Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, April 20, 1915, Page 9

¥ Importance of “Don’t”’ and [3 ‘Must’ ’ in Child Culture By DOROTHY DIX, Th latest exponent of the mew high- | pressure, rapid-action method of child culture, which s geared up to such speed that it entirely eliminates babyhood and childhood and in twelve short ‘vears turns a mewling in- fant into a human encyclopedia, has propounded ten com- mandments for mothers. Two of these are: “Trou shalt not say ‘Don't’ unto they thy tiild. * Remember never to say “Thou Must." " Probably the lady's recipe for raising up voung pendants is correct. Probably, If yeu start with a babe in the cradle and de- vote your time to stuffing it full to bursting of polysyllables and facts at 2 time when other children are still lsp- ing and looking for the man in the moon, instead of dlscoursing about the proba- bilities of there being canals on Mars. Personully 1 am an unregenerate cave wonien when it domés to babies. I adore them when they are pink and soft and cuddy, and 1 think a b-year-old who hmsn't ot a single piece of information concealed about his person is the most entertathing human being on earth, and it T had a baby that I couldn't rock to | sleep, or who. didn't believe in Santa ! Claus, or who didn't talk baby talk, I chould feel that I had been cheated out '{ the very best thing that life can give | Lo & woman. { None of your little Solomons in the cradle for mine. And I should have a clear consclence about letting my baby be a baby, and my child be ‘a little un- taught chila through all that beautifut cown of life, because T was brought up on a race horse farm, and I know what happens to the 2-year-olds that are raced too early. Also I have seen so many marvellously ' precocious children. who turned into commonplace dull men and women. However, these be heterodox views, and | 'am not going to argue them with any expert child culturigt, byt what I do want to call attention to are. uu:l‘ two Smman@ments to minthers: 1353 sThou shalt not say ‘don’t’ unto they <Hila, * " ‘“Remember dever to say ‘thou must’ 't Not say “don’t” to & child. Not: say “thou must to a child, when one-half | of lite ig ‘don’t’ to us, and the other half ' is “thou must.” 1 Why, that's the trouble with the world teday. Men and women have -not had it ground lto their consciousness since their carliest childhood that their inclination and desires must not govern thelr ac- tions, and that they are certain things that they must not do, and’ other things that they must do simply because one is | right and the other is wrong. | There {8 not a man in the penitentiary, | there is not a girl on the street,” who arc | not there becavse their mothers failed to | say to them often enough and impres- | sively enough, “Don't do that” and you | “Must do thie other.” Tt is the mothers wiio have sald “don't” and ‘‘must” to| thelr chlidren, and enforced them with u | streng hand, who have raised up the men a)id women wto have done the big things In the world, and who keep law and order in it | You den't train the prigefighter who is| golng lito the ring to battle for the! hamplonship on lollypops, or by en- couraging him to sit-around on silk cush- | ions, and telling him that his opponent will be dead easy and he won't have to exart himself much to win the purse. On tie coritrary, you harden his muscles by every known method, and impress every ounce of -strength that's in him into his| punch, or else he'll be beaten to pleces. Exactly the same method applies to) children. We foredoom them to fallure, if we_ 4o not strénsthen their moral muscles, and if we bring them up to belleve that they can do whatever they | desire, and leave undone the things that o ‘nat appeal to thelr tastes. And that| is exagtly what we would do if we failed | to_say “don't’ to them, or “must” to them. | I never hear a mother lying to a child | sbout taking a dose of medicine, and tell- ing him that it isn't bitter when she knows it 1s, without feeling that sne is a | driminal. She i weakening the child by | iust that much. She should say, “Cer-| tufnly the medicine is bitter, but you've ot to take it. All your life-long you will | Lave to take bitter medicine, and if you nake & man worth while, you've got to | Iyarn to take your medicine, however bit- | ter, without making faces. Who aré the men who are the drunk- ards, 'the rogues. the gamblers, the | spendthrifts, the ne'er-do-wells? Without exception they are the men | who were not taught the don'ts of life at their mother's knee, and who did not | have enough moral fibre inbred in them to make them able to resist temptation. Who are the men who are failures in the world, the men who flit from occupa- tion to occupation, and office to office, lecause ‘when the thing they have un- dertaken to do loses its novelty, and set- tlus down to the hard, steady pull of | every-day tell, they have mot the grit| #nd endurance to %o on With it? It is those men who have never been taught ! in their childhood “musts” of life. Who are the women who go running home tg mother and the divorce court the minute the romance vanishes from mat- rimouy, and they find out that it meang self-denial, and self-sacrifice, and work, and worry, and patience, instead of just b all billing and coolng, and flattery? 