Chicago Daily Tribune Newspaper, August 23, 1879, Page 12

+ 4 eae eee ee ee 18. THE TOME. A Sontimental Young Man Who Telis About His Girl . in Verse. . Moarringo and Divorce Questions Still Belug Vigorously Agitated. The Party Who Started tho Row Returns to the A tack Fresher than Ever, Sed-Faced Amertean Women, and the Renson of Their Chronic Melancholy. ‘Wow o Davenport Lady Wasted Hor Sympathy on Murderers and Rebels, Seme Scggestions for That Tired Nan---The Edneation of Girls ot Home, . Ete., Ete. MY LOVE. Lightly sho's tripping thro’ the wood, A nmile on ber rosy faces I watch, and wonaur if Natura could Fashion more beauty and grace, She comes to my alde, ~my heart beata high As take the little brown ban: Doos the winu in the branches with envy Bigh!— On her fngor I slip a go.d band, Glad voices J hear Sn the waving trece, Soft whispers the nudding geass, And the Jow bum-bum of the fitting bece Gladdens mo as they pass. And the rippling launch of the tiny etream, Ant the wong of the hanps ind Au it choses the sunshine’s rolden gloam— Ab, my sou) ts strangely atireed. The fleld flowers Inueh ond nod their heads, Ae they cossin aad merrily flirt; ‘The pond-lilles cunt in their watery eds, Fearing no harm or hurt. Each finds its aweot mate, ond lycs content, Fuopy in Love's embrace. ‘Ts thns Dame Netuce kindly meant ELould live the human race. Eacn epenks in ita way to Sts chosen mate,— Trees, birds, and the flower and the 9203 And even the stream thut refuses lo walt, Dut hurries on to the sea. And 1 have found my henrt's first choice To my tove Egladly sing Soft thro’ ihe woods doth #teal my voice, -— “Ob, lifo iso glorious thing." Gvenat. NOTES TO CONTRIBUTORS, Lenurme, Ortawa.—You can write a telter pp *School-Gir) Love 1f sou want to. Perlmps {t would prove Interesting enough to orint. If those who write to The fMome would be tarefal to date their fetters every time, am! al- ways give real nome os well as assumed one, much truble would be saved the the Conductor ud many letters kept from the waste-basket. In answer to several anxious inquiries [t may be satd that the Conductor does not know why France and Chat have kept silent so long. Per- haps a pereoual appeal through Tie Tome from some of-tnore who baug on thelr utterances might prove effective, THE "LETYER-LOX. Thero are letters, papers, and postal-cards at this office for the porsons whore names anpear below. Those living out of the city should eend their address and o three-cent stamp, unan ree ecint af which their mall will be forwarded, Residente of Chivazo can obtetn their matl by calling at Roum 80 Trunune Building: Query, Ajo Evening Star. 8 S. Elkhorn, T. A, Daily, Fenuterbuuget, ‘ax.. Ernest. Concelted Little Fool, MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE. 3 FROM TNE ORIGINAL JACUNS, To the Rultor of Tiss Tthune, Cnicaco, Aug, 21.—Althougk the bars have been ordered vp opainet further intrusion Into the field of dlecussion on the subject, perhaps I mar claim a special privilege iu returning to thant vou and my somewhat numerous corre- spondents for the prompt and cainprehensive considerntion of matters vertaloing 10 divorce, Culling out from the verbiage nud suppositi- uous (which have cumbered the argument in some measnre) that which pertalis directly to the subject, and which has been deduced from experience, you ennnot avold the conclusion, I believe, that there extsts a terrible matrimonial bone to which divorces Is the only antidote. The experience of Callban I believe to have numer- ous parallele, But his position {a much tess dileult to occupy than my awn, a3 in his ease both are alfected similorty, anit seoara- tlon fe already virtually, 1f not Ierally, aceon Hished. My position {8 exactly ihe reverse irom lita, in that my wife Knows nothing even of mv feelings in the ynatter, and cl mo in the exuberance of her affection, Long to bo free, Herein Hes the pecullar a I fear, insurmountatie diiculty. Ifwe remain together, Teuffer, If we eenarate, aho euiters, and IT have reasons to fear the coitsequences attending my dorertion of ber, | fect, there- fore, that ff, through my blindness, T have folien Into the pit, con, perhaps, assuage my misery {1 some degree by Iiitine inv votes oF nen in notes of warnlig to many who are at thie moment preparing to do precisely what J bave dune, Let mo assure them tat nothing bat the mosiecer- fect lova con ever keen them trom founderine on the reefe af connubial despulr. ‘To preaume Upon natural coudness of heart or exulted intel Jectual qualities, enviable social pratinence, desirable business or friendly connections, wealth, beauty, ar anything else than love unal- loved, fs to follow an fants fatuas whlch must. 16 accordance with natural daw, tead futo fnex- trieablu gloun, Bo thut if, by anv effort of mine, 1 can rave some from this “inferno” upon eurth, 1 salt feel comnen- ated in a measure for the horrors whieh 1 am constantly enduring, Already a check seems to have occured to the matrimonial rush, as shown by the marrlage-license Het. Well tudeed will it be if some cooiiny down fu ther mad haste and stop amt retrace their steps; at feast call a halt, They may eave themselves un eternity of wo, Bome cold-blooded ectentiat has declared that pain can attain to euch adegree of Intensity as to Fuddeniy develop toto an expurlence of exquisite Diissiuiness, from whieh the patient, horntled by the very magnitude of hia misery, is Instantly plunged into av “efyaium of peace superlative and unsurpassable, Like the Hyntome flashing athwart tmpenctrable nivbt, or us water, under thy fulluence of fire, breaks its natural contines: and wanders off in hurintess vapor treed from restraint; or, nguin, aud etranvely pertloent, Uke fire Itself fanned tute the white. ness of ight, leapliys inte incandvevence und emitting ilgbt without heat, UCpon this hr pothesis has been accepted by Kome the expl baton of the miracle of the Hebrew cl dren tu the furnace. So. indeed, may it bo that the mind, tortured to ou do- Breo Suconcelvable by the sure experiences Of matrimonial {ntelfcity, ehail in an unexpected piomenc tuke wines und flv away from the tab- ernacie of its unrest, and be ushered lato o sphere of biessedness commensurate with its peeds, But it will be thas dlipht which Keason tukes when she lave down tho scepter ul ove power aud seeks the quiet shades of oblivion, ‘These are nut the oozines of uw fancy-leathered quill, butraher the throbs of a tieart whose roanlucs cannot be uttered. Receive, then, tr, Conductor, | beseech you, from a humble soul, this suleinn fufunctlon: From the lofty and iuapiring emlnenes which you arcupy, burl the jovelins of your Joxte wil condemnation wgalust thls diroiul evil of murnoge, ReLvasz, 4 RETROSPECTIVE VIEW. To the Eultor of The Tribune. Gnanp Rarips, Mvb., Aug. 1—No trivial Wubdject secelyes more than passing attention to hie THE CHICAGO TRIBUNE: SATURDAY AUGUST 23, 1872— SIXTEEN PAGES, the anbjects of principal discusaton pave been as follows: 1, ‘The proposttion of France, that soclety is a “shat, it stieceasion of frauda, a general lic, 2, ‘The two propositions thats good father may bo an invonstant husband, and that. snaternity is the true function of woman. 