Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, September 26, 1886, Page 11

I D TOILS OF WOMEN A 8hort Sermon on the Moral Latitude of Both Sexes. THE BATTLE FOR BREAD. The Lady's Man of To-Day, and tho Little Maids — Fancy rk and Country Cow ship — Feminine Notes, Three w The Dead Worker, Poor hands! fold them over over her breast, 80 hard, so brown, so cold They have done their work and have won their rest, The' they won no gold Theirs was a battle for bread, How they d and grappled and hled ! Poor hands! fold them gently, for they Once lay in a mother’s breast All dimpled, and pinkand cozily As birds in a nes And a mother’s Asi e leapt her boson they crepts Poor hands! give them flowers to cany Down into the grave, for they Were too work-worn and too world-weary To pause by the way And pinck them; bring lilies and roses Aud fill the stil iingers with posies. Poor feet! when the w was cold And windimg and netile-strewn, e passedl them by with only a sign the blood prints under the moon; ow that the life blood is froze, Bringthe warm gaites and hose, Poor eyes! close them too—how they stare— Iplace no zold on that brow, 1t was Jack of that made the furrows there, She necds none no Shie goes to the n Is paved with th Poo ! no lefsure they | To look up at the sky And s Lwas blue, s the poet said, But now they see, To-day they are not so dim But that thiey will openon him, nsion whose floor Men Given More Latitude Than Women. Fedora, in - Ptitsburg Dispatch: Can 0 much you tell why men given No doubt more latitude than women? you know, but will not tell 1tis well known that men indulge n many things that women dare not under penally of Sociui ostracism, if not the loss of their souls I believe that some reli- gionists hold tha woman’s_soul a much easier lost than a man's, If they donot teach it they at least be; it. If common reports areto be relied upon there are very v men in this city, or any other, who are not guilty of oficnses which would make an outeast of a wom- an, but the men do not suffer. Indeed, it seems to me that a man who has the reputation of heing a little tough is more popuiar gmong all ¢l woman in- cluded, than one known to'be pure and good. You know thatsome of the mosi popu- lar socicly men get drunk, play cards for money, and go on rks, yet they are welcomed into the very best familes, 1 know instances whern m noted for being fast, married lovely girls, and were thought to be exeellent eatchers. Am I saying too much? [ don’t think Tam. To my mind th is too much dif- ference between the standards of mor- ality for men and those setup for women. The Bible sets up but ono standard for both, and we are taught that both will be tdged by the same law in the last day. hen, by what right do we set up a dif- ferent standard for men? You will understand that T donot want the standard for women lowered, If any- thing, let it be raised. because the hope of the nation lics in the purity and virtue of our'women. What 1 do” want isto huve a higher standard for our brother man. * At least let him toe the mark he has made for us. If he will do that we will let him oft. Anothoer thing T would ha and don't » him do, n consistently re- fuse, is to give hissister women the same opportunities for regaining lost reputa- tion that are given him, Sho forgives and forgots again and agai Why should be not do so too? Some may do so, but Ifear they are too few in number to save us when we fall. Bat, worst of all, those wh load wa follow und whose honor we trusted aro fivst to turn away and last to extend a helping hand. Do you wonder that T complain? Now, can you recull an instance where a girl, who was reported to have indulged too deeply in wine, or who had taken in the town, or staked hor pin money on & base-ball game, was not tabooed? 1t is ?uhe probable {hat some very nice ladies havo dono all theso, and possibly more, without suffering any ill cflects, but if so it was not found out. If caught in a flir- tation a girl is linble to be hauled over the coals, und may even go to her grave with a stigma on her eharacter, Don't understand that I am asking that women ba allowed theso privilegos, 1 merely ask that men be held up to the sawe moral standard, Years and years of exemplary life will not atone for n sin committed by a wonnn Othat would not be thought of if committed by & wan. 1 know men who are looked up to in the social world, and regarded as pillars in the chureh, whose escapades are notorious, or at least are gouerally known and {freely commented on, As far as[oan discover they are none the worse cither morally or other- wise. Weali know good men, or those who are necountably good, who” woro ntori- ously bad in their youngor da They reformed, and were given o g for s0 doing. When was a reformed WO e ken into the arms of soci- ut{ or into the bosom of the chureh? tis not improbubla that an appliea- ton from a reformed woman for mem borship In some of our fashionable cliurchcs would be voted down by men who have boen much lower than shio ever was, sod possibly no better when they n. cast the votus that send ber by to the glowming. VR Women Who Work, St. Paul Globe: It is & very curious it n young man who bas o Globe to goed adyantage an ex on for the ever- e un- 5 that by entering into comypeti ith men for employment and userting her willivgness to work at less than the usual rata of compensation ¥ woiran hasso intruded upon veeu- s anclently roganded as axelusivoly tle and has lowered the standard of wages 10 such n degres ¢ young men either fud thomselves w Pation or in n position financis. marcinge is as the North The unchivalrovs youth further allege thet woman's proper sphere is Lo sta) home and m'n\. iut bersell with