Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, September 4, 1915, Page 12

P —— ——— o ——— By DOROTHY DIX. It is one of the inexplicable tragedies | of family life that the strong are always governed by the weak. and fllogical, but it is the short-sighted person whose vision sets the bound to the domestic hori- %on; it is the halt and the lame who are the pacemak- ers of family prog- ress; it is the per- son of weak and hysterical judgment who decides the way the family bark shall be steered. It is never the strong, wise, tolerant, far-see- ing member of the household who rules it No other thing on earth 0 serves to put the brakes on human endeavor, brings about so many avoldable calamities as the sub- servience ST the strong to the wealk, the subordination of the wise te the foolish it is a great misfortune to humanity, but it is one of the noblest mistakes that mankind has ever made, and there are many excuses to be offered for it. Indeed the very qualities that make a man or woman strong—the wide com- prehension, the ability to endure, the di- vine patience and pity make them the or inevitable victime of the little souled and | the weak. Just as an honest man is no match for a thief in a trade bacause he will not descend to offsetting trick by trick, so the strong and noble cannot con- tend with the weak and pusmllanimous, | because they scorn to use the only weapon that would avafl. You may see this illustrated in a dozen households of your acquaintance where there is an inequality between hus- band and wife. Invariably the weak one rules. If the man is wise, generous, broad, tolerant and the woman is eilly, narrow, high-tempered and querulous, it is not he, but she who is the autocrat. Such a woman never glves up her own will, because thefe are no such egotists as fools. She mever suffers herself to be led up to a higher life, because she is too dull to have any aspirations. But the man, just because he is broad and wise, and because he sees, as she does not. that in order to have any peace in family life, somebody must give in, some- body must use tact and discretion, he sacrifices himself to his weak wife, Thera are thousands of noble and splendid men that are chained to women without bewins or hearts, and the nobler these men are the less fitted.they are to deal with such wives. Thare is no argument that this type of woman can undefstand, except brute force, and as a gentleman cannot beat his wife, no matter how much she needs it, these men are the helpless victims of the tyranny of the weak, How is a man to deal with a woman who has hysterics every time he tries to reason with her about her extrava- gance, which is ruining him? What can he do if she meets every suggestion with floods of tears? How can he stop her if she makes jealous scenes every time he speaks to another woman? THe's helpless to change her. All that he can do is just to meekly submit and keep from stirring her up. Or the case may be reversed, as it very often {s, and It is the woman with great intelligence and wide understand- ing and sympathy who is married to a bigoted and prejudiced man with violent passion: Then.it 1s he who rules the family, and it is she who seeing his lit- fleness and realizing that there is noth- ing 80 unchangeable as ignorant stupidity, sets herself the task of adjusting her nature to his, instead of trying to ad- just his to hers. Tet a man have a temper Iike a train of fireworks, he does not try to control it. It is his wife who spends her like walking on eggs for fear she will rouse the devil in him, trying to keep things hidden and out of sight that will vex him. As between husband and wife, it is always and invariably the noble who gives way to the ignoble, the strong that surrenders to the weak, which is a disastrous thing for the chifldren. Another pitiful fllustration of this is the young man or woman who I8 bound | like a slave at the charlot wheels of his or her parents, and who is crushed | in the dust and ground to powder under | the welght of an old man or woman's moss-grown theorle: Not every father and mother understand the child they | have borne or are fitted to decide its destiny. Many an old hen hatches out a swan, and #pends her life in trying to keep it from the water that is the habitat for which nature intended it, simply and solely because she has a disitke for water herself, All of us have known girls whase parents have broken off good matches because the fagher or mother didn't hap- ven to like the way the man combed his balr. or had an aversion to his rel'gion race. or for some other reason equally foollsh. We have known talented #ivls who might have made fame and fartune on the stage but for some senile merent who had a prejudice against petarg. Wo have known boys who were pre- vented