3. ‘The proposition of Chadwick, that woman was created for the amusement of man, Inform, Chadwick's proposition’ was gross exaeeras Mion, but the perception of the majority of The Heme writers, te women, seized the trun quiere Hor atonce, and deeide:d the matter unanimously inthe negative, bar Chat, whoso sox ta ques: toned, The general volea of ‘The Home was ogainst motherhood as the aphere af woman: Rosalind, writing what was, perhaps, the most clearly: defined exvression of ovintun in the matter, ehe putting hersvlf non record as preferring the position of Camilie, or thut of the [etaire to that of exclusive motherhood. France was variousty recelveds tints showbiz that a portion of ‘The’ Homo take her positlon that, siuce soclaty does nut afford the Individual whot ihe Individual most desirea, society [a o cheuts while ano ner Jarge portion insist: Marty since evciutr ns at present constitute 13 plenty good enough for them, it fs ee deat too yond for all those wha, } not find 1 wholly sotisfving, Noxt, Lovg-Suffering broucht The Home to the ht hertriok ofthe cold and rallen pool of divorce, whereat all paused shiver.ne, First entered certain of the conventional, clad fn arte ful conout'al bathing suite warranted to float the wearer salo through, while one deen swin- mer, Envanelpated, clambered vp the opaosite bank, nude, wet. atid esultaae then sundry doubitul once esenced the tide, and found it not beyoud ther depth, 7 ot last. came ngetioral rush tor ike reneliant waters; and the concee of discussion was juat wheal it alwaya is wheu discussion becomes eeneral? at first alton the conventiunsl site, ditt ac Inst all ‘on the unconventional side, 1h personally, ant sincerely elad chat The Home has decided “by a lnege majoriiy in favor of alvoree, since I be- sub abgujiite separatlon 13 to be preferred of marital fidelity, wuich ts the almoat uniy remedy lor conjugal iniellcity, Kome ot the more proncunced letters. whlch have been omitted, would. I belleve, have of- torded valuable levsone a4 to the edfect of pare tleulur theories: though fa personal matters the ory and idiosyneresy are eo mitt ually depend- ent as to make dnalysis of cause und effect dif- eult. Stil, Individual practice 1s alwaye able cuide, Len taouzh ioanded in gross Twieh, mien, that we might have bad a ‘from those actualy contemplating dhvo: but who could possible write steh a letter? Uf the torre were voluntary, like tit atthe enthusiast in medleine who *) roves" a toxicant at the risk of lite, and details is symp- toms su long os his fingers can hold a pen, the an fow bette would be differents but a vietin on the would not be likely to rezort to Mterary work for the beeutiement of hls open, tit divorce, 53 {0 all situations of extreme Infelicity, experience must be the oaiy sourcy of knowl edyg. All the pest. Is guess works and ney Sweet Charity crant that our guess bo always made in the Tight of her own divine spirit. Ra-kstraw and A Conertted Little Fool, who,by the way. wriles with a very niasculive Ulrect- nes’, broach gihe tuportaytt questlens “Is promise to omarrs. to hold good past a hetrer chaveet” And Exsex, woo is quite eluck- fein his asperities toward the Davaque cor Tespoudent, who wrote, I belleve, a very nicelet> ten—aud it would really seem thed cx omluht take a tap from o tot with: out anver,—Essex. say, ins'sts not only tat a bride in prospect: ehall be a goud housekcener, but experienced in the care of her own culldren, A dearunt of this nature uvcht lead to soca] complications of serious characters eer ous Unit perlians Kesex minature deitheralion withuray at tenst Yas B. C.K, ot Atchi- son, Kan, strikin: pitts ae would Inwdly eereen tte too devuled price who should at- tempt _to meet the onerous reautirements of ihe hasty Essex on the experlencedsmatron ques- tien Taclstraw and Conceited Foo! submit two. propositions: 1, A Welleconstristed ordemust be a good houseseper; 2. A promise to mary shail’ nut Le held binding past a Uetter oppor. tuuitr. As to the housekeeper part of the matter, The Home seems quite unuminous fu declarus that housekeepans nigy be learned afer marrige, whieh 15 certainly correct. {0 eases uf sip: ers ate fection. ‘dhe another love, whieh the wite lav ignes quite ns treely upon the loved hueland 96 upon her enituren, and which T eball alvuya say fs the very strongest aud mnest pereistent puselon of woman, mates the marital wellure tue fist object of wifely sollcltude, | ‘Thurs are exeep- Uons to all ruies, but in genera) man beloved of wormin will not euler in material was through lack of intelligent effurt In housekeep- (ins. Aa to the welght of 2 promise to marry, theo- ry aud practice ara far asunder, Jn theory a nian’s promise to marry a woman fs binding: 9 woul’ promise tu marty og man {a sacred; in practice both men and Women ore censured Jor breaking engagements, bur incuare reverely. vlamed, while women are lizatly blumed, for. Jilting atover, In actions at lair the woman usually recovers damages for reiusa! to marty, while in the very [ew cases of this sort in which wu oman has tured as complainant ho tas rarele been successful. The unwiitten law ts that aan iv promising to inarry o woman has found bimself ina contract whieh Is of money velic to the women; while the won, bar promised a pleasure merely, shall Le teld f of Wrong when her capricious taney bas deorived ver of the power to muke her euptract good, good, We futlow.ineho: tin this thing asin many others, He barbarous practice of our ancestors, whe held that’ in marrying the wentan wos raised tuo betteresinte., while the man tous acon himself a possibly valucless burden, Waen It becomes universally certain that the old vatiinate fg an error, the unwritten Inve will ehupye; tt whl undoubtedly remain tu force, however, for u consklerable time to come, There isa wide differcnee kesween tle Euro. pean betrothat wid the American “engage ment’? ‘She social practice of the Continent mukes the betrothal the serlons step of tinar- rape, the wedding ceremony being merely we completing fara: the approval of parents and ihe money matter are the active factors; the betrotual wo matter of vrave temily consivera- tion, and receives the solemn sauciion of the Courch, and aeep social disgrace follows the brealing of the contract. Our own practice permits woman te be eu. towed tu any nuunber of men at the same time, aihouge more than twe etrings to a matuen areher's buy way be generally consigered an evidence uf uuseenty levity, ald our very tree suctal customs Dermtt Wont to cnyage tnem- eclves tu pretty much whoin they choose, with: ont retereive to parents. Hence, since we alsa permit gals to break eugagements at will with: out cspevinl censure, Ibis evident that Amerte tives te extreme of Hourty to worun before marrage, America olsouives wontnn all the liberty sho chogses ta take altor marriuge; but tht fs not ta be conanercd at this time, American society, Tsay, la qulle agreed thatin case of manos With the nonspeaking antinala, the natural law which permits ue femate to select tes consort shalt prevall, The oniy qties- Vion with us is, dow many selections shad a woman innke before tue dectoive udoption of buine one of her wreterenvest ‘Lhe interests of the race demand uniiinited discretion jor tue woman, and forbid cauplalit on the part.ot the man who 8” lett, sinco it ty oust probable that the Ideal of the woman will constiuntiy advanve, and Unit ber foal selection will result ina more nearly perfect marriage than th would be pusslble if the willing maid nttned to her drat yes," Feely capricious woman ts unlikely or making a lute dack-ateasninch WHI Hot found wetrone inferior line of vent, A8 she might if married curly to her fies dca atterab ae lectin ence {t ubpenrs Umt A Concelted Littl Foot, bu sho w flestdand-bluod duusel (i ull verity, of he pier lament of same masculine iate tind, may appropriately proceed: toabsndon her werleuiturist and take the widower tu hand undo may ula accel the = butcher, ane baker, and candlestick-mak and 9 many! wore as she has. 6kil 10 drive abrenat or strength to chaln to her chariot wheels, und may biumeleas!y make Me best dis cord ehe cun beture she cuss to the ultur, as she will, of course, a blueliing bride doubly dowered In nuocenve and purity. ‘The bloom upon the wrape bas no diatinet value; the truiterce preserves it merely to enhunes the uttractiveuces of ms wares, wink, @o far as my knowledye gous, the more experienced the wom up the there delightful she can ba when she chooses, Jlencw | am forced to maintaln that 0 eleceagton of loves inne way Injures the deli> cacy of a Woman, or her powers uf please, 60 long av shots vouny. Jo1s uve that rules the foo-much-enuaged woman; Time,--wno with hus tren tooth gnawa the bair off our heads, and ocrawls Wrinkles on ovr brows, and Koay eyery= shin (a the wortd save virtue und sinters offers jon. Culiban’s cuse is not unique, My diagnos! of hts vonvublal ailment tudicates mullynant une condcious seldshavi ‘The duynustle syinp- tome gr 1. iis assertion tht a isppy mar Hage is luck." Extrema suilshness always finds fault with “lucie” as favoring a here, 2. Mis horror of an wotldy dorinitory. caused by Uhe fear tint the possible suture Jolne doray tary tight not be goot enough for hin, 3. iis early voverty, which {uyuriably aggravates nate frown The Home, Within the nast three montus | ural setfshness, 4, Th fact that his first in- tended was clearly aware that he loved tet her, but hia own pleasure. 