houso- bo' ies, that she may become lov- eapablo wife, instead of enturing "u?l.u--)r in ofiices and shops, to acquirs a doubtiul repu catalilisnad. she must hull hopes of warriage, ‘Tha argumrents of onr somewbat petulant young friend are very poorty feunded. Ha forgets that it is not withip th power of all women to remain quletly in the en- 1 comfortsble home. Many, , of them are compelled by ecessity to Aght # sanded the batile for bread, and, lke th d, brave flru they are, ti g0t resolutcly about t, secking wh r honest emplsyment may come to i they enter upon a d sively oseupied by wmeo, and m Polo. hitherto e | £0 much the more credit is due_them for their persistence. There is no law of na- ture or of man that gives the lalter ex- clusive right to existence or prescribes the manner by which it may be procured. The women have just as good a_right to make the fight as the men, and if the Iat. ter are crowded to the wall it is a stato of things which merely tells of their weak ness. The world is broad enough to give all a living, and the man who asserts that his is being taken from him by the mfusion of female com petition in his chosen calling is very apt 1ot to be deserving of it. So far from the competition of women lowering the s scale, it is a notorious and dis aceful fact that women are paid much Tess for the same work than men, and often much better performed than' it is by thoir maseuline competitors, who ney erthless receive, beeanso ot an inexplica bie prejudice, the hizher rate of pay The consideratic hould actuat sh ther sex or tion \ rirl with difli culty mmintains her reputation free from calimny when serving behind the coun teror in the oflice unworthy of an American youth at all ted with the power of observation. The experience of all employers has demonstrated that virtue and self-respeet are as apt 1o be found clad in the calico gown of the shop h the silk and satin W 1l show make bright the fash I'he yonng man glimmer ionable drawing room. who docsn’t marry through fear that feminine competition is ov owd- ing the ranks of his fellow workers probably affording some gl a lucky es cape. W is The Landy's Man of Taxc n lady's Brooklyn he moide man is radi different from the old- timer. Not very long ago the term lady's m who dre deney affeet tod a gushing sort of a chap, od foppishly, displayed a ten sport sky-blue - neckties and \te manners, squeezed his nt to a vast | SugL 10 cftemi feet into small boots and w amount of pains to render himsclf obj tionable to other men. e chatted abont dancing, was full of small taik, loved to earry o tan or a bouquet, howed perpet y, daintily and ont! 1test provo- tion, and was useful sort of & fellow to have d_luncheon, sewing and commerce parties. Oc¢ sionaily he had a violent vival in a lady’s man of the Major Bagstock type, wlho was as masculine, dashing aud abrapt as the other was the reverse of it all, One seldom Lold beau of the dashing military type now, however, and the gushers amongz the male s not pop- wlar. Ladies men have changed amaz- lued, « seldom dance, nd they only wion and with a ing —their manner i fied, and exclusive, their brows are heav smile after due delibe Iugh regard for efleet The most solemn, earnest : ently abstracted man of my sequaintance is o tremendous masher whose sy N ‘knowledeed from one end of New York to the other. He wears loose fitting and _appar- clothes of an unconspicuous pattern and n kes no pretor y handsome. mall sts $300 a month, he is contimually m. inexpensive but interesting pr lie is the soul of discrevion. 'y he goes he is be ed, but his sal face never lights up, and he pursues the business of subduing tha feminine heart with analytieal care, determination and conducting a_ series of rous and important experiments. “Three Little Maids," Life. THRE MAIL I SIS’ y maidens fair, oh Quaker en those of low degroe, > at their best when talking of Their lengthy pedig ms to fopper e couy cut, an skill of a chemis dar RLY LOVE. ‘own, ™H Well, this one W YOREK M fong on many polnts, But especlally is skitti When you can get her haxping on Most anything that's Britis, Y BOSTONESE LASSIE. "f'wonld take four coluns to put down On wi this lady gloats, But she’sa d er when she epeaks ’Bout Buddba, Beans and Boats. ENYOL. But thoy are all nice girls, Teo Much Time Wasted on Fancy Work. Boston Globa: The term “fancy work'’ is at times only too truly d ptive of the things to which it is applied, for they often seem to been made under “the light that never was on sea or land.” When these objects are worshiped by thoir makers, as i frequently the no sin of idolatry is eommilted, for they do not come under the heads memtioned in the commiudment, since they are not, whatever may have been intended, the imagoe of :mythin‘,'x in_the earth, in the lieavens above, or in the waters under the earth. Bosides being meaningless they are absolutely ss; and under the head of useloss articles it i3 not in- tended to include those which are purely ornamental, for “peauty is its own ox- cuse for belng,” and thi beautiful is use ful in the highest senso. But what pos: hle use or bonuty Is lo be found in the aw or iginglass ‘‘air castles,”’ for in- vhich were so popular a short time ago? Or i the worsted or feather flosyors,which are at best but poor trayesty upon nitture? Orin a dozen other things of the samo general cter which will at once oceur to the readery 1t is enough to make ons weep some- times to soe women putting hours, duys, yes, even weeks, of precious time into some bit of useless nonsense of this sort; ephemeral “fashion” of the moment whick 1n a fow months will be worn out or cast aside as us¥less. Aw women do too much fancy work tendency among too many of