from going where fortune called them by some sillv and selfish old mother who wept when her Johnnle talked about leavine home. We have known other men whose lives were ruined because an on'nionated father. who thought he knew what was better for them than they 4'd themselves, forced them into some occu- vation for which thev were unfitted. and kept them from doing the thing they wanted to 4o and could have done with profit, It's the old story, the strong vielding 1o tha weak, the wise ruled by the fool- ish. the swift, younz feet slowing them- selves down to the tottering galt of ase Tt is what ‘s divinest In vs In its most 1ict'e aspect. &nd it explaine noth inw alse does the reason why the world's rooress is w0 slow. lite Far In family we have a remark- shie example of the survival of the fittest bt ihe ome wha survives s the onme . throws a it whenever his or her sovarelgn will is crossed It is irrational | | i i | | { When a girl-person's pet sport Is chasing rare butterflies—that gold and pink variety with the velvet from a faery's coat from Love-Land on his l wing-tips, and the color of the girl's first blush tinting their roots—when, | I say, she'd rather rout out after this splendid fellow with her net, than to eat strawberries frozen in marsh- mallows and whipped cream (what is it folks call | coquette. her?) a trifler and a THHE BEIl (The Danny Kind) 4 . “H‘ [ q’l [ el And when a man is an ardent col- ! | lector of wpecimens of the Danny va- ‘ risty—the call him susceptible, | Girls don't mind betng called a co- \ quette. If they're sure you don't mean that when they catch their but- terfly they pin him to a card! ' But a trifler, who captures her but- | terfly, is careful of his fraill gauze | wings, admires and prizes him, and I then holds him aloft and frees him By NELL BRINKLEY Copyright, 1915, Interna’t'! News Service OMAFLA, SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 4, again into the blue air—ah! has a better sound. It means skill and soundiessness and magnetism. And no maid minds being a collector of butterflies when a smile goes with it. But a man blazes and then goes bfack with anger and wrath if sus- * ceptible is whispered after his name. For susceptible means—heart of but- ter that melts in the glow of any girl's smile, That By ANN LISLE. | | | | There was once a Young Husband who | had the dance craze, Apart from that he |was & very clever business man who | thought that a husband's first duty was to make money and a wife's first re- | sponsibility was to have beautiful chil- dren and to bring them up well | The Wife subscribed to his theories, so, |of course there was no friction in their |home. She was much too busy with the cares of the household to learn to dance at all, and she generally too tired from those “cares of the household” to | g0 along with her husband when he went to these dansants. Of course, no man can dance without a partner, and so the young husband found a Partner. The Partner was a beautiful young woman who had neither household cares, husband nor theory. She liked to dance— preferably with someone well, but necessarily with someone who would pay the check. Unless one has a dinner Invitation or a certain means of support it grows rather important for a cabaret tea to offer enough nourish- ment to last until some chap buve an after-theater supper. The Young Husband and danced merely all through And the Young Wife stayed his Partner the winter. at home and jtook care of the babiey and provided {such very good dinners that the HHusband {alw came home to them. But he | {generally went out again at' about 10’ |o'clock—"to the club,” he sald, or *“to who danced | Life Partners and Dance Crazes Another Fictionless Fable for the Fair—About a Theory We All Know see someone on business.” Of course, the club was a dance club and the busi- ness wag learning the latest step. The Young Wife ate her very good dinners and went to bed early and waxed unfashionably fat. And the Husband, se- cure in the Partner's ability and his Wife's docility, danced more and more and enjoyed it better and better and was increasingly certain that a Wife's place was in the home. Ang everybody in the city where they lived kpnew all about it and wondered whether they ought to tell the Young Wife or whether what she didn't know wouldn't hurt her Before apybody could come to & painful decision or gossip could settle the matter, the Husband brazenly entereq a dancing contest with his Partner and won & cup, And a little paragraph best scandal-mongering sheet recorded the fact. And the Wife read the little paragraph. What she thought about it nobody knew, Suddenly the dinners which were so very good containeg more and more po- tatoes and soups and gravies and rich puddings which the Husband ate un- suspectingly, while