5. ‘The fact tut 96 noes fornal pre-niptia devotlons are so trerhoa his mind alter so many years. th [te chotee of Words—he “reasoned” with himself reason and love ave incumpatible—" here wa: Birth worth gaining not lo alot mt, 01 tar, bug gato’? Ami, Hes own aint that he almost cries when be thnks how mien he hina ueeorved sil how Little he haa received, There fs not nv solitary indication in Catibau’s lotter that lie ever did or even thought of do ne one thing solely to please a woman: and ft is Ate possible that a praforna sear of his eons stant narron fsniess of thoteht and deed fhintly deen ned to doathine hr the beast of tat very niieh fon geod wife who was unliteky chougt to marry hin, eo that eve Analy tell an unapeakoble refled when Caliban becook to him wolf the hardship of “haying only euch com- forte na ary paid tore’? Women are casy to please, Collban, and the very best of them can tad har sattefes Ue sont ina very tifertor man who honestly loves: ter and truly secka her lanpiness; but. as women give all for love, and wish the pitt a thousand times ae great, likewlse do they d epise the emotional sneak-thiel who would con. sanity receive love without giving anything at all iu raturn, Yeu ueed ery no meretes, Caliban; wo ong will ever find foutt with von for teny-ng a wom: an whotates vour absenre eo tranquilly, and T sincerely bone she may find a man before she is meh older who fe worthy of so tender ant gen- erous t heart ag, by your own showing, [a that of your unfortunate wife. And finalty, Caliban, [ belleve you were “born for tenderness” and that voir * bud ness in Hfe is to love,” antl that you are a vom. an Into the bargain, with sour “lumps? to your throat amt your mavaed dislike of contlizt, antl Hf vour Enctien was a little ateadior on its ping J should feul sure L knew your nine, T do trast, Raven fHalr, admteation and aesyalr of my sont! that you will try taray sumer hing dreadfully awtul to me, for you wil certainly brome ny gray Lnirs with rorrow to the grave If yon Keep on with sour yourkfal frieudiness, “The revret of my existence fe a love which elorifed the early “twenties” of my fHfe, and to have Sou quote that venerable votiglet, “Atways {0 court,’ {8 quite too wz. ‘Think of me, my dear etrl, a3 not 20 ich over 40, md with an oncestral tndi- extion of ut least forty sears more of life. Alwacs to court? Kind beaven forbid! What shail I court ten yeare lene, Twenty yeurs hence? Thirty re only be 70 then. My child. the prospect {shor rifle. Had P but married in suttable rerson,— Hf John Anderson, tiv jo, were not such a mad- ding mejudy to me,—ahf miverable woes of age and ne: ed opportunity! Plense tyv to bo hateful next time, Raven Halr, tu your too oft Forty Yrans, PENT AND PERTINENT, To the Eultor os The Tribune, Cnicaco, Aug. 22.—T would not trouble you avai go svon, but sympathy for pour Ralph iu- spires my heart and pen. Yet. much as I feet for bim, and while Tadmit bis troudie ls cenu- Ine, 1 fear Ecannot comfort him much. It must ‘he very convenient to marry a cheap servant, one Who will uot “give warning,” and leave at the mest inosportuna moment; but fs that the beat pussivte motive fur marrying? T presume Wt fofluenges more men to marry thun any other, “The way toa man's heart is through bia stomach.” A writer of some note once said: “Women ascire to turrlage, mer submit to tt? Probably this ta tracy a oman sald tt. and he oughe to kuow, White F admit tts trath, it strikes me on grent many men are anxious to submits bat, like Ratpli, most of them are peu dent enonsh to gecertin te time 1€ thelr heart's idol i3 sullicentiy, versed in ihe culnary art atleast tu make a liasty pudd'ns. Dut. alas! that Inst sgualtiled “No, never??? was the straw that broke the camels back, Are we to under. stind that Rulpo’s love died then and there. and that from that moment he wished for an eternal postounement of the Cay aud four tit be hod before looked forward tu as the happiest of his fet Well, verily a chanme came o'er the gaint ot tiydreum. ‘The question, tt seems to tur, ig this: Ts mnrringe a business contract or dogs It. deal ouily with the afeetions? As Tune derstand marriuge there $s uothing Jn ite Tawa, ebber human or divine, that requires a whe to worl ov any way to carn her own livin It fg tw husbani’s duty tu provide for hersupport. She ma. sit and fuld her iuvewbite tunis from morning til night evers day tn the weelt, Sun days not excepted, without tu any sense violut- lng the marriage contract. If sou appeal to divine authority you flud the curse of tad was pronounced on mon alone, Geuesiz, i, 16-17. Woman was not fucluded in that any inere than ehe tg in the Constitution of the United States and Deelaration of Independence, How many men would anerry wives who would not work {6 a question I¢uuvot answer, EstANcipatiu. HE MARRIED A HIGH-SCHOOL GIRL. Yo the Editor of The Tribune, Cntcaco, Aug, 11.1 would like to say a fow words to Yidd!e, in answer to her uote In The dtome of Aug. 9% : She complains of Bob's not giving the High- School girls sil the eredit they deserve, and claims that there were suime excellent cuoks In her clnes, I would like to know ff she would call this be- ing ‘fan excellent cool,” viz. : Using three-quarters of a pound of butter fn mauling a small mess of biscuits, when butter is 40 cents per pound, Couking half n peck of potatoes for supper, when a plot would be sufflelent. aking tour to six loaves of bread at ono time, When two would lost them a weer (leaving the bularco tu spoil), Buking two or three pounds of cake (part of it supgused to be sponge cake, but ts more ike mud) and having te throw two-thirds of it away and theo be obliged to buy baker's bread asd ple, because the home-made articies had soured from stautdimy so long, Now, Ville, this ig an examote of ono of rour Ufeh-Schoel cooks. What would a poor mando with auch 2 wife? -\ poor man must have a wile who cin cook well, und use some Judgmeut abont the same, T would Hie tu kqow how Yiddio would com- pare with the couk inentioned above, Or what her {dea ds of what a wite onght to be, Maybe she thinks that cooking Is a thing tobe read about and exsounded in school booits. T toink if Ralph Rackstraw were to take the od: Vice whieh she eves itn In the same note, the poor tellow would be miserable indeed, For what good isa wife who does not know auvening of coutny or housekeeping of any wladt le might ind for x companion sane young Iady who tad studled cnough about housekeen uy to ind out how to do the wasning without a washboard of a botler, or bow to make breud without kneading or wituout an oven. Suci a wife might do for some men, but they had butter count the custs before aneaie Es FREES SAD-FACED WOMEN, TUR CAUSE OF IT, To the Editor of Tue Tethune, Tascons, 1, Aug. 6,—Wo think T, A, Dalley decds answering, and cannot wait for hin (1) to say more in future, He tells ua why American women are sad aud tired; and hints tn he can aubstrntiate ly reasons with statlaticy; and promises to astuntsh the world with o lung Het of the names of women who have dicd In the attempt to uso their minds. It ls tobe pros sunied that