them, especially unmarried ladies ‘and young matrons whose houschold and family duties are light, is to spend howrs over some *‘fascinuting’ mece of work, which had far better bo spent outdoors in rid- ing, driving, or walking, playing tennis or croquet, rowing & boat or practicing archery, geologi cven ip reading. ing or botaniziug, or wncy work sbould be not tho main eobject and oceupation of life, but merely an incidental divertisse- ment,” a8 the opora programs say, Much can ba accomplished by ving some light, pretty work on hand, into which e can work the odd, spare moments which would otherwise run to waste, Only remember that cven these mements of tmo are far too precious o be putinto anything that doesn’t “'pay,” and choose your wo curefully, that they be not wasted, Rings for the Falr Fingers, i Fingerrings aro ag; worn in large numbers by ladies, re largo ball vin wiil be 1 here i The puzzle ocontintes head leads 1 1 gentlemen. ! In gem earr tinue Lo take th | most efft al50 ea clusters, Ac ing fancy in rings is the one that employs three very light, slender, sud separate gold shavks set with single stones. These ara worn on ono finger, 80 that the stones slip past each other and sppeat like o single 1ing set with three pews. The fancy for fine gems set in a silver or piatinuin ring, especially among gen- ticion who pOssess a groat yearning after English styles, coutinues lim- ited exteat. A usualarrangement is that now worn in Paris r the fail trade, "old Au's ng iu platnuw and e nable, @ 1l litaire rings con- 2 at ouce the But there are ¢ gems are sctin THE OMAHA DAILY th di gems are made to go_partiy around the W 0, 0, W N de in; it in le ul in T in in; m examples seen rose ained in v amonds or ~Aund the ealt bal —And the tlirt lau, Detroit Free Pr test kinks i our wives', danghters’ and s of the har 1 0 solutely and entir 2 but the best gr: for now, bound to keep in style, werd i the % and i sia over the | ent style of hair-dre; those ludies who are not much mone, wealthier siste ing my yvear: POOT 1 “*How do you account for that fact?” 1 think 1t is he ple, as & rule, are invariably experimi ing with their hair washing it with th combs of tortoise shell,’ ‘shingle’ their bac! lieve the stylo which with peculiarly chil Mmo. M The idey of & woman, of works w that Count Leopold Ferri, an Italian who die tien of 82,000 voluies written by women, from W grain, a tion California matron, has franchise running the Pacific coust 1s Mrs. [, She has nocepted this yoar some twe three contracts, and her stage lines y trate Idaho and many parts of Washing. ton Territory. According to the reports of the say e resnlt pleasing, but as the ring ed. The marquise ring is in favor, recently were mad nder shanks and in medium size, Very nise rings set with ms of uniform rubics dinmonds, nk, so that no gold shows, ar Courtship. Tid Dits Whose clieck allures, whose smile: wilt thou let m r oy love! And the goose quacked. e sylvan shades have grown 1 ¢ liere thy spirit mine entl ouldst thou alover's pleading And the cow bawled, “Ihe love awakened in my breast i never, never be concealed : wilt thou Spurn it when confessed? And the pig squealed, Jencath these soft, unelonded skies My strolls with thee have made me gl wilt thou hear and heed my sighs: N “The city’s tnrmoil ealled for me. But hiere my heart my AL wonldst thou grieve if L sl —And the mule brayed. stops delay 1e roses all of these proelaim, limpid stream or winding road ~A rooster crowed, airs es fair and bro: hear a voice in whisperin About these landsea wed, ) fa il hove ile or eraft,’ 1 not promise to be mine?” ! Bangs, Pufls and Braids. 3s: ‘“‘What are n to the dre oot asked areporter for the Frec All | justreturned w York, Boston und Philadelphi Well, one of the most noticeabl arket at present is t ) qualities of h Iy disappear les of b and those d. o made a speeialt, ite and other che; her failed in busines for some other oceupation.” “Why is that?? ‘B relat 1d for ¢ of ( ) subst It used braic lib. Then the poorer classes of people, oreed hieap YL “They ar 1shions now not definitely settled a pretty one. or V bang.” “What's ¢ “1t1s dressing the bangs high an ) row. also, o 50, perhaps, than e *What ar, ids? Lin coils and other forms. arly adopted (o e is a featur bout the g which able to ance with n equal cl I have the in T classes have the most luxuriant use the combing it too ous ways trying to for owth, increase the qus e color. With the present style of wi te quuntity of hair the “How about hair ornaments?” BEE: and color, small Oceasionally wise the fashion of wearmg ve quantitics of hair has become obsolete. It is called the Rus s proved quite or that mixture bedded in it. Oceasionally one sces & gem set high in these rings. A new ring 18 thatin which the ends of the sha pass with closing. These ends turn in opposite ways and are set with different stones, One seen contained a sapphire and a diamond. Not only is not closed, it will fit any finger without being cut or solde New e with . One ring had an opal for a center stone, the remainderof the setting being filled with protty eficets 11 st the d the attract, dear Id flee?” All” sylvan sounds they breathe thy name.” ad @ My heart doth pave thy path with prayers.” —And the erow ea { 0. maid of rural haunts divine, S the la sings of ts? ress 1 from n. facts at the are e lers who a few hinese itutes, or have left t to use ot, be- canse the latest styles in bonnets ‘are not yet anncunced Styles in hair are woverned | yvles in* honnets. If the new bonn !l for more hair than has been worn recently, then styles of dre: ing hair to mateh the bonnets will pe de- signed. If the bonnets say less hair, the hanr-re s will follow the suggestion. There