only surprised to find that the ma- | terials cost so much, We men are lgno- |rant of women's expenses, you see." Yet he is not willing to let me have money with which to meet my own ex- | penses. ven in my charities it in the same way. I am one of the managers of a girls' home. I like to give to this organization, | vet to do this T would have to ask my husband for the money for my gift, He thinks me foolish to be so much inter- ested In working girls. So when 1 want (to make a present to the home, I huy table linen or bed linen, have it ment home and charged. Then I take these fow articles over to the home as my con- tribution, o i [ i i il T fi fililie T suppose this would seem dishonesv— wouldn't ft—to most people. But as my husband tells me that ¥ earn my living and my luxuries, t0o,” may I not indulge myself in this luxury? I am housekeeper, wife and mother~thus I do earn all that 1 spend. He could not hire a woman to do what 1 do for what It costs to keep me. Last month T tried to be brave and ask him for money for a gift. I wanted to send a poor cousin a bit of jewelry on her birthday. 1 asked George timidly for $10. “What for?' he demanded. 1 told him, although I know he dislikes this cousin, “‘Have it charged and send the bill to me," he ordered. “Tt's all the same.” It lan’t all the same, but T can never make him understand this. So I did not buy the bit of jewelry, Take a Firm Stand. Dear Mias Fairfa I am a oung kirl and have a good me. After going out with a young man steadily for a vear with the idea that we could be married soon, he tells me It will be a year and a half before he ean be ‘married. My parents object and wish me to see him only o in a \ Ho will not do this, suying Imust be altogether or not at all. My | friends say to give him up, as 1 am too young to tle myself down, and cepecially when he has no definite future. I have many friends, but would like to do the right thing by this one. Is he justified in his view point? APPRECIATIVE. T think you had bhetter respect your parents’ wishes since you are so un- certain of your own feeling and so in- clined to be influenced by the advice of |your friends. If the young man sees !that vou are determined he will probably be willing to agree to accede to your parents’ wish, | Advice to Lovelorn His Advice is Good. ¢ Dear Miss Fairfax: I am a girl of I8 madly in love with & young man the same age. He has been courting me these lust three years The other IJ asked him what "his {ntentions were, since earns very littie and has no future, my astonishment he told ma forget” him and to look cause he could never SUpPort 1 felt not part Mthm:lm an that I coul the rhock will kill me. DISTRESSED. Such talk, after three years' courtship is brutal, I admit, but there is some sense in it. He can't afford to marry. A long engagement is untair to you, o do 6 he says; forget him. He will be more interested in you iIf you make the effort. Stalr Etiguette. Dear Miss Falrfax: Should a man pre- cede a lady goink up or downstairs, or should a lady precede a man? 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