1t he woman whose mothers haveo't sald “don’t” to them and “must” to them, | Who have never been taught that duty | wmes before nclination. {Don't” and ‘“must,” these words are | lemrd far too seldom on mothers' lips, 1t | vou abolish them altogether we shall re- vert to savery, for all civilization is bullt | den’ts” and “musts | | | | | upon Society fclk who journey to French Lick 8prings to take the waters are usu- ally accomparied by several pleces of baggage the contents of which in the course of tine are unpacked and aired on occasionr of morning, afternoon or even- ing, affairs of a more or less social na- tare. For example, an extremely charming frock a) the other afternoon, worn by an extremely tall, good-looking youns woman halling from New York. About the hips the material was ad- Justed In a series of very fine tucks to {glve a flat line thereabouts and to pro- vide the flaring tendency to the hem. About the latter there was placed a four- inch . band of dark biue wvelvet ribbon, whose rich cerulcan hue was in marked contrast with the dainty white ailk hos- lery of the wearer. The blouse of this fetching frock showed the upper part made entirely of ‘white chiffon cleth and crossed over the shoulders by hands of the velvet ribbon. which were connected to the lower sec- tion of the bodice, made of the striped silk. The sleoves of chiffon were short and finished with a soft trill, and the V' neck lkewise showed this soft, becoming garniture. With this gown was worn a hat of gray tagal, faced with dark blue satin and something of a sallor shape, though differing from the early models of that name. Read it Here—See 1t at the Movies. By Beorpe of “Runaway June' may now be seen at the leading mnfln‘mn theaters. By with - tual Film Corporation it is ok, But"tiso artern ul pictures {llustra Copyright, 1915, SYNOrars June, the bride of N ;uumy leaves her b oneymoon because she that she be de mone; Jun by Gilbert 'ulth{clllrrh‘ man. She hes with difficulty. his clul distractedly for June, une s rescued an from river pirates by D artist. m rive t She poses as the “Spirit of tha is driven out by Mrs. Durban and is kid- naped by Blye and Cunningham. June escapes, tries sweatshop work and s dis- Sonemd by her landlady. Blye finds une in he- tenement home and drives I‘unnln’hm unF E DE. “At Tast, My Love!" CHAPTER I—(Continued.) They all had to repeat it again and again before they could reach his dazed intelligence, He had seen but two objects in all this huge room, crowded with its moving pieture machines, its properties, its scenery, its banks of strange lights, and those two objects had been his runaway bride and Giibert Blye. June! She stood now supported by her father and mother, her large, lustrous eyes turned appealingly on Ned, waiting the moment when she dared approach him a=ain “Don’t you understand, Ned?' she fran- tically cried. “Won't you understand? it's & motion picture play!"” Blowly he turned his glassy eyes In her direction. He comprehended at last, but there was no softening in his face, for there still stood the dark, handsome G- bert Biye. Ned made a sudden lunge for his enemy, but Officer Dowd, watching him narrowly, stopped him “You have been with that man ever since you left me!" savagely charged Ned, turning suddenly toward the trem- bling June and shaking his finger at her. In the studio above a score of Indignant eyes turned on Ned Warner and there was a loud chorus of protest as he pointed accusingly at his unhappy run- away bride. “What do you mean?’ demanded the cold stern voice of Gilbert Blye, and he advanced, his black eyes glowing. “This #irl has done no wrong!" They all talked at once. and they all talked indignantly at Ned Warner— Tommy Thon the white mustached Orin Cunningham, the round headed Ed- wards. Marie, Officer Dowd, Bobbie and Iris Blethering and all the and members According to \her voluminous self deftantly from side to side. “Looky hyah, you, Mr. Ned!" she flared, and Bouncer, who had been rush- ing around the separaed bride and groom, stopped to bark ferociously up at Ned. “Afin’t that Marie beem with ouh honey ever since she done come an' got her clothes? Ain't you got any gumption? Why, looky hyah, if you say a word about our Miss Junie I'll jest about squash you! Stern John Moore opencd his arms. “My daughter,” he sald, ‘come home." Mother and daughter wept in each oth- er's arms. l CHAPTER 1L “Ned!" It was a pathetic little figure which turned appealingly to scowling young man. Her big eyes were full of tears. “It was all a mistake, dear!" She choked back her tears, and there was o tenke silence, In which Ned Wamer stood with cold eyes and folded arms, walting “Oh, Ned, can't I make you ses and understand?’ And there was a pileous wistfulness about her. “We were all so happy on that dey of our wedding. so happy as we started om our honeymoon trip! And when we stood alone in the Pullman drawing room, surrounded by our white-robbined luggage, there seeme: to be no cloud in our sky!" “Then why did you leave me?" ‘Warner's volce was harsh. “It was the money!” Her lip trembled. “Don't you remember when | missed my purse? The porfer came in just then, and you gave him’ a dollar. When be went out you gave me 3, and iIn just the same generous way you give it to the negro. The difference was §3." They were all startied by the force of the n. Only Glibert Biye smiled, and the smile did not escape Ned. “Do you reroember I cried and you put my head on your shoulder? You thought I was tired, but I cried from humiliation. I feit like a beggar. T realized that for the rest of my life I would have to accept §ifts of money from you. Then T dreamed about it. I dreamed that I was a piteous litle beggar, always holding out my paim for alms: that | was recelving pay for being your wife, just as mother patd Aunt Debby ana Mari | Debby and Marie sniffed sy Ned ' Both Aumt npathetically tan Ue Continued Tomoriow.) By GARRETT P. SERVISS, Tt you put the skeleton of a man and the skeleton of a tiger side by side, and bring the former down upon all fours, as Prof. Bonnier has done in his book on “The Descent of Man,” you get a start ling visual argument in favor of the evo- lutionary theory of man's origin from lower forms of life. Tiger and man are both vertebrates, or back-boned animals. To the expert eye of ths anatomist many important varia- tions between them are visible, at a slance, but to the ordinary observer, look- Ing hastily, the likeness seems to far ex- ceed the difference. The general plan is the same. Back- bone, linking the whole system of bones together, llke the keel of a ship; neck, sustaining the head; skull, enclosing the brain; four limbs, for ilocomotion and manipulation; a cage of rib-benes, to pro- tect the lungs and other vital organs— all these things are common, not only to the tiger and the man, but to many other forms of vetebrate animale. The likendss goes atill further, and includes many phy- stological functions, when we compare the various vertebrates that fall under the classitication of mammals, or animals which nourish their young with their own milk. This includes quadrupeds, an astonisi in showing how va human relationship. ‘When nature got ready to produce man she evidently had all the necessary § clroumstance ia the circle of terfals, and mechanisms handy in her workshop. She had no fundamental ex- periments to try. Legs, arms, lungs, heads, vertebrae, ribs, muscles, eyes, ears, swivel-foints, sockets, fingers, toes, stomachs and nerves, had all been tested and stanardized, and she had enly to make certain adjustments and 1a- tions in order to produce an improvement on_ber monkeve and apes, whioh ehe-iad already started off on' that partiowlar road of evolution which man was to render so glorious. It really looks as though man was the result of a sudden, happy thought. Nature had been working millions of years with & very wonderful material, nervous tissue, which possessed prop- erties which, one could almost imagine, surprised nature herself. She dealt with it sometimes in a gin- georly way, as if she were distrustful ot it. When she began to collect it In bat- teries, #0 to speak, it showed marvellous powers. She hardly seemed to have known what to do with it at first. Once she put a nerve-battery in the middle of the long backbone of the huge, lumbering monster called Stegosaurus, but left him with his head poorly furnished. It was ! mo place for a brain, as she quickly dis- covered. Then alie put it where It be- all warm-blooded | anatomical and physicological plans, ma- |1 The Man and the Tiger = Look at These Skeletons and See How Like They Are The anatomical likeness between man and the tiger—a remarkable comparison l"vy Prof. Bonnier. The two illustrations here given are in tended, in a measure, to proveé his theery. longed in the skull of climbing creature, whose rapid advance convinced her of the value of wits to an animal. The hint was out, Henceforth man was in the air of invention. He was sure to arrive. If we Jook back &t the skeletons of the tiger and tHe man, we see just one vast and manifest difference between them, and that s found in the head or skull. The comparison is amazing. Low brutal- ity speaks from one of thoss bony cages, and high intelligence from the other. Yet the skelotal bones of the two creatures, excepting the skulls, are so like in appear- ance and in the fumotions they have to perform that, i you cut off the head and tail, you might think that it was Hob- son's choice as to which was the better animal, The human characterietics are im- printed on the man's skeleton, but one can see that they are the result of habit and adjustment. The man has learsed, or been impelled, to walk erect, and his backbone has In consequence acquired Certainly. Dear Miss Fatrfax: I am in love with u t Al § St e o AR ver) i ith her, bacause my 9 ;‘.‘.'Kfln‘.“-.."