is one style already fixed, how d free from the temples and down in a V-shape The pompadour pufl'y be worn in the same outline Dateh braids, too, will contiuue in style, 'r‘bufm‘ b 1 . The nmall braids of hair pinned close to This well- popu- pr gives spend b their observed dur- business that the wealthy peo- ent much, and the itity or change The poorer girls and women nature do its work without inter, tion. a4 mod peonle may shine cqually with the weal- thy ones in that respect.” - caring poorer “Shell ornaments nre to be most pop- ar, 1 think, and the favor again.” “Is it the xrn\:or thing for la K hair?” “Not now. That was an English de resorts, but it does not except with actresses, for VYoling and the like, m Indies are still ack hair, but after all lits only 1g their h faces. Women of the World, cy Sosse, the original beei’s "L’ Africaine,” has Meye stitution, old-fashioned C., are coming dies to h inno- vation, which served wall for hot weather and soa: last in whom pereat convenience in putting 1 be- shing- it 18 a small givlsor ladies Sclika retived from the stage and will devote herself to teaching. Mus, Leland Stanford is about to build a handsome and well-appointed hosp for old men and women in Albany in memory of her parents, of placing expert type-writers in hotels to attend to the correspondenc of guests originated in the fertle br It Lids fuir to become an al n A large library could now be gathered ten by women, Itis 1 at Padua in 1817, left a terbury, Bhe had ten ace nen in :n sloyment of w is looking up, K bee tern of ten ye grau aintain a st aw ferry betw and Mare d n Maguire, a stated coll oc- Miss Stanley, a Dakota girl, spent the summer entirely alone, without even a eat for company, on her elnim four miles of garden, and a watermelon ited a One of the largest mail contractors on B, MeClain t ne- s banks, workingwomen save more moncy than men sinnlarly situate As th Loy are paid littlo more than half the wages re- eoived by men the fact is generally tc the o The Nsutional Nursing association, of edit of women, Loudon, provides trained nurses for the pick poor st tleir howmes. Seve al phi- lauthropie women of this city have or- anized a charity of the same sort, fooling tiacre 10 the latter's advantage, ! of o hoop with one or thres gems iw- l Ind', bas 10,000 em have due encouragement. Mrs. Marion Lovsbury, at L WOrms an Let ange, muny SUNDAY, SE thousand cocoons of good silk that are marketable at the rate of #3 per pound The worms were produced from eggs about the first of May. For the reeled silk she will receive $5.75 per pound seemed_a little too bad that after all sars Mrs, Washington was known to have been a shrew, and the Father of his Country a hen-pecked husband ertheless, he never lost his dignifi sonal bearing with all his curtain lec tures; and Mrs. Washington was cele brated for her wit, beauty and high breeding. The quer; “Who _introduced pink hunting coats?” which has beer tating London socicty, reminds_one very much of the old puzze of childhood Who Yates® World keth, the fair Killed Coek Robin?" Mr gives the creditto Lady H Californian, but Life antedates it by sev eral generations, and awards the palm to one of the daugh of the celebrated Duchess of Gordon. » It has leaked out that the position now oceupied by Miss Re Elizabeth Cleve land as editor of a Chie: 1zine was not first offered to Mi Wheeler- Wilcox, as has begn stated he owner the magazine id indeed offer Mrs, eler-Wilcox eharge of one of the de partments, and held out to her as tempting bt that she would thus have medinm throngh which she_could deal with hor literary enemies. To hereredit, be it said,she promptly declined the ofter. As long 150 yeurs ago Jewesses wticed medicine m Frankfort hey ally devoted themselyes to ophthal A female oculist who practiced in ventured to reside outside the Sudengasse, and believed she eould elaim exemption from taxes on account of her profession and the general esteem in which she was held tut the municipal uthorities ordered that she and all other as P Cspo ewish fomale doctors should leave the city or bay taxes like other Jews. In 1491, however, the tax was remitted in one instance to the immense advantage of the lady, One of Chicago's. many successful women artists is Marie Koupal-Lusk. Born and bred a peasant in Boliemia she began life in_ this count a seruby woman in a Chic boarding house. s her taste for drawing was b, i discovered by a bouarder in the house artist—who oncour: r by kind words, and introduced he brother artist who was to give more practical encouragement. yeurs ater Marie Koupal had money cnough to endble he Paris and study there, Now s icture on exhibition in the Salon of rench Cap the s FARMER JARBOE'S WICKED SON. Living in Mortal Ununatural So Across the hills in the Radnor distrie awrboe, & Quaker farmer, a . zoes about the township heay al reason, spondent weeks ago A Quaker Fathe Fear of Hi sixty-fiv ily armed for a most unu writes a Millerstown, Pa., col of the New York Sun. Two iend Jurboe sold out his were fa and rocking-chair and basket factory, with his fine_barn, stock, outbuildings, and with wife went to ard at the vi rhoe’s entir ce, quict, his good age inn. lite has Leen one of respectability. His an_amable, Christian v-six, kind and charitable, husband, has the love and ¢ neighborhood. The; nd ady, ag and, with her | respect of the enti have been thirty-eight yc ma riecd. One child, a son, now twen- ty-five _years old, s born _ to them. F Jonas Jar- boe, the son, notwithstanding the best of bringing up, has proved to be a terror to his parents and to the neighborhood. Up to the time when he reached his majorit he was a faithful farm lad and obeyed s parents. A peddler came along, how- ever, and told Jonas ail sorts of cow boy Stories, and induced him to b ; and studied tough. Jonas left home crime for two years in Chicago, and shortly afterward ~appeared on _his father's farm and “tore up” the neigh- borhood. His father gave him a nice horse and carringe, but Jonas did not settle down. He did no work, got spending money from his mother, and was allowed to sleep as long in the morning as he wished. 