the Wife managed nicely on the lean parts of the meat and salad and & bit of toast. The Husband began taking on welght and the Wife, alded by & masseuse and walks, taken while the Husband busy abareting in stuffy restaurants, hegan using her extia And then a | mysteilous young msn apicarcd at her in the city's pounds \ house every morning at 11 lessons—for she held firmly to the theory that what you don't know won't hurt you. When the Wife welghed only 112 and the mysterious young man had taught her all the extremely graceful dancing steps of which he was master, she ap- peared one day with this youth at one of the cabaret tea places in town. Bomehow or other every one else in the city met the Wife at the dansant long ]befnn‘ her Husband did and they shook thelr heads gravely and came to the con- jelusion that now it & case where what he didn' know wouldn't hurt him. | Then one day the Wife and her 19- | vear-old dancing partner met the Hus- band and his 19-year-old dancing partner iAn & contest and won a cup from them. | The two 18-year-olds now form a clever idlntinl team and the Husband and Wife |are devoting themselves to bringing up their children The wife keeps slender and the Husband grows fat. And they do not discuss their affairs. Nebody knows quite positively whether the woman planned it all or it just happened And since the Husband is no more cer. |tain than is any one else, he is spared the indignity of feeling that his Wife | beat bhim at his own . Moral What You Den't Wow't Hurt You—but the | Dancin: Partners Should mitied Lo Endanger a Li Know Craze for ver be Per- tnership \ Al The Young Wife said her children were taking music | 1215, By CHARLES H. PARKHURST. | Mueh iy being wisely said in these days | regarding ‘the responsivility of mothers {for the upbringing of their children, while comparatively little account s | made of the pa- rental responsibil ity of fathers. The word father is said to be another form of the word foeder, | a8 though the func- {tion of the malc parent was origin. ally concelved to be to meet the phy sical necemsities of the child In the |way of nourlsh {ment, what might |be called the dom {estic commissariat Whether that is {the accurate ac count of the word such an explana- tion 18 rather closely in with the idea somewhat generally entertained as to the fathor's relation to the domes keaping tie the the funds Such an arrangement of the division of labor could have nothing sald against It, provided it be conceded that woman is ! man's female equivalent, and that dis- | tinction of sex extends no farther than to the physical ingredient, ! Some of us, however, have been led by our studies, and by our own experi- ence of domestic influences, to hold to the |dea that sex is a quality which per- |vades tho entire being of human exis- [tence, male and female, and that It is {not a question of the equality of the #exes, but of the essential and pervasive | differentiation of the wsexes—which s equivalent to saying that men and women were made to differ from each othier for reasons additional to that of enabling them to beget and bear ohil- dren. This evidently bears with it the idea that differences, other than physical, be- {tween the father and mother are to be maximized rather than minimized, and | that the special qualities of each ought to be made effectual in the upbringing of (e chiidren. economy—the mother to administer This, to a very great extent, is hardly | {the case at present. It is commonly the |fact that children are mothered rather llhul fathered. Not only among what we call the working classes, but also in !I’un"lo. that are in a condition of af- fluence, the pressure exerted upon faths ers outside of the home s of a kind to prevent more than a casual adguaintance with their own offspring, or at any rate to prevent that closeness of relation and jintensity of intimacy necessary to the exertion upon their children of a dis- | tinctly fatherly influence. | While it may not be easy to define |sharply the influence in the quality of influence produced upon ! child by , ey, household and the father to hlrnlll\l Necessity of the Father Being More Than Provider of Food and Clothing for Children and mother respective! who has been brought | home In which (he masculing and the mother definitely fem nine. questions the existance of such a difforence or would be disposed to ques |tion ite significance and valie as tributing to the forming of child char- acter Human haracter like the I8 A dexterous composition of bone anl tissue. Bone recures to the hrdy its ele ment of fixedness und stability and serves as guarantes and suUpport the more delicate, plastic and productive ingre- dients, And as difforent material is ro- quired in order to nourish the okseous basls of the bedy