bis list will Se much more conyine: {ug than that of Dr. Clarke, or that of Dr. Henry Mauusloy, For, notwithstunding the grave decision of these two M. 1a, that mentut culture {s death to wonian, and consequently to the human race, women haya not been frightened from any of the ecbools or colleges; but are even knocking at the doors of Jearuiug ant culture that are aul closed = against them. The sickly — sentimental cuses brought forward by Dr, Clarke and tia reasoning therefrom have been yyrurotialy answered aud Nomalished: by the author of “The Education of American Girts," and wo shall only at- tempt to reply to T. A. Daley, Atuerican mothera are sud and tired. It takes no discerning cye te ece thle; and from. ftlem comes n monn that is beginning ta dls turb the veacy of soclety, Tut discontent has tong been brewing; wo: have observed ft, and have geen thinking avout It, for some years, T. 3. Arthur wrote most of his books to at lay bis discontent, amt he has tad many ime itators among both men and women; and by this elisa of writers pages and paces have been written tu convince women of the un+ speukuble blessedness of rearing large fanulies under any and all circumatances,—poverty, righes, or ticither,—to conymee them of the anvelte peavefulnesa, ecstatic Joyfutness, of Ya crowded home-nest,’? @ awarin of little chil. dren with eo Hilo difference tn thelr ages that three of them at ieast are babes in ors; and their writings haye no doubt caused many women to iinmolate themsolves upou the sltur of marriuge, ‘T. 8, Arthur or any other writer alumg in his study in the cool of sound to rustling iy welta the morning, with no other disturb Ins reuse than the Of his bool-leaves or writamg-paner, 1 oF the delights of the “crowded | he for distance lends enchautmens to be sind cirhtes but the pave diet nietedt tier ner one babe at ber breaet, another paths at her downs wil a tlitrd, having fled trou a toot or chair crving and demanding her tmuediate bresetiee—if, by any chance at all, the vyer Mids tne to read that nuthor’s pou, weitten eat. cule for hers wilt be provoked into a cynie- tl, 1f net mebenant, emite, Amertean women look sad and tired beeause thes ara so, says TA, Dares, and the cause 4 “disupnomtinent and thehealth "sand the reas son tev are Usappornted mal have Hl healt 1 breatise they are made dolls of In thelr baby hood, und are sent to school fn thetr etrfhood atid ae inne acanys that he could devise n *y ten of traning that would give women strongth enotth to endura abl the extraordinary gard. shit stmposed upon them by the marringe bout aT nds h with a stant amite. Under the existiug state of eocicty, witn ita cnmbersome home pystem, marrage fmposes pon women hereutvan —taska; ond nottene but that desperate mo‘uer-strensth that enables her to kiss one sweet, simling babe and push It away, because she mnt make rvone iy her arms for another with more fmporiunate needs, can en- able ber to perform them; and, ff, struggling with her bates, to Kies them, sagt! teach, and guide them ppweatint tp the over the couk-ste the thiae nicals a days tugging weelly ab) the washing and fronite tolling over the sewhig-mnaciine; worrying ov. the demunds of society, foyshe must bare cor pany and appear la cumpany; anu, bestdes all thia, enduring the constaal undertone of erun Diitng trom her Isham because of * expenses,” seshe is too extravagant in the use a surar. coffee, tea, flue, dre goods, and so furthj—if, through all this, sheever smiles ab all, It is eurely the mournful, herole smile of martyr dota, Which is sad tu ser, And since, by ThA. Datley’s adiniostan, a fusb ind's Jove fs 4a ehal- Tow, composite article” unl cannot be any help to ber in sustaining her great burden of cure and duty, way lt not be well for her Unt she has the memory of a motinr's Iuve; may {t not even be well for her to remember, witha few tears, that are good for easing the heare, that in her babyhoud she was “dollyed.” kept clean and neat by on ing, tender ‘mother as overburdened ay herself, perhaps? Ab! ts tine thoteht that brings the tears. And may [t wut be well for ter that kind parents, dally ap- preciating the advantages of culiure and edu- cation, and living In tie nineteenth century, when most echeols are upon to tris as Well og hovs, --may It not be well for her that they sent ber to sebool in her girlhood, stnee marriage, by its burdensume aud absorbin dutles, pre vents the cult:vation of her mind aitogethert Her music and drawl she ts forced to remem ber a3 pastunes of her youth; her geography beevines for the moat part etale; her history dim; and what she learned of matheniaties [3 narrowed down to m: we chanze when sho gues shopping. It ts certainly very well diat In her youth she twas sent to school und learned rome of thet Hines,—che is nut, on that ae- count, in quite auch mental darktess as the Indian equa. “American wonten are sad and thed because they ore gv.’ Thus far we geree with Mr. T. A, Dailey; but tor Ute reat we are diametrically opposed to him. Amer- {ean Women sro dverworked, overburdened, to un alarming extent; and by Auterican women wedo not mean the few rich, the wives und daughters of the Stewarts am) Vanderbiitss or the few veey fortunate ones who by some happy chance enter not inte wedloelk at’ ai), but pass thelr lives in peacoful' single Dleseedness, By Atuerhan women we mean the Jarge middle class, the bone aud sinew of the land,—-the wives of mechanics, of gataried clerks, of iner- chants, und farmers) —thng3 are the moth rs of our racey and M. D."s, philosophers, and writers generally would do well te go out among then awd study thelr tyes--thelr duties, burdens, recreations, nul plensnrea,—before promulyat- Ing their opintonsas to the elite: competency, nnd oud-for-nothurnes fw general. They woula do well fo make thet eeives fully aware of the cruel amount of drudy. ery they perform and stilt bear the children that people the lind, and giter some sort rear them, ‘They wash, iron, cook,’ scruv, wash diphea, eburn, and sew. Some of them do the milking: most of them do uiir own wittewuuting, paperhanginz, und carpet-liting; and for the most of them the hot summer fs only a season of fruit<nuning; aud all tus Juvor inuat be perlormed mht along with ehild-Learing and nursing, Nearly all) these mo lurs are obliged ‘to. snend tla dr event round the Jamp, sewiny. Mazazines, vuoks, newspapers, are not for them, but for the male Tembers of the family, who, like intellcerual feuds, seat themselves ubout the table and rest. their elbows ag unconcerned that the women of the household must stuit be at work us were the masters in the South a Lew years azo, when, seated on thelr coul veruin'as, they watched the “ogeers” picking,.cottun: “Amante work is from suu to etn; a woman's work fs never done.” Whence coies the proverb? It grew out of the truth of things, ‘Thire is no picture of domestic ite, of the happy family, so coininon as that which represents the man lean due upon the fence or ngacust a post somewnere Watching the sports ef [8 children, or seated With bis feet ond head at the same altitude, absorbed in 6 book or paper, while the woman ts plying her needte, or busy amoung her pots und pans baking and stewing. We do not tink we have overstated thinge, and (f T, A. Dailey can bring forward “vol. uminous colleve statistics? to prove that the autempts made by women In the last half cent- urv toward inental (mprovoment ure the cause of go many endaverour-looking wives and wothere, we can bring forward equally votumi- nous home statistics to prove that they are over worked, that too great a requirement is made of thelr physical strength, ‘The muster docs. not require steady und constant labor of the brood mare, but that she mav thrive herself, and that her colt may be Une, she fs turned out Into the pasture to enjoy the most pertect physteal ease nit freedom; nelther doca be Yoko the cow with Che ox, but froin time jm- iuentorial, because