11 o'clock and compelled send two of the maid servs directions among the farn a whole sponge-cake for his breakfast. He raved Lrn\\'urfl tor an hour befor they came back with the desired cake. Then he went out where his old father was cutting down n willow tree that was an obstrnetion. He objected to the cut- ting down of the tree, and then raced his father around the farm, a butcher-knife in his hand. The elder Jarboe had a narrow ape, reaching the house first and locking the door. These and many other outrageous acts on the vart of the son finally determined the father to conquer his boy. He gave him a last leceure in kind ‘words, but m vain. Then one day, when the insolent son ordered away a steam-thrasher that the father had engaged, the old man caught his offspring by the back of the neck and rushed him to the barn, where he had all things prepared in advance. The old man is strong. He tied his son with ropes to u big ladder, and with his blacksnake cart-whip whipped him within an inch of his life. That night he put bread and water near the young man. but still kept him tied. Next day old Jarboe triced the boy up agmn and gave him such a severe flogging that his howls were heard in the house. The mother wanted to interfere, but the old man sternly commanded her to go to the kitchen and interfere no more. For four One morning he got up at s mother to in all days the floggings were continued, and atthe end of ench day’s whipping the young scapegrace sworé to kill his father. All the whipping did as little good as prayer and kind words had done, und when the young man was finally liberated his spirit was unbroken. Old man Jarboe was broken-hearted. Afraid that his son would burn his prop- erty, he sold 1t all and went to boarding with his wife at the inn. The son de- parted. Where he went is not known, but before he left he said he wonld take a few months to study up the most horrible, cruel and diaboliesl punishment,and then me back and mete it out to his father, Farmer Jarboe said: Itis too bad, too bad. I wanted my boy to be a minister or a_lawyer, but he would not go to school. We made a pet of him, gave him vthing, He our idol, our hope, our ail. We expeeted so much of him, Now 1 live in constant f and dread. Wherever I go 1 constantly think of wmy boy, and probability that I must’ kil on sight or suffer death myself, ly when I meet him 1 will just stand still and let him do his worst. I have instructed the shenff to arrest him, but he will evade the oflicials, 1 know. 1 ne o out at night, and we never h a light burning m ourroom. We chang our room often, and I never sit at the windows at night for fear of being assas- sinatod from without.’ Old man Jarboe always goe The local constables have seyer rants for the young man, and, believe he will turn up 'when heeted, they are keeping close w \im. When the weather is_cooler Mr. Jarboe and wife will go to Califors escape theirson. e He Got The Somerville Journal: *Shay, conduet'r,” shouted the intoxicated passenger on the armed. 1 war- as they L road, *Why don’t you call th' stutions plainers How d’you shpose I'm goin' to KW where, I'ssaosath What “siinext station now "’ “Potice station!”’ proclaimed the con- ductor, in stentorim tones, as he landed the imtoxicated pdsscnger on the plat form. And as there happened by some strange chance to be & policeman thy it was. . PTEMBER 26 MISFITS 1IN MATRTMONY, Ties That Bind and Slip Kuots in the Do- mestioc Harness. KISS OF THE WIFE THAT'S TRUE. Thoughts on Marriage and the Man- agement of Husbands—Women Who Deserve to be Hone ored and Respected, Kiss of the Wife That's True, New York Mail ana Express, There's the kiss pressed on the lips of the child, Of lovers when parting at nigh The kiss of mother our sorrow |, Making tie face eherry and br Tihie kiss so silly of gir1s who me Whe Kiss in liens But the kiss that lasts and makes 1ifo sweet, Ls the kiss of the wite that's true, 0 blissless Kisses in kinds as countless as sands OF (riendship, betrayal, deceit: The Kiss on th es, the forehead, the hands, The Kiss that is awkward and neat; T'he kiss that is given—the one we steal, The kiss that awakens us all throuch; But (he swee Kiss that lips ean feel, Ls the kiss of the wife that's true. There'sthe kissof youth and the kiss of years, And the kiss we lay in the eraves Phie Kiss we press in sunshine and te Tho kiss for the brow of the bra But the Kiss that is the kiss of 1it T'o him whom the gamuts ron thiongh— | "Piiat bring surecase to anguish and strife, Is the Kiss of the wife that's true. The Successtul Wile, Philadelphia Record: It is a foregone conclusion that the ehief end of woman is to marry, And itisno less true that the question of marriage is one m which the women of the world are more nearly interested than in any other. ‘Lhis being the case, the wonde ws that there are s0 many illsorted marriages and un- happy homes. The eause for many mis- fits is readily accounted tor, it is true, in wzes de conven- nira I every day, s a vast number for the innumerable 1 anee which are ¢ but there still rems which no reasonable excuse can be found. Let exclude all de from pol us peremptor as are m from say motives other than pure unqualificd affeetion, It is to be pre- sumed that the girl loves the man or