from what is needed to construcy ita tissves, so other influ- ences from those that give texture and form to the affections and impulses of our nature, are required in order to sup L vet a {the father 0 one up in human body ifi-Shoots older The our foollshness seems we grow the more foolish There 18 no mhost ma trotblesome than the campaign promise Insomnia is often proof that a man has A conscience. Better not marry in haste, engagements are risky yet long Lax morals are just as apt (o go with a long face as any other Organized charity s always prompt | about collecting the commissions. In loosening the heart strings love sometimes seems to soften the skull, The most exasperating thing about & bore is his evident enjoyment in the role of a nuisance, | Household Hints Suede shoes can Le freshened by being rubbed with sandpaper. Brown hoot polish is excellent polishing dark varnished doors. You can elean rusty irons beautifully by rubbing them when hot upon a piece of beeswax tied on a cloth dipped in sait. for When you are laying away your silver in the drawer or case don't forget to place therein a plece of gum camphor. It keeps the goods bright a long time. { To clean o linen sunshade, open it wide ard serub it with a small sorubbing brush and good sads made of white soap and lukewarm water. After it is well cleanod, poar several bucke of clean water over it; add a little bluing water poured from a watering pot; then leave it to bleach and dry in the open . It was made especially to please you and refresh you and to quench your thirst. That it was made for you is proved by the fact that each of some ninety million Americans claim it was made especially for their delight. " Delicious and Refreshing Demand the genuine by full name— ATLANTA, GA. | 5 i ! ' THE COCA-COLA COMPANY | \ m””’/’l/fl/mmmmmnnum\m\\\\\\\\\\\“\\“\ i father was definitely ! | Iy the exerelse of those affections and impulses stable foundation In the formation of character, as in | the structure of a bullding, womething | as to be placed at bottom that will stay where it is put. Peopla are constantly | breaking down amid the difSculties and temptations of life, not because they are deficient in fine taste and sweet and beautiiul impulses, but becaves deep down in their nature there is not enough struc- tural stiffening to keep them erect when the blow comes and the storm buffets. Now, in the economy of the home it ia the peculiar function of the father to sup- ply that special ingredient of steadfast- ness. The feature of masterliness is the property of the male. A masterful Wwoman is a contradiction in terms, and Is an offense to correct moral taste. A certain touch of authority—severeignty, 1t you please—is a perquisite of mascu- | linity, and by ita just exercise upon the child works within it that hasal solidity for which we are pleading. What is called a “mother-boy"* may be | an exceedingly sweet and lovable apect men of humanity, but we should not Wwant to take many chances on what will happen to him when he gots out into the jrough and tumble of lite. This is no | eriticlam on woman any more tham it is a criticlsm upon a flower to say of it that it is not all stalk and root. What this article is intended to urge is {not the harsh exercise of parental authority, but only such exercise of it as results in the kind of filial devotion evinced in the boy whose story is told in the following stansas: “What would vou be, my precious lad? I asked of my curiy-locked four-year- old, Ar hlt; played with his red toy engine here, Safo from the wintry blast and cold; And a look of love came into his ayes, While he ceased a moment and gased at me | And T saw he knew, and I yndorstood The depth of his childish almplicity: “I Just want to be like my daddy.” ", “What would you do, my preclous lad "' Again interrupting the boy at play. He hlnld londed his train with 'ond‘rl" ul bhlock 8, And the restless engine was tugging away; But he :::oppod and smiled, as a child can do And dimples adorned him with roguish grace, While quick from the heart his brief an- swor came, And longing shone forth fn his bhand- some face: “T just want to do llke my daddy." “Where would you go, my preclous lad?" Third time and last I detained him there; For -&huam\ hearts have their yearnings o car And dreams of the future for which e B07 ST about b Must have ambition hfi:w ken And yet from his I once {-n‘ The words of confidence ulfi(:m hen "1 just want to go with my al Back of the brighter eyes is one little life— Sweot, tender heritage loft in T care: Bh\urffl the task to prepare im for GIo:"hul:- chance which 4 given you ere. D want him to be like vou, ? o you want him tg St 'Re WAk MR S ‘Whenever you \\\§ Arrow, v§\\\\\ ” Coca .3 13 H § 7 s £ S — srerern R PUREEPeunens ane SR, eSS sy