of the yearly culf, she hus hwen treated to the most perfect freedom of clover flelde. Turn the mothers of the butman rave out into the pastures awhile, and see how soon they will pick up?” and cease to be and- looking. ‘titre should) = be no store physteal exertion required of thy mo.her than) such ons fg reereutive and des Lebttul. — Whatsoerer fs asked oof her tuore than this cruelty ta her und a derri- ment to the race, for force fised In one direction cannot be made available in another, wid what, power the mother has over and abvure what is required In child-bearing should be speut ind veloping her mental nature, Mothers baye minds as well as fathers. Dut T, A. Daitey would haya us thinle Umut botany, geulugy, zoulogy, mathematics, and go Suri are of we masculine genders fu fact, tint ull the beautiful reul of Knowl daze tut eo enchants the soul when once ft lias bad a glimpse thercln was ocly intended for the soul of **the wale" te wander and revel in, and 4a Infected with putson, dls- Gane, and slow but certain deur to“ the fe- male” ‘The efvilization of the nfgcteenth eens tury demands of the wite something more than to ‘pe the bowd slave of ber lisbind, Among the auclent Greeks this wus sulliglent, but tha world of mind and thowzhe has takea great on- ward etridcs since then, sud the true postion of the wife and mother bs beetguliie to be discerned, pot ay a cringing, wnorant slave at the feet of her bustand, ox tls companion, cultivated, relined, educated; aud the maths place, It fs beytnuing to be discerned, fg an important one to the | State amd tuo society, and should be Miled by imettzent, far- seeing, Hberalininded women; and that thevas wellas the fa hers, should have every advantage civilization affords to beeome Hberulizcd. But whut is cause for createst rejolcing is thitt women Vicmeclyes: ure deterinined to throw olf all alackles, to overcome all obstacles tn the of ther own most periect development; and fuving mothers realize and they are, becuse the diret. the most Important teachers of nuns Ylnd, and are resolved to tight fur co-cducation, aud tu force Usely way Into all the achvols and colleges. Avuin, we vay that soclety, as at present con- stituted, demonds too mua of women for its own good. Whatever beurs too hard upon any lags of guciety fs tujurious to the whol buvace hfe ai] burdens are borne by the w and we have not adyunced go far in our evilizas tion og tu cease to resemble our tomaate gue eestors, Bub wo diva in a transition state; women can no longer endure this over- straining of thelr powers, und ure resting them selves by trying new paths; in every direction they are persistently seeking tu fill places that have beretolore ‘been closed to them, und are, as ft were, sounding themselves, When Uhis transition statu is passed, and things huye gettled themeelyes agai, there will be no more sf about women getting out ol * thelr but there will pe culm upon the troubled waters, tor it: will be proyen that Wonon's sunere ts iu going whatever shu has the canuclty for dolme the best. Wo grant iat there ia a great deal of misrducution among girls, butisthisany the less truvaut boys! Jn all the behoole and colleges the curriculum is abont the saute for all kinds ot buys, and thy Love who, when they ara wien, ahoye the javk- plane, ride the harness-maker’s bench, break with the plow “the stubborn gicbe,” plead at thy bar, or “enter the ministry,—are all gub- mitted to much the same preparator, course of Giweloilue, Bome doubsit this ie tho beet way, hut we think it would) make narrow-minded inen it they were taught voting except what pertalng to their special trade oravecation; and, instead of equalizuys the bencilts, lite, aud fa~ vols of govlety, there would be wider gulfs thou ut present extst bocweeo mau and bis Drowher miuu. It fa uot enough tor men to ‘omen; kuow how to raise wheat, Neither fa ft enough for wamen to Urea. Taat the education uirls 1s nor titted 1 enthely above the ra of houte- Keepin alides, ayy ane who vielta one county dais imtat adult; and we advise Te A. Dalley fo go to the faire this fall, and thereby courinee iniselt that the entinary cdtication of atria ty, nut entirely vegtecreds Inthe enldren's de- partment at theee fairs the Mitte gisls male a very creditable exhibition of thetr sitll fu mak inu bread. ene, couktes, ples, Jolly, canning frait, and maine preserves, of thede sitll in needlework. babes work, and the Ane arts, ‘lhere are very few specimens of any kind of worit over shown there by buyal Girls in rerard, Vo thirkit. indaotry, usetulnves, or anytinns cise wlll conmpare pretry well with te bo #, comud- erg Mat go for the boys have atways bad the “best of it. From 6 to 18, waat are bose but A set of boisterous, iniachievous, rollicking, eare-(ree, little rascaist Shall we burden the same years of airs Ife by putting her ino worntts! harness, and making her pull a full tond? We do noc think thts would mend mat- ters, as we do hob think thists where the trouble Vea, Lucy Bxow, PALSE SYMPATUY. PRUZONAL EXPERIENCES. Ta the Liitor of The Tribune, Davexront, In, Aug. 10.—The inoat sensible subject Lhavea seen touched upon in a long time In ‘The Home colunins was the one beaded “Patse Sympathy.” ft fsasuolect that wit! perhaps open the eyes of many who ara throw: ing away their finest feelings ta adirectlon that will only bring’ back a harvest of discast when their eves are culichtencd to the fact that they ara “custing thelr parle befors awine!? These prodigats, these men with bloody hands, these aduterous ministers, these Molle McGuires of soclely Iangh in thelr eleeves ot the stuktly sentimentality expended on them. Ajax lays the burden of bane on women and ministers. Well, as far as wonten ure concerned, I nust “uwwn the soft impeuchment.’* But are not our futhers, husvande, unctea, and male coustus for ever ding-donging at 1s to he char- Stable {n our Judgment; to remember that “toerr fs human, to forgive divine : to consider every man fnnecent wuill ho {s proven curtty, ete? Now, ifwe ever do call a rascal by hls well- earned title, or denounce a wife-killer, they will gay, © Wait until sou ltnow his provoration; pberhaps he bad net a button on hits shirt, or the voffee was weal, or the “rarnal’? baby cried all night, or th Was on aflntty waiting for Mrs. De Trop tobe carved in, ns careless wives should be. Now, fa lt to be wondered at that women uuder such an education should rush off with ‘their beat pot of jeily, or their finest flumers and sweetest words of sympathy for these poor, aggravated men who, ita Bt of mental aberra- ton, did some deed for whieh the coid and cruel Jaw thought At to incarverate bim for? You must know that the beat develoned organ a woman bas {a heart. Jt will run away with ber good sense zome times, Tapenk trom experience, forin “tiny salad daya, when 7 was green in judgment,” Ldld some very silly things that now 1 blush for, Durlug the War, although every drop of blood I had was true tu the North avd the Love in plue who dtd co much for us, I imore than onee did foulish taings when a strealt of sentl- know bow ta baka of ment got the betier of m: Leiny out Ashing ous day near the cloee of the War, In close proximity ton campot Rebet oris- oper, some of whom were detaticd tu do works ontside the barracks, severad caine up to us to ave our string of fish, the white casting longing ¢ es atour lunch, One vie lout. with an air uf great humility, naked: Mister, would you unnd giving @ poor, finery feller 0 mess of Men thera tale? For a reply, my very patriotic busband called a guard diessed in blue aid told him to take the fish and cook them far supper, Grav Cont, nothing daunted, took ano'lnr tack. Seemy a milk-tragon comme: Would we vet hie adriuk of milky be bad not had any since he same North.’ Another cruel No” from my worse half roused all mysmmpathy, “Oh, doy maybe the poor man fa buvgre.? Toepeed. He touk the cue, and, seelny Twos soft, beran to tell how badly they far “Never tasted meat; had to catei rate for the ste ones to make soup.” dust then great wazons loaded with frosh beef, nnd others with the best of white bread fresh from the bokera, entered the eamp. Avaln iny worse balf sald tat looked like star vation. ‘Stil I fete that thls poor vmsoner must not be sent empty away. f£ could nut Givide my dinner; it was all gone by this time, and my own peckerbouk was at home. 1 had only a fue large orange left. I thourht of the poor sufferers fn the hospital driuking rat tea, so Losked wy hero if ho would pot tke the orange and give tt to a sick man far me, Yes matnn, I will that,” and olf be started, and jnst as he passed the cuard he turned round with o leer Eshall never torget, und sald: Well, mum, Ereckon fam about os sick o man os any on therm," and sunk bis great teeth tuto my de- lictous orange. Udit not even then cut my wisdom tecth. Soon atter that [boarded where a very Interest- ing young woman also imade her temporary home. | { suw ehe was in deep ariel, aud soon tvarned she was bere te Ue near her new-mude busbind, who was inegreerated: for the erime of murder, Dally she visited him, and after a trhito L went with her and found myself deeply pitying this handsome young man, When his wile stopped to buy hm fruit or other daintiea, too invested for the benefit of his deheate stumach, und before I at all realized what J was doluz found my heart full ofeympathy for thts cold-biooued murderer of bis “own consin, He grew so pale, and his shapely binds looked go white, [realy thought ita burning shame that he was vot fet out to board with his wife until his trial came off, Wacn it did occur, and 1 read the evidence of how he, ona Western trip, deliberately, fur the enke of a few dollars and the hurges aint wagon they drove, nothing more, murdered a mere boy, the only sun of hia another, disserted tis head and carried ita quarter of a nile with those sninu clean, white hands Thad go often touched when he offered them through the vars of nla cell, and ralled a hieayy tog on that dead boy's Ince xo that tt might be marred post recognition ff ever found, ns {2 wag, in a + onder- ful siato of preservation months alterward, 1 shuddered at the thougtt of how had elven hint wht and encouravement, even for pis wife's sate, Justice was dealt out tu bin, and, although ten years have past, he has ctill n long term in whieh to harden bis hindgome hinds to lator by which he ts in no wise benetited. Ajax must kvow we do thise things on the {mptlse of the inument, not for the sake of aiding or ubetth wrong or wrong-doers. For iniifaters, the beat plea £ can muky ig that they ire suppose to be employed on the side of Wuerev; therefore try to cover even the direst dueds with the muntte of charity, remembering tw dujunetion, “Be vo merciul even ay your Father lu Heaven fs mercial” Yon say, “Men, ng a rute, do what ever wonten ank of them.’ O for shame; you kuow better! Jluw many drunkards wonld there ba Af they did what thetr wives, sleturs, ur moihers: asked: them? ‘The wi of women fs not 60 powerful a ever in Foclety na you reem to think, elas there would be leas wrong ta be rignted than there {6 to-dey; sha would go Irom garret to collar of society nid make snel A cleaniue-aue as never Was before, ‘The dis- tlleres and nll a:ber Licensed honges of wrong: doing would be swept out of existence, ‘tue millenium Jadtes nay have ital) thelr own ways but nut these nincteenth-century women MOE. W. SOM GIGANTIC SENTENCES, To the Lattor of The Titbune, Cincaco, Aug, 21—1 simply want to thank Ajus, whugo letter on False Synpathy'? ape peared in The Home of Aug, 30, for the teare tesenese and spirit of trath ane justion In water he treated nfs subject, and to heartily indore most If not all that he saysos being so well put ag to strike ull thought{ol readers with the trath of bla argument, and the substantial foundation therefor. . Though L think one or two flustratlons eome- what overdrawn, still, tu the main, he fs right, and has Wit Ue nal Rquarely on the hend, ant Without regard tu the conseanences; and the Judgment of the eo-colled popular tatnd, sure to overtake him, has driven it home. Lam glad avme one bas dared to expose tla cide of social Mite, and thus declara himself tts expunent, though from o disinterested standpuint which places him above criticisin, and not as ane spent {ig from the ranks of the class he denominates aa “pevelvinig as the reward of suciety te repus tation of being slow, stupid, aml dull,” or “vommonplace ™, aud, though not clalaiug to possess ull the ‘characteristics of the clasa in avestion, 1 um untortuegtesy the possessor of one or more, enough to enable me te real ize the truth of his srzument, umd appr elute bis Inudable effort and purpusa in penuing dls able letter, Adinithne, then, thls apathy on the part of society (and young fudies in pariteitar, in whose society 8 young tan seeks enjoyment und die Version, a fricud und pervaps a wife), and Jack of encouragement in the direction wh it [sat leust most needed und would bo perhaps best appreciated, whut is to chvourage a youuy ‘mon {na coursu uf morel rectitude, seli-respect, anudin dignity of character, if, by means of these und posatply ‘a naturally acquired slow- nese, stupitity, dulinesa, or matter-of-fact-niss, be w nractleuily by dezresa frozen out from the ears — ee foclety he craves, and paseed by ng thongh a mere txture, wheag exttenca amd presence ta niatrer ot course, but further unworthy the Notice on, of all thinas, the friendship and eecouragcanent of aus oped Th there aro any who supposo vonng men answering this description are hat bunian, and do not nee eneauragenent and the eunobiting fntluences of tortety and triendahip as well as tuoso of the more ‘brilliant and povtlar sore, hut rather that they are a sort of machine, a selt-teeder, automatic in tte netion, nad requiring no attention whatever, and thie partly bevause rimuiau at se low 0 oressure, (totally obliv.oue to the toes that even sttel nas clnnes need an ocensional ailing, become rusty, wl iiay ray off che track Iftt da rough. une even, aint dark, and Gina become a wreck)—tt there are any who think this (ind it would keen to be the only plausible exolaaation of the phe- homenon of false aympathy, or ihe most plausl> ble one), can telf them they are tlatakens and, eo long as this wate of society extats, Just so long will it have a downward moral tendency, so far at least ag influenced at ali by te elasa Ajux ting deseribeds for if this eloss bna any mieral Influence at present. on society it will In thing fail to azt, or at least to have any effect, —not se much beeauss dead or powerless ue because of the fnerease mud tinal enthrongment of immorality and injustice, (0 not vice, through the medium of false sympathy, thus making the obstacles to any moral ine fluence this claze may exert In nud on Rociety Ine eurmountable, and its growth Impossible, TUL EDUCATION OF GIRLS, ONGINAL ViRWa, To the Luitor of ‘The Tribune, Ciicago, Au. 10,—A Indy asks I'he Homo to ald her with hints ou the education of her daughters, 1 know exactly nothing on this Im- portant subject, and au therefore suet ina cons dition to give good nuyice. If the writer bad three girls to educate, he would, Topsy-lice, alluw them to “Jest crow up? Girls are Hke house-plants: the more care you take the more they droop. Somme ladles raisu the ono or the other tu perfection, but can never tell tts how they do tt. A home education for girls T think the best, even to the study of the abstruse selencea. A father or mother who will have thelr daughters read to them from 4 favorite author,-not nga tasli, but asa labor of love,— and tale on toptes thus sugmcsted, will accum- viish nore In the way of truly cancating them than can ever be done by the college cramming process. 