at least thinks she does, the outset means very much the same thing., And it is to ve presumed the man loves the girl he marries, The mat- ter of choice being so much on his side he is far iess likely to deceive himself on that point than the maiden, who waits for the coming of Sir ¢ thad, and who generally is so eager for his coming that or in his identity. She is prone to e old Europe made The knights of special business of protecting wonen, e pecially such as had no natural pro- tectors, and as a consequence devoted a large share of their time to love-mal ing. Some of the exploits of these amor ous cavaliers, as recorded in history, seem to us in these latter days to be the extravagance of folly For instanc one tells how he never sees his lady-love’s face without crossing himself. Another burns lamps and tapers before the 3 of the virgin that his mistress’ heart may be softened. Another performs penance, and says a hundred mass aay to tne same end. One turns preacher, and m the pulpit recites the praises of hus lad; the listeners mistaking his rhapsody for a tribute to the rzin. One turns pil- grim, and walks barefoot and barehe: Aml through Europe; another cu imself, W that he may fall from his horse and never rise; that his heimet may wes a holein his head; that his bridle reins may be 100 long and his irru‘ps 100 short, and that his horse may trot for if his lady is not the most ben woman in the world, and so on through i ble extravagance. The duys of S| alrous wooing are no more, but there is no record to show that the lover who indulged in sueh hyperbolical love- making was any more devoted or affec- tionate as a husband than he of modern times who sets about winning his wife in ale ated manner. Neither is there any reason to suppose that the words of “knightly courtiers were nny more endearing than the sinple phrases now whispered into maden’s cars. At all events the result is the same. Doubtless one of the greatest errors made by young persons is that blindness which glorifies the object of their atte tions mnto a supernatural being, Many agirl has had her whole life-Rappiness déstroyed beeause she obstinately chose to form her estimate ot the character of a lover exclusively by his bebavior to- ward her, and by his professions of deyo- tion rather than by his conduct toward others. It is a pretty safe rule that a man whose whole Tife is but an exampli- tication of selfishness will not for any length®of time continue generous in his bearing toward his wife. Charactor is rarely revolutionized by ma And men suffer as well as women by marry- ing an ideal, The girl of his fancy may be pretty, bright and entertaining, butif she 13 not po: ed of those ies which fit her_to his companion, confidant chances of happiness with are very meagre. A little common sense in matrinonial affuir; - though it may despoil the courting d of something of their romance, is & v good thing, But courting days, non be :r how de- lightful, cannot last forever. The young people are mar and alas! that they are not mo; ated, ‘They go with the blessmg of the parson and the zood wishes of friends, and begin like the birds, to gather tw! nd constrict the home. Tho woman, being naturally the more romantic, builds litt 8 tles for her hero, All the joy of the now life and the power to do for him comes with a force which is almos buying and sclling, scheming and ply ning. It is at this time that th. runs the greatest risk ot her life gering what is lovelicst in her by oo liberal with it. Man, of all animals, is the most sus. ceptible to creature comfort. A loving heart and a_caressing are very alluring, but they lose their enchantment if the the soup and show and” utle for shirt buttons and sock he: eyen when bound by ins of matrimony, is ct to external influences, and ti chinery that governs the domostic omy must be kept in periect run order, A man has an eye b the « very much sub- mu- for Ste be sympathetic and at the same tin nsible. She must be bright, suterty g and agreeable at home well 1 1, and she must know how to pre- le to hold s ready to doos not luvate ro s no silenee when it is d tongue, even though sle burst with indignation. If possese these qualit let them most assiduously. A trait that is such a pows household harmony as on become one in thought and purpose, to have kindred tastes and kindeed wishies The theory of the aflinily of opposit vas hopelessly exploded long ugo. picture of a petite bionde ~Desdem clinging to a swarthy Othello is v pretty, but if Othello’s mind is out of tune with Desdemona she afinity canuot exist. A woman’s natural imrulse! lead Gher to choose & ruler aud guide in her husband. Very few wonien desite u rale the man” to ‘whom sy liuk their destiny, The true . wile gives Lo her her ¢ -0 1886-TWELVE PAGE husband her het her love prompts it goes: but COMMON £ense it does not dainty. The sake of home this the seeret who w in the best with no f hen-pecked. 