!.' e about her, in _whi thtyuumnlmd% €1ve her up? It you will let your companions make fun of her, and tease you, you must give her up by all means. Your attitude proves you haven't the courage to defend her. That Depends on Finances. nbx:n%h T love with & &l 1o n than I It you are financially able to wife, and the girl and her parents willing, there s no rea should not marry that I can see. Don't be so stern and unforgiving with & boy of 15 who loves you and is prob- i | | 1 | | | a four-limbeda different curvature than that ol the tiger's. Many of bis other bomes and jointings have been varied to auit his apecial needs, but no logical wind can |eacape the conclusion that hia wnatomical |structure was contrived (or other animale {long before he sppeared, and that when he came he )'ad to take up with the general plan th 't alremdy existed for all vortebrates, which Is simply modifted and worked over to give him a better fit. The oniy thing that undenwent -l separate and esitogetner noves develop- ment was, anatomically, the skull, and, physologically, the braln’ The whole central idea of man as distingulshed from the lower animals ia there. A question of overpoweting and universal intereat remaina: When the gift of an almost infinitely superior brain was be- stowed upon the human species, did an- other and incomparably greater gift mc. company it, vis; an independent spirit, temporarily inhabiting this superior body, but mot subject to its mortality” e ably trying to eradicate his fauit his drinking means drunkenness, it would be unwise to marry Mm. But If it means no more than foolish self-lndulgence and you put him out of your life without being patient and to help him overcome the sad , you may drive him to the consolation of the weakling— more drink! Be patient. Dou't marry him until he is mastor of himeelt. — \ Laugh with Them. - Dear ‘Min < Am %1, but lave t un:.:vnom m to 4 to %‘E’t un:f':’g"-‘:""'“ u‘:‘l?et. Tell your friends you know bashful, and laugh with them. Its noth- ing to be ashamed ‘of. You will find yourself cured after a time. If you meet many girls on & plane of good com- radeship you will soon get over blushing, Den't Do It Dear Miss Fairf :W&Mhhr_f to ll.w '.- man the first 1] m r 61 did not give me n%fit:‘l.".lhum m-.. u irthday. % ‘The custom of gtving promiscuous pres- ents on every occasion is foolish, ex- travagant, snd should be discodraged. Send him a birthday card, or & note of congratulation. When Johnny goes to Trouble takes a fresh grip on the householdand worry brings more wrinkles to mother's brow, | The problem of getting the youngsters off to school is simple and easy if the mother knows Shredded Whea the whole wheat cereal that is ready-cooked and ready-to-serve. Une or more Biscuits, heated in the oven to restore crispness and served with hot milk, make a delicious, nourishing meal to play on, to study omn, to grow on, and builds robust, sturdy boys and girls, Two Shredded Wheat Biscuits, heci. .. to restore crispness, served with hot milk or cream make a complete, nourishing, satisfying meal at a total cost of five or six cents. fruits. TRISCUIT is the Shredded Wheat Wafer, caten as a toast with butter or soft cheese, or as a substitute for white flour bread or crackers, Made only by The Shredded Wheat Company, Niagara Falls, N. Y. Men and Women on Same Moral Plane By ELLA WRARFLER Wil OX. Copvright, 1915, Star Company. The old. old question is presented. Just {what i= & man's duty toward the gir! | who has falled to keep his ideal of her on its pedestal. Here {s the situstton— one of many, also. The man and the gitl both yielded to thw eail of the senses. The girl failled to keep her selt.respect and the man failed to keep Ms respect for her; the man has deserted her; he thinks sha ix no longer his ideal; that she does not represent the weo. man he wishea to become the mother of his children. Just what should the man do under such cireumstances is the questien pre- pounded. The girl still loves him. This 18 a large question and involves very many othar questione. If motherhood stares this girl in the face, there is but one just thing fer the man to do. He must protect hia unborm child and give it the right to hear his name, even it he leaves the unloved mother at the church door Although he may helleve that the wornan is as mueh in fault as he for the deplorable condition in which she finds herself, if he has a apark of manhoed in his heart he must realise that on her falls the greater penalty. He must realize how desperate is the situation in the eves of the world of an unwedded mother. The child born under such eir- cumstances is always branded. Let him, at least, be man emdugh to give the unfortunate woman the protec- tion whith liee in the simple prafix of “Mra'' to her name: and let him give hix chfld the small yot large benefit of knowing that the mother did wear. this prefix at the time of its birth, even though he mever sees mother or child afterward. . The modern girl 18 soidom so Innooent in mind and thought that she falls from her padestal threugh ignorance. Our daily papors, 6ur moving plcture shows, our police court reports, our conversation in_the home, all are of a nature to in- form the growing young mind on the sub- Ject of sex velations. Men know this and they accordingly bellave that the girt who fulls s aware of what she ls doing. But the mere knowledge of these relations doss not protect & girl from danker. s only when her mether or wite Fuar- dlans have taken her finte their comfi- which come within and fromn without. Men have been taught since the begin- ning of history that all kinds of im- i H : o £ 3 H 3 vg £ g | i i*;? - the oven Also delicious with