1 would havo an girl study the Hyves of those women who lave Leen original thinkers; who buve added something to the store of human kuowledee; who bave raised the plane of human conduct, aud aspiration, und utiaine ment. OF moat children {t might folrly bo satd that oue-half of their school days is time thrown away. ‘Fhis fq espectally trac of girls, A girl gous to schoo) ten years; hilt tht time fa even, to studies which she is incapable of anderstand- ing, und which se pursues without enthiusinsm. One isa dunee in mathematics, to whieh she sticks, in spite of the fact Ut she might have excelled in chemistry. Grammar fs a dead let- ter bo must students titl they conte to constrict sentences in nt torelen laacunce, It te then better to count education a3 having 9 general purpose; that the languazea strengthen the wenlory, and the matherathes develop the reasoning favulty, Way study mutate it one ts not moyed by the concord of sweet. sounds why drawing, ff one has no idea of forms or tainting, fone cannot perceive the harmony of colors? But these ure only arnamental— only accomphehments, “The” average . girl must be tralued {0 hogschold duties. A woutan is naturally domestic; edueate her out of this sphere unc ehe wilt tall into ft neain at the flrac opportunity. Vein) might proiliably learn c Combine enough of the uselul to her on that she may be able to make a Hvis afterwards, Try to eaucute fu the direetton of her genius; sini, if you miss it, reflect that some are born successful, somo achieva success, iid others nave success thrust upon then. I know an honest inaker of ehoes who never succecded fnimak nga shoe fit, while the, musw which serves bim as arcercation hints In shat direc tion lay the road te possibte distinetion, There is nu tmpresston that an education should consist of facts,—committing tacts to memory. Iu the common branches, apeiling, tug example, or the constructlon of Inzane, orinurittinetic and a few tninor parts that one must know to mect bis dally needs, this {s true; but an education to most peopic ineans something. ture than this, though the runge of knowlege need not de urcat. ‘There ore vot, perhaps, a dozen physlelans in the world who Know all about physiology; uot ono but Koows its general principles and enough of its minutie for lus daily use, It one has a taste ua varticular direction it ought to be culuyated, I knawo sonny lady whostudied German at 14, und at 20 Was tranalating foreign authors for American pudlisuers. Hers was essentially a home education. With common niuds success Ia only attainable by perfection within a Umited sphere, and that often not an ambo.tions one. ‘The merchant who, by his hapyy urt, makes a plillosupher buy a piece ot sill that he dues nos want, is the buyer's sitoe ror whihin thie narrow cireic, Ocevastonally one fs found who speaks several langusges ae curately; the majorityaven of educated per- sons stumble in their mocher tongue, ‘the most learned fail to accomplish all knowledge, ‘There were depths of reason that Newton did not lathout, remote parts of the cosmos that Humboldt nad not searched out, star depths of whieh Herschel knew nothing; yet these men. were marvelously equipped with all gcholariy aide and appliances; were the most aceum- plished of scholurs, iF ACROSS TOE LAKE. PMULOSOPNY FROM MICHIGAN. To the Edilor of The Tritunes Mvskecoy, Mich, Aug. 12—Well, Forty Years, 1 bave survived your Jotter aud am able to wleld my pen this morning, though stfll faint and somewhut brulsed by ihe Inte encounter, If Lkeup on improving f think Lanall be able to endure another attack by the last of the weels if you come down light. Propabty Lowe my aur- vival to the fact that I was not uble to read what was writton between the lines, It it would make even vou shudder, what effect. would it have on inet T would deliso erltic for you, but the Con- ductor insight object to making a dietfonnry of ‘Tho Home, and very Wkely you can borraw one somewhere, or, perhace, they have a publle libra- ry tu'the Valley City woere you can go and con sult ono at your lelsures you would then have the benefit of all the detlaitions und explunay Mons, Yon will fod the word in question on sae S14 of Webster's Unabridged, Now, if that ig satisfactory to vot, 1 wish you would be 80 Kind ag to tell me what | do believe, don't dare take any more nsgertiona for fear they will not be trac, If you koow imv,better than L know myeett, I think you aught to tell mo what sort of n creature Lam. I somehow got the idea frou your furmnee letter that you think me o cold-hearted, prim, eelf-coucelted little wretch, und yon cailed moconservative, wud all that, and how In yourletter you tnsinunte that [talk sensts Diy, and am consequently woverned by my atfees tons. Truly, * consistency, tha arta jewel," und thy nune Forty Years. 0 yerily believe You want to make up, avd you meaut that lest aganice ttle piece of flattery; but 1 dtd not ewatlow its L shalt uever forgive you for calling. me conservative, Tf vou take more pleasure in theory than in proctical knowledue, way de you find tanlt with mie about my theeriest If you take more viensure tn beloving a3 you donbout love, why Thave no objection eo tung as you allow others to believe as they please. In hiscening to 4 co: Yersation betweck two piriiva, one a denizen of the city, the other of the country, relabye tothe anerits of country Ife, a dts.nierested hearer would ghe the urcutest Weight to the state ments of the countryman; though tn respect to a knowledge of other clings he might be tne Jecior to the townetmnan And su th other {hings, whether we eeek for inturmution or whether it be thrust upon us, we generally pre: fer practical knowledgu tu mere Unory, we do not care for the truth, and so preter to believe that which sousds pleagantest to our cure, Jiwas reading the other day that. children were always ridiculing cach attr, not because ‘One Wis Wiser than the other, but Just us a cover for their own Ignorance 3 No analogy titenided. i amused at tiv heading the Conductor ur iirst lotter—of the Iast: series, of You found several heaas to hit, wnt you bit ugaln, ‘This Ittle sting und edifying: iy = cuureu, becnave they bit back, 3 by-p ay inns be highly five to the‘othera, You will nut be offented, will vou, ff 1 just BuLeust that you hud pettes peactles what vou preach? You tell Maud Mereditts that. “it's nuuynty to beep yuluable intormation to her- seit, aad then ie the vext breath tuthmate tut you know why American women louk sud, and y uy wu do bot telius. Won't you please tell us, Ih your next letter; please du, now? Forty Yeurs. 1 read something beeween the Mies to your leyer, right whe you were talking to Haven Hair, who was "too wuch jor yor in wo tair tiybt, und sou know it, and” go pou akulk behind o fence ana (brow slicks at t dt was whera you told ber that she looked eat nuthin, and forward ut votuing, cud then you sald vou feared the oll man wandered: {twas then, nut flauehed when Dread it, bat [ will nor dare tell you whatit: wus. Te was an old proverd, aud ft eae out ro vlainty oa ty Leimied page before tie; but Eco not bene: vou wrote it there, anu I do not believe U did. Who wdt Eerex, hadn't you, too, better practlee what. you preach You tell the Dubuque: fleteling, as voncall her. that personalities tn print aboutd be nvolded,” and then vou tell her to “bombard the arguments of her apponenrs, hit nor the pers ne thei? ned then you aud, © Such expressions uf coarseness can, ouly be born of Wetenper and general Want of ctliure.” Even bu, Mesex, BK THE COMMON COMPLAIN A PANTY WHO KNOWS IT ALL. To the Baitor of The Tribune, Cmicano, Aug. 11— And yet the userulnesg and pleosure of ‘The Hume ts not yunished or exhausted.” Such was my mental remark ofter naving read over the niany well-vritten and instructive articles to The Home of last weeks It'seems to meas if this department ts. and ean bo made, au excellent thing, I have watened tt since its inception, nud tiave sometimes felt that tt was Suite decadence, Eup sued an tutelleetual and practical