1 iy rope of t pin those riche, with it work togeth housework, ¢ Thus mutaall wer home w s the ue t home cle the shr Swe not knocked not chance it did, efforts, and th ing glory of i to trke life Buat now all dressed in fing pleasu the sterne speak I she has no pr mint o cult mus should not Often no att hotel. The young SUPPOrt S0 ex: any wouder | responsibility wch youn tic ployment_doc definite aim they are n clapses, and ¢ lier fanily. hand. gir) working-ol been _ comne useful art of blessed with degree, induce and many of least equal be icately reared Men are nati beauty, and if finemen diamonds in th and t ciety po sho ion. high-m glad to ge “Women murry. id indey by the thou; ht dio old ask who i this idea but own minds hon and undert: would possi und they arn, do of their life L accept the first) old maid; for those w them in a b SyIpi Ol ho soek for { who i whose i ous with bac enongh o worl for four « I vevetand honse and forget duily tasks bet siriven was re man s expected to before marrying 1o idleness and luxury helpmeet to him, bu domestic duties, sh up, think . and any man whose attentions are worth having will entertain more respeet for them than for the butterflies of fush- Many an independent, sen led merchant, profe or others well-to-do would be only too such a girl for a wife. Miss C. Y. G, in Wh n wish women to think of something s thoeir d help au cuter the busing heart's can hold his unselfishn; it » <0 that in negle to women and happin of sue be living neither ooking, v mew ple object at wh W hel at the doc ier, that is cha; » and costly of and boest i 1 Miny causes contribute sult, suen as ignorance of natu while the formor duc in a large measure to the false ileas times in regard to- connubial hap Formerly, among the happies' noverty Wis customary couple commencing the voyage of life tc the wife doing her own mendit while her hushand provided the means helping each other, * the heart will he also.! ilures o wd sueeess rew wal for which 1od, that was and they ceunulate « support w She is not @ sort of dainty pet, i and without any lif gift ts live < will f nd the v to th won it to rule may thus become rulers senptation of the ter r that their lords will be ¢ sho re joices in him, is proud of him and wishes the whole world to be in ~3|||‘v:\ll|\ But let her noterr in th v with nking tha The love which thoughtfulness and consideration is very good, so far must_be tempered w absorption t the comfort of the agrreeable who vd e fc ind y, and lled latter s law 4 class, nor grea for a young ure, ex ta minimum, the founding of the fanily eir th 0l od, A W to ete., th penses y had rown aflord young ough ife in be a ment, waited on by servants, constantly in pursuit of conception of © She crman - fluently, but may actical knowledge of house- n chi da empt 1 man is nsive hesit te Is there a reme he ladies 'S life its in ing nary skill; and, althotgh she pl 1, eannot made to o3 home at all; they simply board at some fra suits of pleasure, but in h i and r obj at'woman's firs . Further, one s Delonging to the inteilg 1 a, but has no cali- ys does she know what economy v Not that the so-called hizher Plishments are undesirable, bat id he to assur thoroughly understanding domestic ies and putting them in practice. 1 them remember that the greatest em- not arise from the pur- aving some alizin, ct difli- 1 o stocking, nor neans. ceom- they ake precedence in rank over the more useful ones. 3 ablish a annot me the Yes. tne importance of dn- t o that as time duty ‘05 on'every to t . who, from necessity, huve at home the ping and other moreoye: y od to lea housekeo who, iy b by mode of life and abundance of them po: canty W siste u the me he rough. he gene Iespect ) have an ic that if the, m and true worth assoc with they do not car whether they were pankers people, or workin ) knowing that worth is the result of indi- vidual conduct and not of royal blood. But, alas! the majority of the class of girls referred to are of limited D and uncultivated for on n manners. W ate the situation, and v d s afforded by free schools, public Al freedom’ of so- less of dress and al health ina | their mo ttracted by fems find intelligénce, ed or i and w Iy sions that th aneestr T, 0 fnple creise essing withal at b their more del- there- terary omen, isible, I man Women Who Should be Honored and Pittsburg Dispateh: In your recent article on matrimony yon here is nothing in this world for them but to They are brought up to think so, so raised that they ndent, but a dure not feel ve conatantly harassed allow a chanee 9 go by they will be left 1o grow up and ' Now [ should like to the men, or a girl eou 0t eon ofter w loy up to th do not the AT of life Managing Mushands Plaindenier is ¢ 0l men A to hizme for women holding Wier I men that—although they may in their hio enough to defy the opinon of the world ke to make her own living in brave place of sitting idly down and waiting for the “coming will come out holdly aud say so¥ No, the majority of them that woman sieps outside " her confines of her own howe for the purpo of exrning money in_ono of ihe muany avenues open to her she loses all her del- and womanliness. And yet such men eiaim that women look forward to r in life: but marri [ deny the agsertion sw there are plenty of brave, tr \v}lm, ultho they . i to dic who ol h n n ant has par not her his m dea mu chay or piccy will she othe T tion pre; on the botl fami cle idea of the fitness of ences in quality, of long at ti B nigh nort after £ SOne \ | I I~|]u‘w)v the ieids, that s, if we don't like g 3, bt 1 for one o and glady sue o) T ving is th criminate purchasing that some other selection the color soom f If this housewif The Peoria ma ticket and went o of Kus 5 usked Meecl ition and we follow an olo 1, but 1 invest ant 16 one else, ) manage to get the girl he loves for a wifc and it both are what they should b I, 1w nearl 0 tline, thy about friend, a lovely, intelligent woman, L'here is one thin, remenibor worthy of a crown gets it - have s who home and wearing ap- 1th is not alwaysa ple the house. 1 happen to know that she dare ) cents without consulting the lord of the mansion. Another, the wife of a millionairc, as sho has no purse of own, gots what <hie wants and sends the bill to her hushand to storm over ag leisure. And Belle, do you know I believe Eve ate the ple because sho wanted it and she liked it just as woll as Adam did, only she had t to slip around and throw oo much ho the blame It is the love pl r mn — will be no more effort in that line necded A Few Thoughts on Marr X l"v l‘v'n]‘ happily together as long as life Health and Home: Thinking people [ U0 St gk who have at heart the besi intorests of [ S0 we did not promise to 1 o our society recognize a growing tendeney | alsod 1ds; neither do many of present among what s termed the middlo class | EFAGIGH promise to. ol My lover in this country to shirk the duties and re- | {0 UK minister himscif, saying ie sonsibilities ot married lifc wished that word laft out, s he was mar. They deplore the evil consequence ST Tine_ alats ot o ohifld, and I assiite social and national misfortunce. Nations | Yo 1t hats always been my delight to arc composed of individuals, and it goos [ igase hit in ‘every way Leould, Bo without saying that as « role the man n‘;\l\\.vl‘ seleve there are ':“ women who is bound” by family ties is more ‘I“ a \Y8, I!IHv_r tind themselves bound patrotic and more wiiling to render [T . Svitii 8 win, but would bo sistanee in the hour of his country’s need | &4 10 Hberate themselves with a sly (v than he who has no home of his own to | i they could, Then Tdon't beliove” that defend, Marriage is also o divine insti- TG re than wives do. tution, and a_duty eyery one owes to | g GuRE L re gencrally very nat But not: only is celibacy on the | furly bal 0 f trials must eomo increase, but it is strongly vied that | they s rne by both unflineh L peopie we degenerating physi- | 1D 8, let us make home bright as cally. e and with happy, sunshiny tem yh s out of hoth our 1y say let Soloman can man who is How s it end of that them y eve it the i stivving appeal should come in the just I:um natural but bitter ery against the laws that man hasmade? Does that hus band you reverence so much believe that @woman who muost obey the laws should have avoice in making themy needs alittle managing. If not he - A Chat About Shopping. Good Housckeeping: A h of form buying somethin little t home tc ng is ill-direc is mad 1 \ es, or the ret such pic not know how to cook ceonomi will buy vege roare conside must spoil. i ity nd wh ared her g Jority of the wemen of this class cellent Among more wealthy people thero are shopyer. characteristic ping, and henee th shopping of th best or the very worst The g w I,»un st el nselves in pov i men and s itself on ev ily supplies, ot misdirecte m s, to e fol tion, just as members of the 16w ndinns like—when ) lurs, will fu other delic and poor rations for abor cies, A B nston Record: ern man, who said he w 1. and was on s way back from the Wihite mountains, stopped at the olico of the Lall Riye afternoon, and line nta to-morro 1 ouls] I side, el side hich n't help it 1ean’t get of the hoat wire right on to W i} st brecze o 10-10ITOW 1 Glad He Was Not in Ohic 2 Bell: ton “have you lo: nitro-glycerin 1 tellin hair brush “for d tested the eoflee for the coak cat pi down cellur for | sl sont ovders for yosted around the place last n forcizn connt 15 my cons od man Fhot e 1or ut yenars Contagious. York over « Sun s of substance. fovlish article of dr Wbly uneconomic of these famiiies d with the duties of pi ston e will sule of the boat day pvant the other t of the rolis, was, he bud b fauli, not so i shop ate, indis- S A poor inconside it return for money expended, Probably no feminine fault in shopping is so glaving lis one, where it is found atall” Some women are conspicuous for constantly and_yet for having how tor it, Their pur- ted. They buy a gown but the 2 S0 incompetentiy that os, or the fabric falls to rment is unbecoming, does the marketimg she s of meatas she does ly, or oles that somehow or rably wasted, If she s perishable articles she will buy too He aquantity of them, so that The discrimination as to quality and the mer- chant will sue of inferior qu por- » will be s want of Lin selling to hor goods L Which are deceptively ich the good shopper is ard against, The best shovpers in this e found among the middle cluss ntry are holive in comfort, without much luxur'y. They commonly show an ample equivalent for every dollar expended. The large ma- ex- 1, too. and the . associated both extremes in excessive form. raits that nave made a poer- son wealthy are quite likely to be the ame that make vaHIuI buyer; his pos- sessions may represent wealth sav \ as well as wealth acquired. On the other hand, the riches may have been got by good fortunc by a person who has rew of that tell in wise shop- other extreme. The Ithy is cither the very asses do much to keep erty by their almost in- I'shopping. Among women improyidence ery hand, 'j'lu: house- are oenorally in- hasing the L spec iere is no things, of differ- se. Tt is a east sd by long depriva- P races mul Mexicans and the have curnea a few dol med oysters and then go on short vo 1d they make d efforts low and i TR to Oxder. A frosh-looking west- fromi eoris s, in the old state houses d: amer for oom on Lh oW night.”” ide room, up stair > of the beat? How do be the windward atter Lo-morrow The nights are hot, a room oi the wind- LIl ge on the train,"” " said the clerk, "I’ ington and have orderad for you for da) zht, sure, " honght his stat ay perfectly satisti e silleviteh, sked under the ce ¢, and examined ynumite borabs, stryehning \d'mado i laokod runpowder, ASpICIoUs ht to be rels of Il the 1 ed? “Yes, most noble sir," answercd the at- tendnnt, Ilhen help me on with my wi teel-link ulster, and eall the plitoon 6 polion to ¢ e across the aall to th diningroom, Fliere 15 not much enjo mentin this kind of a life, but Lt heaven every day now that I don’t liye Chieago. - - His Cross, s The wife of Descol orfeet vir ). Dhe He Vs uently told thut he czeape Lo ck and ISy t know Ain if e was pre) *f dash tin a wh ) { \ X ) 1 L} [ L