exposition of Hite. and the princtpal subjects of discussion, leads me to believe that the usefulness aud Lenelit of this department, may be tucreased rather than diminished. f have noliced that when thre fs a subject of feneral interest or vital importance there is a Moud of able and witcry writers to respond. ‘The great trouble in ‘The Nome, a3 tu general con. versation, isto get some topie of general or mutual tuterest to tutk about. A very stupid person mav be able to talk very alibly and pto- fictently upon some one subject to which Nis nt Vention or experience has been spectally called, Atlowing onu stupid ony to every buudred bri fant unes, we inuat collect much wisduin an experience, Aud what the sorld needs f« human expe. <tlence. Nations want the history and experience of other nations do guide them in their course of actlon, and individuals certainty uced the ex. nerlewe snd oniniona of others to gulde them in commnon, every-day hfe. ‘The Pome of The TRinuse may be made a perieet encyelopedla of fuuan wisdow. Tt may brim to thy tn-ounisti+ sated abd inexperienced malyldial the jatest ¢ perences niu cunchusions, fresh from the tlds of human life. I is not enough to read law or literature to. know ol all that exists, «It is neeersmty tu read, human cx) erience, to ponder aver ether peor ple’s views, to rend the tnouzhts and teellugs that hive animated other minds, to find what thefr deductions were or are, to place thelr cons elustons alongeide of our own, to conipare, to 20, tnd ttnally to deduce tat uew or mod ouinion whiea ean be formed Jrom the ¢: it nce of all. ‘The tite asbizle individu; is not Ione enouch to exp re, 10 vumipare, aud to batanee any one of the great questions of te jaalt of its bearings. Couseqnently the sum ot human knowledue and experience is ine Nnitely better Lo solve any uf the problems of Ife than the erratic or isolated opinton of o ingle individuals And tor the discussion of the practleal and eccentric provlems of ‘i.e The Home can be inodg an excellent medium. tts colutits should be oven to all, La daly way tts ureutest sroud inay be asconmlished. “the man. avement of The Home was eeneraily been Hie eral although some anbjeets have been pro- serbed, perhaps wisely. ‘There ty vue cnaracter ‘te of afew, and a very few, of the contribttiors 10 Lay Howie, aud mat fs wnloterance of anucher’s opimfog, Human iIshness and egotisan are tot yet dead in sume persons, alihuuch in people of broader euluore aud more exuended yews such charac teristics do vot crop utit 60 bruminuntiy. Itas plengant to mivet with persona in Hie who can tolerate your oplmions, however widely those oplmons may difer trom taeir own. In tact it ig pleasant to meer that cufture and kindness of heart Unit eau consider a human bene mura valuable than an epinion. One opinion inay bo as Valuable us the Osher, or bot may bu warts lesa. And “at tiay not be {nappropriate udyice to ail woo write to ‘the Lume tu treat the oain- lane of others with the same respudt thas you demre your own upinions to be created. When ire fs muttul courtesy shown thre will’ be mutual respect.” lt ta a very belittled und contracted mind that bas not room for more than one idea on the same subject otatime. ‘the philusopler con sults ail, considers ull, and offeuls none. ‘The egoutist howls his own opinion, shuts alg cars to the voive of olherg, and flies into-# passion if he dovs happen to hear nnything contrary to his views. Wisuom is not deduced by blatant ezotisim, but by careful consideration und tolere unce of other people's views. Essex. THAT TIRED MAN. REMEDIES SUGGESTED, To the Editor of The Tribune, Soutm Evanston, Aug, 20,.—I have ardently desired for somo time to address a lettcr to The Home, and have at Inst become coursgcont enough todogo, If, however, Ishould be un- fortunate enough to discover It had helped fill the waste-busket, should Indeed be inconsola- ble. Of courec all advice I can give on any eub- Ject will be invaluable, and, therefore, I hope that, Jor the good of human beinus tn ceveral, nud tired mon in particular, my letter will bo published. It fe absolutely astounding that, in this day and geveration, any man should arrive at the conclusion that he really amuunts to nothing, and almost hates Lilmself. expect it is a sign that the gentlemen are coming to their senses and a realization of their truu position, It ts nmnusing to hear of such @ case os the ona de- scribed tn last Saturday's Trinuxz. 1 do net wonder he nearly hates one who ts selfish and mean,” and who devotes all his timo and attens tlon to pleasing sel, Ifa not strange etther that he bas lost Is ambition, Tow can ho eot- tte down to euch a dull tte, that of baying nothing to do, or look forward to, when se many human bi are busy all around hin? For shame} ta make such “a conlession,. Young, rich, and talented, und nothimg to live for, Cane uot he tind eome vie he can take plearure in working wid tiving for? If be has no sather, mother, alster, or brother who uceds ils asslst> ance, uid nowlie ta “Jove, chersa, uu. pro- tect," look up some one who needs a belong Wd, al give it with aright good will [t 13 val enourh fora woman to yield to despair when she {3 left alone ta battle with the world, and having, perlians, three or four Itthy ones to feed am) close, but for a man, especially one who [a tn the uosition your fricud 13 iu, it 1s almost tov ausurdiur belief, In he has grown 80 Lired traveling apont Ue country ory ine te enjoy asself, and aitendage balls, operas, — et tic, RIDOSO you udviso hin tu dvop them and attend churel tor auvhile, with a prasersncobing thrown) fia uow anda be wavol change. And it he has vo object In lite now, he may get a fe 18 What will et him to thinklns, din, perbaps, workinete Heo might easily tid same poor, newtectsa Lov, Welothe und educate tit, aud, Lerhaps, ko nivel be cducating our future’ President, (in That case Eslicerely hope he joo stavch Repub Hean) leould stugesta dozen cufereot things for bim todo whlch would give lim ato object foie One maght te to get amarried, and bis desire for forelen travel mteht, perlnos, retarn with greut pow “ube mdy.ed. to spend au ev tthe ciao or opera, and be Rorry when it wns over, 4 How thorouztly seltizh be must bat J pity while Dinngh at bin, Poor mnnt tired of dos ng nothing! Perhaps some secret sorrow Is the cause of bis Unrest, aml ruins his prospects of future happingss; if such iv the cose, he mst endeavor to lighten his awn sorrow by alleviate jog the sorrows of others, If hw obtains any relief frum the advice tiven bunia ‘The Home, do jet us knot 1 om very anxfons gbont the inatter, 11 he would bevome g flume Mission ary for awhile, ail visit the abodes 0! (he wretched poor, and witnera the sufe fering and poverty Ukeredisplaved, I veheve he would ussive ot the couciusion that Tiere was something worse than traveling all over the habitable ¢lobe and having ol} the peusures of fife within nls gracp. Lb hope the Rentleman whi soon recover from thie strange tialady, for it weuid be sad indeed if he wero tu pluc away und distor the waut of emplos- Ment or atnusement, 1 tor one wauld be pleased to Iearn how to cau grapes, Monning Gon. GRAMMAR SCHOOL, CONDUCTED MY AUNT HELEN, To the Ualltor of ‘The Trivune, Wiraneton, W, Aug. 18." Tf the garment fits, edjust at to the ahoulders,” reada the Span- ish proverb, of, in plain English, “If the coat its, putitau.! ‘Therefore have I donned the garment fashioned by Forty Yeare, and tt tte snusly, 1f vot artistically, My only apology for tnterlarding my sen- tuncos With au occasional French phrase ta, that having been accustumed iu carly bife to hearing and speaking that lanruuve quiteus eenerally as iy own vernnenlor, thoughts frequently drlts through my wind clothed fn French garb, und when] hesitate for the clear rendering of on idea the French word drupa froin my lps or olf the point of my pen lovoluntarily. Wall Forty Yours write o communication to